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Bf being jealous over nothing

Don’t you hate that? I know I do. Like today, I was at my boyfriend’s house when my mobile rang. I answered and spoke to the person on the other end for about 5 mins. When I got off my boyfriend was like, I heard a guy’s voice, who was that? I replied with his name. And my boyfriend goes, ‘oh, joe, I bet your s***ing him’ I laughed and said don’t be stupid, and he came back with ‘don’t lie, that’s why you didn’t see me the other night’ (I was ill in bed)

Then for the rest of the night, he would say things like ‘go back to your other boyfriend your s***ing.’ In general he just gets really jealous over…well…nothing. Does everyone find this with there boyfriends? Or am I the only one?

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Reply 1
Right and people wonder why guys make the comment, 'girls only go after jackasses'
and yes im sure hes normal :rolleyes:
Reply 2
mmm not all guys are like that.
my boyfriend isn't the jealous type.
i think you need to talk to him about his jealously and ask why hes being like this cos im sure theres no need.
Reply 3
He sounds like a fooool.

Next time he says something like that say,

"Cool! Glad you don't mind - well best be off, he's waiting!"

And walk out. Hadeharhar
Reply 4
Hmmm... that isnt really the kind of thing a decent boyfriend would say.. well im not sure if decent is the right word but you know what I mean? Its one thing to be overprotective but to be so rude and aggressive about it? Not right.
My ex-boyfriend used to do that all the time it was just jokeingly at first but then he used it to try and stop me seeing my bestfriend (who is a guy) and it got on my nerves and really upset me that he trusted me so little.
Reply 6
what an ass and your an idiot putting up with it!
Reply 7
Trust is important - if he doesn't trust you and is making you uncomfortable then I would lose him fast. But there again, it's your choice, if it doesn't bother you, then no worries
Reply 8
JonnyB
He sounds like a fooool.

Next time he says something like that say,

"Cool! Glad you don't mind - well best be off, he's waiting!"

And walk out. Hadeharhar

well what if she did say that and then he broke up with her?
maybe youd be better off without him if hes gonna keep giving you all that greif but yeah.....i think you should talk to him about it first and see if he will stop being an ass
Reply 9
my ex was like that, he left me ion a club by myaelf and i bumped into a guy id had a few one night stands with ages ago and he offered the taxi back coz i missed the free bus, i told him i was talking to this other guy outside and he just walked out and had a go at me even though he left with 2 girls, i got a message from this other guy asking where i was at 3am and i kept my phone under my pillow other wise he would have read it, i told him that i hugged the other guy for letting me get the taxi otherwise i could have ended up dead (coz theres no prober road from the club) and he went mad i was like would you prefer me to die then to get home safley, he never let it go till i go so annoyed by his jelousy i ended up cheating on him with the other guy!!

don't let anyone get you downa nd make you feel bad about aving other male mates its your life!! i couldn;t care if my ex didn;t like me having boy mates coz he hadloads of girl mates!!
Reply 10
Laursy
my ex was like that, he left me ion a club by myaelf and i bumped into a guy id had a few one night stands with ages ago and he offered the taxi back coz i missed the free bus, i told him i was talking to this other guy outside and he just walked out and had a go at me even though he left with 2 girls, i got a message from this other guy asking where i was at 3am and i kept my phone under my pillow other wise he would have read it, i told him that i hugged the other guy for letting me get the taxi otherwise i could have ended up dead (coz theres no prober road from the club) and he went mad i was like would you prefer me to die then to get home safley, he never let it go till i go so annoyed by his jelousy i ended up cheating on him with the other guy!!

don't let anyone get you downa nd make you feel bad about aving other male mates its your life!! i couldn;t care if my ex didn;t like me having boy mates coz he hadloads of girl mates!!


so let me get this right u slept with that other guy just cos he was jealous, if you ask me your boyfriend had a right to be jealous! he obviously thought there were attractions with u and the other guy, and well u just proved it by having sex with him.
cheating on your boyfriend because he is jealous is f*****g shocking!
ditch him if he does not cahnge m8
Reply 12
Laursy
i ended up cheating on him with the other guy!!

don't

on a scale of one to ten how immature are you?
Reply 13
trigger
on a scale of one to ten how immature are you?


