eye contact

i only have problems with making eye contact if i'm walking in a crowded street....i usually look at the floor or some point far away........and my friend would be like ".........did you see that woman........" and i'd be like "who?, what?"....its odd....my friend can like remeber what people wear while shes walking, its like shes scanning them from top to bottom. But generally, i have no problems making eye contacts with people i know or 'just meet'.....or actually the worst if you're sitting opposite a person in the bus or something....i feel so uncomfortable...cos' i can't look striaght (cos' it'd be like staring directly at the person, which might seem a bit rude) so my eyes are glued to the window. :smile:

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Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX

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Laursy

ever since i can remember i have had problems with making eye contact with people, ive always wondered why, i speck to even my closest friends and it scares me to make eye contact for more then a minute or so only one person i have kept eye contact with when he was telling me all his problems!!

i wonder if its part of me and ill never get over it or if it is just a insercurety (spelling) i have,

i used to have a problem calling people by there names (sounds totally stupid) i think its because ive never been the most cleaver person and used to be really shy.

when i go forjob interviews and people make eye conrtact with me who i don't know then i get bit werid and feel uncomfortable

is this really stupid? do you thoink its a reason i can't get a job!!

Sweetie I have the same problem, I just put it down to 'fear of confrontation' I look in an opposite direction to all people when talking, shouting etc and it does feel weird too especially when people point it out to you :frown:

I don't think its a reason you can't get a job but it also can happen with nerves a lot more and if you're nervous, don't be :smile:

it ain't the end of the world, they want to see confidence and if you focus on a point on the wall or something it does actually help :smile:

Hope you get on well with your job hunting and getting a job :smile:

xoxo

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Ana

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I used to have this problem too. A good work-around is to stare at their noses instead - noone else can tell, and it's a lot more comfortable.

Eventually it should wear off as your general confidence level increases :smile:

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Wild Thing

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zooropa

Well maybe it is. A lack of eye contact is a symptom of Asperger's Syndrome.

Hahahah

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alio~

Whats this about not calling people by their names I don't understand, except Ive never really called my parents mum and dad, no idea why I don't call them anything just say what i wanna say lol.

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OP

i had trouble calling peoples names id go to say it and nothing would come out, ait strange i know but now i can call people by there names as its just plain rude to just say oui!!

i can make eye contact wid certain people and i have tired the look lookaway thing and its the best i can do, but i think it is getting better,

maybe its some kind of obsessive thing, i went to my mates party and there was another person there and we got on well we started talkin about guys lol as you do and she seemed on my wave length and i do get one with people i just meet only she was looking stright into my eyes te whole time i was talking to her even if i looked at the floor i still new she was doing it!!
its abit silly i know but ill get over it in time i think!! like everyone says these things do take time.

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No its not weird i often have the same problem, it shouldnt stop you getting a job thoe unless its a job that involves alot of one on one contact

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OP

i have been told i was one of the greatest sales assiatants in my previous jobs and i am one of the most professional people when it comes to work, but its just not been my year i think its part of the omen that is my worst year lol something will pop up sooner of later hoping lol

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Laursy

i have been told i was one of the greatest sales assiatants in my previous jobs and i am one of the most professional people when it comes to work, but its just not been my year i think its part of the omen that is my worst year lol something will pop up sooner of later hoping lol

Sometimes when you really get into something you dont think or worry about eye contact and things maybe thats why you was so good at your job before

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OP

yer i love to help people and be in a busy place like a shop and i am an aproachable person and i have in past had loads of positive feedback i would go completely out of my way to make customers happy!!

and if they complain to me about another member of staff then i will make sure they leave satisfied and happy. its my skills wa has been drilled into my all though my college and work experiance, its not only common sense it does take alot of pateince and time to start loving shop work, (makes me sound abit sad tho lol)

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Laursy

yer i love to help people and be in a busy place like a shop and i am an aproachable person and i have in past had loads of positive feedback i would go completely out of my way to make customers happy!!

and if they complain to me about another member of staff then i will make sure they leave satisfied and happy. its my skills wa has been drilled into my all though my college and work experiance, its not only common sense it does take alot of pateince and time to start loving shop work, (makes me sound abit sad tho lol)

Dont sound sad to me, sounds mature and like you say common sense

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OP

umm its the only thing i reall want to do

or i would love to be an agony aunt or a concellor becuase i find that i can feel extrmely confortable listening to people and giving my opinions and like i said before helping them

anyways im off now im well knackered gots to go buy some PS2 games tomoz lol
byexx

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