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long story i know, but please read I really want help...
ok so very long story here and i just want someone's advice. right so ages and ages ago i booked 2 tickets for me and my boyfriend to go 2 alice cooper and they cost me 100pounds. i know, very expensive 4 such an old hairy rocker lol. Anyway. so im going this sunday, and today my boyfriend tells me that he's going to have to go to his cricket practice on Sunday which would finish at 6. Seeing as he's in Reading. And we need 2 get 2 waterloo by 7, that's pretty much impossible. So, I asked him if he could not go cos it would make us late and he got all stressy and sed i was being unreasonable and that he has to go and anyway it's cool to be late. Now I hate being late for anything, which he knows, as I'm always around 30mins eaely 4 everything lol. Do you think I'm being unreasonable? Also, another thing is that he said he would give me the money for the tickets, which would be 50pounds. When I asked him for it, having waited several months for him to pay me, he said that instead of buying the tickets, he would buy lots of merchandise at the concert. So I was fine with that cos it saves me buying it. Only today he tells me that he has no money, and he wants me to pay for his train fare and he can't afford to pay because he will go into his overdraft. AND I am at the moment 165pounds overdrawn because of all the money ive spent travelling to see him in Reading and buying him his birthday present. And I've just come back from seeing him and after having paid for us to go to the cinema and for a meal afterwards. And its not like he's like poor because he's a student. He has over 50,000 in his bank for gods sake. I just wish he wouldn't spend all his money on alcohol (sorry, very against drinking as I don't see the point in spending all your money on poisoning your liver etc etc, i could go on 4ever lol) And I just don't know what to do now. I was considering asking one of my friends to go with me but I don't know, I would feel guilty telling him he can't go. I realise that he doesn't come across too well in what I've just said but he is genuinely a really nice guy and is very affectionate and caring. NOT one of them awful chav boys lol. And I know I've wrote loads so congratulations if you've managed to read through all this. I jus want to know your opinions and what u think. Thanks, Lauren
ok so very long story here and i just want someone's advice. right so ages and ages ago i booked 2 tickets for me and my boyfriend to go 2 alice cooper and they cost me 100pounds. i know, very expensive 4 such an old hairy rocker lol. Anyway. so im going this sunday, and today my boyfriend tells me that he's going to have to go to his cricket practice on Sunday which would finish at 6. Seeing as he's in Reading. And we need 2 get 2 waterloo by 7, that's pretty much impossible. So, I asked him if he could not go cos it would make us late and he got all stressy and sed i was being unreasonable and that he has to go and anyway it's cool to be late. Now I hate being late for anything, which he knows, as I'm always around 30mins eaely 4 everything lol. Do you think I'm being unreasonable? Also, another thing is that he said he would give me the money for the tickets, which would be 50pounds. When I asked him for it, having waited several months for him to pay me, he said that instead of buying the tickets, he would buy lots of merchandise at the concert. So I was fine with that cos it saves me buying it. Only today he tells me that he has no money, and he wants me to pay for his train fare and he can't afford to pay because he will go into his overdraft. AND I am at the moment 165pounds overdrawn because of all the money ive spent travelling to see him in Reading and buying him his birthday present. And I've just come back from seeing him and after having paid for us to go to the cinema and for a meal afterwards. And its not like he's like poor because he's a student. He has over 50,000 in his bank for gods sake. I just wish he wouldn't spend all his money on alcohol (sorry, very against drinking as I don't see the point in spending all your money on poisoning your liver etc etc, i could go on 4ever lol) And I just don't know what to do now. I was considering asking one of my friends to go with me but I don't know, I would feel guilty telling him he can't go. I realise that he doesn't come across too well in what I've just said but he is genuinely a really nice guy and is very affectionate and caring. NOT one of them awful chav boys lol. And I know I've wrote loads so congratulations if you've managed to read through all this. I jus want to know your opinions and what u think. Thanks, Lauren
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to me it seems you wont get your money back in anyway.
