Should I be angry with him?

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Tonight I signed onto MSN like normal after a tough evening at work expecting to talk to my boyfriend of 10 months. However he wasn't on instead I had an email saying that he wasn't going to be online tonight becuase he has gone to the pub with his best mate, also one of my close mates, for a quiet lads night out. I was cool with this as our mate hasn't been too happy of late + so I thought nothing of it.
However I need to go into the same town where he has gone out tomorrow + normally he will stay at his mums if he has been out which is in the town and so I thought that I could meet him there. So I rang his mobile, we hadnt been talking long when I heard the voice of my best mate, a girl, so I asked if she was there and he said yes and that she was out with them and that it had been arranged that she was coming too.
I couldn't believe it this was meant to be a quiet night out just him and his mate and yet others were there includin my best mate. And then I heard someone shout hey and their names. So I said that this was not my idea of a quiet night out just them 2. My boyfriend then said that he didn't bother to ask me cus I was at work! He knew about going out over an hour before I needed to be at work + I could of gone over after I had finished if I had known about it but he didnt even bother to tell me.
What really upset me is that when I asked why we hadnt all gone out together on a night I could do I was told yea well so and so was busy all last week. I couldn't believe it I mean I was busy tonight but that didn't stop them.

This was about an hour and a half ago and I dunno if I should be as mad with him as I feel. I feel so left out as they have all gone out + I'm stuck at home having had to go to work of which I am the only of them that does.
Please tell me if I am right to be like this.

Bekki

Reply 1

gas_panic!

12

I'm not suprised your pissed. I would be too!

Reply 2

sidekick

12

I'd be exactly the same - there are few things more hurtful than being deliberately left out of things (I know from experience lol), especially by people closest to you - i.e. best friend and boyfriend!! It shows inconsideration for your feelings on a basic level, even if it might seem like a trivial thing, the feeling behind it isn't great. Unless your boyf is generally a bit vague lol!

Make sure he knows how much this has upset you, because only then will he understand.

Reply 3

qwerty_st/n

11

yeah i would be pissed off an all, your well within your rights to be annoyed with him, but also with ur other mates cos you just dont do that its so rude!!

Reply 4

Icy Ghost

2

It's totally understandable why you're feeling like this. I think though it's one of those things that you should leave first time, and if it happens again, you should speak with your boyfriend seriously about it, because it's just unfair of him, but I'd just let it rest this time.

Reply 5

SexyKe

1

Stuff like that used to happen to me and i would get so wound up but now iv realised its not worth it; me and my boyf actually have a better night out when we dont go out together; i like clubbing n dancing n he likes sitting drinking. Just think of it as time to yourself, dont get stressed about it.

Reply 6

Little Girl Red

1

I think you're completely right to be upset - it hurts to be deliberately left out of things. You should explain to him exactly why you are upset, but make sure you do it when you have calmed down a bit - otherwise you will come across a bit hysterical.
If you ask me, he should have realised that you would be upset and invited you - its common courtesy.

Reply 7

Zerforax

21

Just do it back to them - dont invite your best friend once, and dont invite your BF once, if they bitch - slap them or throw this time in their face :smile:

Reply 8

*~BEKKI~*

OP

1

I told him how hurt I felt over it but he felt I was making a big deal of it saying that he didnt think I would be able to get out. But I mean even if I couldn't it would have been nice to have asked me. As it is half term I havent seen any of my mates for over a week and so its hurtful to think of them all out havin fun while I'm sat here.
The horrible thing is my best mate said did I wanna go out shopping with her in the nearest city I said to my bf that I could go tomorrow but he said to me not to as he wanted to come and see my mate as well and come along but he had band practise so I put it off for him and yet he has gone out without me! Incidently the band practise is now cancelled one of them has got to go into work instead.

Bekki

Reply 9

*~BEKKI~*

OP

1

I doubt they would have a party for me it was my birthday last week lol

I just feel hurt over it all u would have thought that one of them would have felt it mean to leave me out. I know that I would have felt like that, I know its different for them because none of them work and it pisses me off as they don't have that problem.

