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Would you ever date somebody with a disability?

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I wouldn't date anyone who was blind, deaf, in a wheelchair, had bad speech problems (stutter is fine), paralysed in a limb (being paralysed in one arm with the arm still there would be acceptable) or had an amputated limb. Call me shallow but I just wouldn't. How about you?

I just want a normal relationship and do normal things in the normal way. I don't want to be pushing around someone's wheelchair or having to write things down for them to read because they can't hear it. I don't want to have to push my boyfriend's wheelchair onto the train or not go somewhere I want to go with them because they can't because of their disability, or not be able to live my life with them the way I want to because they physically can't. I don't want to suspend my life to have to help somebody with the very basics of theirs like walking, talking or seeing.

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Reply 1

superman!

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Original post

by Cinqueta

I wouldn't date anyone who was blind, deaf, in a wheelchair, had bad speech problems, paralysed in a limb (being paralysed in one arm with the arm still there would be acceptable) or had an amputated limb. Call me shallow but I just wouldn't. How about you?

when you say speech problems do you mean like a stutter?

Reply 2

Willum Infanta

Original post

by Cinqueta

I wouldn't date anyone who was blind, deaf, in a wheelchair, had bad speech problems, paralysed in a limb (being paralysed in one arm with the arm still there would be acceptable) or had an amputated limb. Call me shallow but I just wouldn't. How about you?

I'm a carer for my disabled mum (Fibromyalgia so it's sometimes really bad or sometimes fine)

And honestly, I know it may sound shallow but I just wouldn't want to date someone in the same position as my mum.

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by superman!

when you say speech problems do you mean like a stutter?

For something minor like a stutter I really wouldn't mind though

Reply 3

Cinqueta

OP

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Original post

by superman!

when you say speech problems do you mean like a stutter?

A stutter would be fine. By speech problems I mean either a complete mute or somebody who can barely speak or when they speak they have to shout distorted words.

Reply 4

Psyk

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I don't think I would turn someone down because they were disabled (well, for all the disabilities mentioned in the OP), but I don't know if the relationship would work out.

Reply 5

Cinqueta

OP

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Anyone else?

Reply 6

TheSownRose

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Oh, I'm ****ing screwed if most people agree with you. :frown:

Reply 7

435540

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Original post

by Cinqueta

I wouldn't date anyone who was blind, deaf, in a wheelchair, had bad speech problems (stutter is fine), paralysed in a limb (being paralysed in one arm with the arm still there would be acceptable) or had an amputated limb. Call me shallow but I just wouldn't. How about you?

I am semi-deaf, (and might soon need a hearing aid) - Ive never had a girlfriend. :frown:

Reply 8

shorty.loves.angels

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I think if the relationship could work then it wouldn't matter to me if they had a disability. For example this bloke who lives nearby is almost completely blind but can still recognise people by the sound of their voice, still does almost everything for himself, still went to uni and can make his way up and down the country on public transport. He's lovely and could certainly hold together a relationship. So yeh I think in a lot of cases I'd be happy to.

Reply 9

rogreg8

im going deaf, cant hear **** on the phone, but then its a **** phone.

Reply 10

Lightyear

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Well I go out with a ginger...does that count?

Reply 11

GottaLovePhysics! :)

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Original post

by TheSownRose

Oh, I'm ****ing screwed if most people agree with you. :frown:

Well their not. Whats your disability?

Reply 12

nahm sayn?

Original post

by Cinqueta

I wouldn't date anyone who was blind, deaf, in a wheelchair, had bad speech problems (stutter is fine), paralysed in a limb (being paralysed in one arm with the arm still there would be acceptable) or had an amputated limb. Call me shallow but I just wouldn't. How about you?

not a problem to be like this, there's enough people in the world, and you live one life, why opt for a disabled person if you don't want to.

would you stay with a partner of at least 2 years.. if they became disabled during the time you were together?

Reply 13

jondes

it completely changes a relationship but if you got to know the person you look past it and it doesnt matter anymore

Reply 14

dalo

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by Lightyear

Well I go out with a ginger...does that count?

lol

and yes I did. it was years ago but I still love her very much, thing just didn't work out

Reply 15

Blueflare

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If it were a major disability like being paralysed from the waist down, or blindness, no, I don't think I would.

Reply 16

im so academic

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God there's another picture similar to this but I can't find it...

Reply 17

Cinqueta

OP

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Original post

by nahm sayn?

would you stay with a partner of at least 2 years.. if they became disabled during the time you were together?

I honestly don't know :frown:

I mean it sounds horrible, but I just want a normal relationship and do normal things in the normal way. I don't want to be pushing around someone's wheelchair or having to write things down for them to read because they can't hear it. I don't want to have to push my boyfriend's wheelchair onto the train or not go somewhere I want to go with them because they can't because of their disability, or not be able to live my life with them the way I want to because they physically can't.

I know I sound like a really horrible person for saying that :frown:

Reply 18

TheSownRose

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by GottaLovePhysics! :)

Well their not. Whats your disability?

Stutter, very little hearing in one ear (it will pick up noise but, unless it's unique, not really definable) and a problem with my lower back that causes intermittant walking problems (painful and jittery, but not impossible.)

So not disabilities, but not exactly far off from what OP was discussing.

Reply 19

im so academic

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