with 10 being high, i would give her um......... a big fat 10
Reply 14
id give 1000 but hey what do i know with all my self respect and all :rolleyes:
Reply 15
it wasn't to spite him i was about to finish with him anyway because he hit me and said some well nasty things to me he was acting so werid sometimes i thought after i finished with him tat he had been cheating on me and had no idea at the time,

then i was told he was sleeping with my best mate and cheating wid loads of other people and he was jelous i got a taxi home wid a guy who obviously wanted me to be safe, i did think it was a terrible thing to do it doesn't excuse my behaviour but in some ways i think he was waiting for me to do it so he could have a reason to finish with me, i got told he wants to finish with you but he can't his best effort was to get a bunch of my mates arrested on my b/day and try to get the police to try and let him drive a car (totally wrecked) then blamed me for his behaviour it was all so complicated and i don't know why i did it,

if i asked him about my mate when i was jelous he went off his nut and shouted all the abuse under the sun at me and threatened to bottle me a few times!!
all he wanted was money from me, and i was foolish enough to give it to him, to give in to threats is so weak i know, i obviousy have no self respect when by everyone who has been in my life has treated me badly, my friendships and life is it tatters now, i don't blame him as such it was both our faults, i was scared of him some of the time and my other mate begged me to finish with him thinking he would do something silly and hurt me,

excuse my spellings and stuf please!!
i would say imature 1-10 it was a 9!! but there are reasons for it!! please don;t think badly of me!!
JonnyB
He sounds like a fooool.

Next time he says something like that say,

"Cool! Glad you don't mind - well best be off, he's waiting!"

And walk out. Hadeharhar


:laugh:
I might seriously have to try that one - nothing else has worked
Reply 17
Hayley_2k4
Don’t you hate that? I know I do. Like today, I was at my boyfriend’s house when my mobile rang. I answered and spoke to the person on the other end for about 5 mins. When I got off my boyfriend was like, I heard a guy’s voice, who was that? I replied with his name. And my boyfriend goes, ‘oh, joe, I bet your s***ing him’ I laughed and said don’t be stupid, and he came back with ‘don’t lie, that’s why you didn’t see me the other night’ (I was ill in bed)

Then for the rest of the night, he would say things like ‘go back to your other boyfriend your s***ing.’ In general he just gets really jealous over…well…nothing. Does everyone find this with there boyfriends? Or am I the only one?


This is definitely true for me. I hate my gf talking to other guys and will tell her off unless she is damn right honest with me. :smile:
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JonnyB
He sounds like a fooool.


Err dude ... you've never had a gf?
Reply 18
Laursy
it wasn't to spite him i was about to finish with him anyway because he hit me and said some well nasty things to me he was acting so werid sometimes i thought after i finished with him tat he had been cheating on me and had no idea at the time,

then i was told he was sleeping with my best mate and cheating wid loads of other people and he was jelous i got a taxi home wid a guy who obviously wanted me to be safe, i did think it was a terrible thing to do it doesn't excuse my behaviour but in some ways i think he was waiting for me to do it so he could have a reason to finish with me, i got told he wants to finish with you but he can't his best effort was to get a bunch of my mates arrested on my b/day and try to get the police to try and let him drive a car (totally wrecked) then blamed me for his behaviour it was all so complicated and i don't know why i did it,

if i asked him about my mate when i was jelous he went off his nut and shouted all the abuse under the sun at me and threatened to bottle me a few times!!
all he wanted was money from me, and i was foolish enough to give it to him, to give in to threats is so weak i know, i obviousy have no self respect when by everyone who has been in my life has treated me badly, my friendships and life is it tatters now, i don't blame him as such it was both our faults, i was scared of him some of the time and my other mate begged me to finish with him thinking he would do something silly and hurt me,

excuse my spellings and stuf please!!
i would say imature 1-10 it was a 9!! but there are reasons for it!! please don;t think badly of me!!

:rolleyes: yep sure that happened
Reply 19
Sounds like a right idiot. Problem is sadly hes not the odd one out, most guys seem to be like this.
There has been a number of times when guys have got shirty with me just for making conversation with their girlfriends, and im not even a particularly attractive or charming guy and the conversations were all innocent.

reckless- I haven't had a girlfriend but I wouldn't jump on every guy that talks to my would be girlfriend, I know that for a fact.

Actually there is another story which I think needs to be mentioned here.
My flatmate was interested in this girl who was part of our group of friends, I didn't know this at first though. Then after about a week he started being really rude to me for no reason even though I hadn't shown any interest in said girl or even talked to her much at all. Infact I only found out he liked the girl after asking my flatmates why Joe was so rude to me and they guessed it was because of the girl.
Turned out it was also because the girl turned him down later on so he was feeling annoyed and wanted to be rude to me which could be part of some control complex.