Bekki

Reply 10

viviki

14

I would be as mad as a hatter about it.

Reply 11

*~BEKKI~*

OP

1

No I wouldn't do it back as that would just be petty.
I'm gunna meet him tomorrow in town so I will talk to him about it then. It sucks to think that now he would be falling out the pub having a laugh with everyone, I feel really crap about it which I know is silly but I can't help it, just seems unfair that we couldn't go out last week as they were busy but tonight they could go out even though I had to work.

Bekki

Reply 12

*~BEKKI~*

OP

1

lol sounds like it would cheer me up.

I just feel kinda crap I mean he hasnt even sent me a txt or anything, u wud fink he wud see how I was now I mean I hung up on him ater telling him to have fun without me. I dunno I just worry that he has some other motive for doing this.

Bekki

Reply 13

iceman_jondoe

18

minors

Reply 14

*~BEKKI~*

OP

1

iceman_jondoe

minors

excuse me?

Reply 15

miss_buttercup

bless, thats wel harsh of them. be really honst and tell them how u feel honestly i would feel welll annoyed to - they shud have more respect for u then that xx

Reply 16

SuperhansFavouriteAlsatian

With all due respect, if you were my girlfriend, i'd want you to chill the f**k out. Ok, so there were what? Four of them in a pub? The most you can do in a pub is sit round a table, have a game of darts or play some pool. With four of you, it's not exactly a rowdy night of clubbing and extasy. You were at work - if he invited you, wouldn't it be kind of a piss take? He knew you couldn't go.

If i told my girlfriend that i'd gone for a quiet drink with a friend while she was at work, then she phoned me up and started demanding to know who i was with, why she wasn't invited, i'd feel kind of smothered.

Reply 17

*~BEKKI~*

OP

1

I can see your point dan but I heard other people shouting their names to them, there was obviously more than 3/4 of them there, I'm not trying to smother him or demand to know who he was with and what he was doing. I just feel left out by them all, its not that he is out at the pub its that I wasn't even thought of to go along, it seems that the usual pub gang is out except me. It was also that I was lied to as I was told it was a quiet drink just him + his best mate.

bekki

Reply 18

MNBStyle

9

*~BEKKI~*

Tonight I signed onto MSN like normal after a tough evening at work expecting to talk to my boyfriend of 10 months. However he wasn't on instead I had an email saying that he wasn't going to be online tonight becuase he has gone to the pub with his best mate, also one of my close mates, for a quiet lads night out. I was cool with this as our mate hasn't been too happy of late + so I thought nothing of it.
However I need to go into the same town where he has gone out tomorrow + normally he will stay at his mums if he has been out which is in the town and so I thought that I could meet him there. So I rang his mobile, we hadnt been talking long when I heard the voice of my best mate, a girl, so I asked if she was there and he said yes and that she was out with them and that it had been arranged that she was coming too.
I couldn't believe it this was meant to be a quiet night out just him and his mate and yet others were there includin my best mate. And then I heard someone shout hey and their names. So I said that this was not my idea of a quiet night out just them 2. My boyfriend then said that he didn't bother to ask me cus I was at work! He knew about going out over an hour before I needed to be at work + I could of gone over after I had finished if I had known about it but he didnt even bother to tell me.
What really upset me is that when I asked why we hadnt all gone out together on a night I could do I was told yea well so and so was busy all last week. I couldn't believe it I mean I was busy tonight but that didn't stop them.

This was about an hour and a half ago and I dunno if I should be as mad with him as I feel. I feel so left out as they have all gone out + I'm stuck at home having had to go to work of which I am the only of them that does.
Please tell me if I am right to be like this.

Bekki

Yes you have every right to be pissed off with him.
He shouldn't of lied about who was going and atleast invited you to come along after work even if it meant mentioning it in the email.
Atleast then if you had decided not to go there wouldn't be a problem

Reply 19

devilgirl999

1

twist his bleeding balls he deserves it grrr ill do it if ya want little sh*t doesnt deserve a girl like you sorry rant over

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