and maybe it be best that you take a friend instead plus some gig venues do get funny about late comers and sometimes dont let people in if they are more than half an hour late.
one question.
did you tell your boyfriend about the gig ages ago so hed actaully have time to make plans so he could actaully go? or did you tell him at last min cos if you did then its understandable that he says hes still going to cricket and not to the gig with you.
and maybe it be best that you take a friend instead plus some gig venues do get funny about late comers and sometimes dont let people in if they are more than half an hour late.
one question.
did you tell your boyfriend about the gig ages ago so hed actaully have time to make plans so he could actaully go? or did you tell him at last min cos if you did then its understandable that he says hes still going to cricket and not to the gig with you.
lozzyjay
long story i know, but please read I really want help...
ok so very long story here and i just want someone's advice. right so ages and ages ago i booked 2 tickets for me and my boyfriend to go 2 alice cooper and they cost me 100pounds. i know, very expensive 4 such an old hairy rocker lol. Anyway. so im going this sunday, and today my boyfriend tells me that he's going to have to go to his cricket practice on Sunday which would finish at 6. Seeing as he's in Reading. And we need 2 get 2 waterloo by 7, that's pretty much impossible. So, I asked him if he could not go cos it would make us late and he got all stressy and sed i was being unreasonable and that he has to go and anyway it's cool to be late. Now I hate being late for anything, which he knows, as I'm always around 30mins eaely 4 everything lol. Do you think I'm being unreasonable? Also, another thing is that he said he would give me the money for the tickets, which would be 50pounds. When I asked him for it, having waited several months for him to pay me, he said that instead of buying the tickets, he would buy lots of merchandise at the concert. So I was fine with that cos it saves me buying it. Only today he tells me that he has no money, and he wants me to pay for his train fare and he can't afford to pay because he will go into his overdraft. AND I am at the moment 165pounds overdrawn because of all the money ive spent travelling to see him in Reading and buying him his birthday present. And I've just come back from seeing him and after having paid for us to go to the cinema and for a meal afterwards. And its not like he's like poor because he's a student. He has over 50,000 in his bank for gods sake. I just wish he wouldn't spend all his money on alcohol (sorry, very against drinking as I don't see the point in spending all your money on poisoning your liver etc etc, i could go on 4ever lol) And I just don't know what to do now. I was considering asking one of my friends to go with me but I don't know, I would feel guilty telling him he can't go. I realise that he doesn't come across too well in what I've just said but he is genuinely a really nice guy and is very affectionate and caring. NOT one of them awful chav boys lol. And I know I've wrote loads so congratulations if you've managed to read through all this. I jus want to know your opinions and what u think. Thanks, Lauren
ok so very long story here and i just want someone's advice. right so ages and ages ago i booked 2 tickets for me and my boyfriend to go 2 alice cooper and they cost me 100pounds. i know, very expensive 4 such an old hairy rocker lol. Anyway. so im going this sunday, and today my boyfriend tells me that he's going to have to go to his cricket practice on Sunday which would finish at 6. Seeing as he's in Reading. And we need 2 get 2 waterloo by 7, that's pretty much impossible. So, I asked him if he could not go cos it would make us late and he got all stressy and sed i was being unreasonable and that he has to go and anyway it's cool to be late. Now I hate being late for anything, which he knows, as I'm always around 30mins eaely 4 everything lol. Do you think I'm being unreasonable? Also, another thing is that he said he would give me the money for the tickets, which would be 50pounds. When I asked him for it, having waited several months for him to pay me, he said that instead of buying the tickets, he would buy lots of merchandise at the concert. So I was fine with that cos it saves me buying it. Only today he tells me that he has no money, and he wants me to pay for his train fare and he can't afford to pay because he will go into his overdraft. AND I am at the moment 165pounds overdrawn because of all the money ive spent travelling to see him in Reading and buying him his birthday present. And I've just come back from seeing him and after having paid for us to go to the cinema and for a meal afterwards. And its not like he's like poor because he's a student. He has over 50,000 in his bank for gods sake. I just wish he wouldn't spend all his money on alcohol (sorry, very against drinking as I don't see the point in spending all your money on poisoning your liver etc etc, i could go on 4ever lol) And I just don't know what to do now. I was considering asking one of my friends to go with me but I don't know, I would feel guilty telling him he can't go. I realise that he doesn't come across too well in what I've just said but he is genuinely a really nice guy and is very affectionate and caring. NOT one of them awful chav boys lol. And I know I've wrote loads so congratulations if you've managed to read through all this. I jus want to know your opinions and what u think. Thanks, Lauren
Unless he's a card-carrying Dom Perignon afiçionado, I daresay you cut to the meat of it there.
how does he have 50,000 in his bank, and still be scared of being overdrawn? tell him youve overdrawn your account! he does sound a bit bad from what youve said...no matter how nice and not chavvy he is, its not worth it! after spending £100 on tickets the least he could do is respect that, and cancel cricket.
yeah it does seem like hes being a c**t.
i dont like cricket but still whod rather go to cricket than go to a gig.
i hate it when really nice people get taken advantage off
take someone else....dont bother with him and dont get him anything from the gig either and then when you get back from the gig rub it in and show him you had a really good time without him.
if hes got 50,000 in the bank then he could afford a train ticket and the gig ticket.
hes just making excuses
i dont like cricket but still whod rather go to cricket than go to a gig.
i hate it when really nice people get taken advantage off
take someone else....dont bother with him and dont get him anything from the gig either and then when you get back from the gig rub it in and show him you had a really good time without him.
if hes got 50,000 in the bank then he could afford a train ticket and the gig ticket.
hes just making excuses
tell him to cancel or you'll take a friend...
Dont you just hate it when men put sport before their girlfriends???
Once when I'd had an excruciatingly bad day and was in floods of tears, he still left me to drive home from his in absolute bits because he didnt want to miss his bowling practice...took a long time for me to forgive him for that one...
If he wants to go to cricket (and as someone said, its not really great unless he plays for England or something like that) its vastly inconsiderate and now the money on top of that....you're too good for him girl.
Go with someone else and insist he pays you back.
Once when I'd had an excruciatingly bad day and was in floods of tears, he still left me to drive home from his in absolute bits because he didnt want to miss his bowling practice...took a long time for me to forgive him for that one...
If he wants to go to cricket (and as someone said, its not really great unless he plays for England or something like that) its vastly inconsiderate and now the money on top of that....you're too good for him girl.
Go with someone else and insist he pays you back.
lozzyjay
long story i know, but please read I really want help...
ok so very long story here and i just want someone's advice. right so ages and ages ago i booked 2 tickets for me and my boyfriend to go 2 alice cooper and they cost me 100pounds. i know, very expensive 4 such an old hairy rocker lol. Anyway. so im going this sunday, and today my boyfriend tells me that he's going to have to go to his cricket practice on Sunday which would finish at 6. Seeing as he's in Reading. And we need 2 get 2 waterloo by 7, that's pretty much impossible. So, I asked him if he could not go cos it would make us late and he got all stressy and sed i was being unreasonable and that he has to go and anyway it's cool to be late. Now I hate being late for anything, which he knows, as I'm always around 30mins eaely 4 everything lol. Do you think I'm being unreasonable? Also, another thing is that he said he would give me the money for the tickets, which would be 50pounds. When I asked him for it, having waited several months for him to pay me, he said that instead of buying the tickets, he would buy lots of merchandise at the concert. So I was fine with that cos it saves me buying it. Only today he tells me that he has no money, and he wants me to pay for his train fare and he can't afford to pay because he will go into his overdraft. AND I am at the moment 165pounds overdrawn because of all the money ive spent travelling to see him in Reading and buying him his birthday present. And I've just come back from seeing him and after having paid for us to go to the cinema and for a meal afterwards. And its not like he's like poor because he's a student. He has over 50,000 in his bank for gods sake. I just wish he wouldn't spend all his money on alcohol (sorry, very against drinking as I don't see the point in spending all your money on poisoning your liver etc etc, i could go on 4ever lol) And I just don't know what to do now. I was considering asking one of my friends to go with me but I don't know, I would feel guilty telling him he can't go. I realise that he doesn't come across too well in what I've just said but he is genuinely a really nice guy and is very affectionate and caring. NOT one of them awful chav boys lol. And I know I've wrote loads so congratulations if you've managed to read through all this. I jus want to know your opinions and what u think. Thanks, Lauren
ok so very long story here and i just want someone's advice. right so ages and ages ago i booked 2 tickets for me and my boyfriend to go 2 alice cooper and they cost me 100pounds. i know, very expensive 4 such an old hairy rocker lol. Anyway. so im going this sunday, and today my boyfriend tells me that he's going to have to go to his cricket practice on Sunday which would finish at 6. Seeing as he's in Reading. And we need 2 get 2 waterloo by 7, that's pretty much impossible. So, I asked him if he could not go cos it would make us late and he got all stressy and sed i was being unreasonable and that he has to go and anyway it's cool to be late. Now I hate being late for anything, which he knows, as I'm always around 30mins eaely 4 everything lol. Do you think I'm being unreasonable? Also, another thing is that he said he would give me the money for the tickets, which would be 50pounds. When I asked him for it, having waited several months for him to pay me, he said that instead of buying the tickets, he would buy lots of merchandise at the concert. So I was fine with that cos it saves me buying it. Only today he tells me that he has no money, and he wants me to pay for his train fare and he can't afford to pay because he will go into his overdraft. AND I am at the moment 165pounds overdrawn because of all the money ive spent travelling to see him in Reading and buying him his birthday present. And I've just come back from seeing him and after having paid for us to go to the cinema and for a meal afterwards. And its not like he's like poor because he's a student. He has over 50,000 in his bank for gods sake. I just wish he wouldn't spend all his money on alcohol (sorry, very against drinking as I don't see the point in spending all your money on poisoning your liver etc etc, i could go on 4ever lol) And I just don't know what to do now. I was considering asking one of my friends to go with me but I don't know, I would feel guilty telling him he can't go. I realise that he doesn't come across too well in what I've just said but he is genuinely a really nice guy and is very affectionate and caring. NOT one of them awful chav boys lol. And I know I've wrote loads so congratulations if you've managed to read through all this. I jus want to know your opinions and what u think. Thanks, Lauren
Your in noway being unreasnoable.
He made a commitment to go to this alice cooper thing with you months ago, and therefore he should screw the cricket practice, how will missing one practice hurt especially if hes made other arrangments months ago.
As for the money he owes you, you most likely wont get it back,
if i were you i would stop buying him things or lending him money etc, and if he has a fit about it just remind him exactly how much you spent on him.
i had the same thing wid one of my exes he alwasy expected me to pay for everything and when i said no he got l stressy and even walked out of the pub and left me there becuase i wouldn;t get him another drink(he was totally out of it) when i caught up wid him he was blaming me for getitn him drunk and fell over pushing me down and cut my knee open and i had to walk all the way home wid blood spewing out of my knee lol
nothing to do with your story he was a chav though so your right about the chavs not going near them lol,
don't do it it may sound horrid hes gonna treat you like a pushover if you keep lending him money and paying for things ou will only end up miserable, i you are hapy with him then just put your foot down and tell him no, he should respect you if not he isn;t worth it!!
i lent him £20 never saw it again!! like most people i lent money to!! i was a total pushover not anymore lol
nothing to do with your story he was a chav though so your right about the chavs not going near them lol,
don't do it it may sound horrid hes gonna treat you like a pushover if you keep lending him money and paying for things ou will only end up miserable, i you are hapy with him then just put your foot down and tell him no, he should respect you if not he isn;t worth it!!
i lent him £20 never saw it again!! like most people i lent money to!! i was a total pushover not anymore lol
I agree that he is using you...
But if this was the other way around, i.e. a boy paying for everything for a girl and getting over drawn. Would you everybody be as bothered about it? I don't think so...
I prefer stuff to be equal. Just doesn't seem to be the same for both sexes as far as paying for stuff goes.
But if this was the other way around, i.e. a boy paying for everything for a girl and getting over drawn. Would you everybody be as bothered about it? I don't think so...
I prefer stuff to be equal. Just doesn't seem to be the same for both sexes as far as paying for stuff goes.
Elipsis
I agree that he is using you...
But if this was the other way around, i.e. a boy paying for everything for a girl and getting over drawn. Would you everybody be as bothered about it? I don't think so...
I prefer stuff to be equal. Just doesn't seem to be the same for both sexes as far as paying for stuff goes.
But if this was the other way around, i.e. a boy paying for everything for a girl and getting over drawn. Would you everybody be as bothered about it? I don't think so...
I prefer stuff to be equal. Just doesn't seem to be the same for both sexes as far as paying for stuff goes.
Really? I always prefere to treat the girl, though I agree people would be laughing if it was the otherway round
i think that it should be shared for example if i went out on a date with a guy hell pay next time ill pay so on and so forth,
my exes view on this was, you wanted to be with me so you pay for everything,
i got him a £50 bracelet for valentines day, he got me a card and shouted at me also spelt my name wrong, we had tattoos done on the same day and i offered to pay his cost more coz well hes a bloke lol, he didn;t say thank you and he threw a box of choclates his father got me for my b/day and ruined the whole day,
i must have been in some kind of dream world to have stayed with him for 4 whole months when another nicer guy liked me!!!
my exes view on this was, you wanted to be with me so you pay for everything,
i got him a £50 bracelet for valentines day, he got me a card and shouted at me also spelt my name wrong, we had tattoos done on the same day and i offered to pay his cost more coz well hes a bloke lol, he didn;t say thank you and he threw a box of choclates his father got me for my b/day and ruined the whole day,
i must have been in some kind of dream world to have stayed with him for 4 whole months when another nicer guy liked me!!!
Take the mate.
I guess if you look back on your relationship you might find that this is only the top of the iceberg and if you are honest with yourself there are other incidents pointing to him being a selfish person. So far he has managed to keep you with him by being nice to you when it suited him, but I think this incident has woken you up.
How about making a little list for yourself listing his good points and his bad points, then decide what you want to do.
I think I would either try and sell the ticket or ask someone else. I would definetly not take him with me after that and especially NOT pay anything more for him, regardless of his having money in the bank account or not. He should be capable of managing his financial affairs.
Try telling him what you feel when he does what he is doing now. It usually does not help much telling people things like: "you are a real idiot". I have found it better to say things like: "When you do.... it makes me feel really angry/sad...or whatever.
Anybody can deny being an idiot but he cannot deny your feelings when confronted.
I do hope you manage to disentagle yourself and still have fun.
How about making a little list for yourself listing his good points and his bad points, then decide what you want to do.
I think I would either try and sell the ticket or ask someone else. I would definetly not take him with me after that and especially NOT pay anything more for him, regardless of his having money in the bank account or not. He should be capable of managing his financial affairs.
Try telling him what you feel when he does what he is doing now. It usually does not help much telling people things like: "you are a real idiot". I have found it better to say things like: "When you do.... it makes me feel really angry/sad...or whatever.
Anybody can deny being an idiot but he cannot deny your feelings when confronted.
I do hope you manage to disentagle yourself and still have fun.
just ditch him... he is not worth it... i think.....
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