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Would u forgive your boyfriend if he got off with someone else?

Reply 20

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bikerx23

surely if it was just at the start of the relationship the cheating would be more tolerated, since you would not have fallen in love.etc., at that point.
Then again - my opinion is it is never tolerable, so makes no difference to me.

actually i agree with you

Reply 21

bikerx23

1

xXMessedUpXx

actually i agree with you

you sound shocked hunni :wink:

Reply 22

waterlily

4

sounds like a good idea...
Grace- boys can be like that - get all serious- have strong feelings for u- get scared and run like the wind!!!! its happened to me and is no fun!!! Btw wat is ur signiture about? my name is Lily im curious hehe

Reply 23

xXMessedUpXx

15

bikerx23

you sound shocked hunni :wink:

lol i have a very arguementative streak...i don't think i agree with people often!

Reply 24

grace

15

waterlily

sounds like a good idea...
Grace- boys can be like that - get all serious- have strong feelings for u- get scared and run like the wind!!!! its happened to me and is no fun!!! Btw wat is ur signiture about? my name is Lily im curious hehe

yeah i know but we'd been together for a year and despite it sounding messed up, we were like the 'golden couple' and everyone (me especially!) was shocked when it happened, as it was always HIM getting serious and me either getting uncomfortable and ignoring it or just kind of nodding and pretending to agree! lol. the sig is from a john masefield poem (the everlasting mercy, http://www.theotherpages.org/poems/mercy3.html), he's one of my favourite poets and lillies are my fav flowers! good name, if i ever have a little girl i want to name her lily :smile:

Reply 25

Fruit-cake

9

it doesnt matter how long theyve been together...it doesnt sound right to me particularly as he wasnt even drunk. and he used to have a huge crush on the girl. youre better off without him.

Reply 26

evil groove

loose_moose

My boyfriend's at uni, so I don't get to see him much. I do care about him a lot, but last weekend when I went to visit him he announced he'd got off with this girl he used to have a massive crush on - before he went to unI! He wasn't even drunk! He did seem genuinely very sorry about it, but it's really bugging me. I'm giving him a second chance but my friends say they wouldn't. What do you think?

I wouldn't ever forgive him. I would dump him; that way he knows he cannot get away with doing things like that. Think about it: if you forgive him, you have given him licence to cheat on some other poor girl he's going to out with in the future. Also, there is a possibility he might not respect you (not that he seemed to anyway(?)- getting off with that other girl) after you take him back. If you do.

Reply 27

Philadelphia

loose_moose

My boyfriend's at uni, so I don't get to see him much. I do care about him a lot, but last weekend when I went to visit him he announced he'd got off with this girl he used to have a massive crush on - before he went to unI! He wasn't even drunk! He did seem genuinely very sorry about it, but it's really bugging me. I'm giving him a second chance but my friends say they wouldn't. What do you think?

I would never cheat on someone or have sex with someone else if i had a girlfriend.

Reply 28

grace

15

filly

I would never cheat on someone or have sex with someone else if i had a girlfriend.

haha, that reminded me, for some silly reason, of when my bf got back from a trip to prague for his mate's stag do (right after i found out he'd slept with someone else) and i asked him how his trip was etc...then i shouted at him that the only reason why he'd not had sex with anyone else is because he didnt get any offers or the hookers wouldn't take his money..

and i was serious :eek:

lol

Reply 29

Lauren Hart

3

i think its worse at the beginging, because the begining of a relationship is meant to be very focused on teh other person - honeymood period, They shouldnt want to play away so early, not that its right at any point, but if it was like 4 months and he was bored for example, i could see why it could happen

Reply 30

DancingDiva

It's always easy to say what you would do if your boyfriend cheated before it happens, but when the situation is presented it's hard to walk away. Most girls say they'd never give the guy a second chance but when your in love its hard to not want to forget it and make things perfect again. In order for it to work between you you have to truely both want to put it behind you. That also means you cant use it against him if you're arguing etc as much as you may really want to at the time. If you cant put it behind you and both really work at building the trust back then it'll eat away at your relationship. It has done with mine. But on the other hand my best friend cheated on her boyfriend and they are still very happy over a year on from it. It depends on the couple if you can make it work. If he really doesnt seem to be sorry or angry at himself then you probably dont mean as much to him as you think, and as painful and awful as it is you have to walk away at some point. Give him a chance... if its meant to be then you'll work it out together. xxxx

Reply 31

Kondar

1

I have had one girlfriend cheat on me. I was madly in love with her at the time and did not even consider ending the relationship. I was hurt but I was too into her to let it go.

Reply 32

Laursy

10

i would forgive him if he ment alot to me if he was geneuinely really sorry, why lose something good over that

at lease he was honest about it!! most people wouldn't say,

Reply 33

HereFishyFishy

13

70schild

Your all retards!

...Yep...it's *you're*, not *your* smartass.

Reply 34

technik

13

i'd require complete loyalty as its all i would do myself.

Reply 35

MNBStyle

9

loose_moose

My boyfriend's at uni, so I don't get to see him much. I do care about him a lot, but last weekend when I went to visit him he announced he'd got off with this girl he used to have a massive crush on - before he went to unI! He wasn't even drunk! He did seem genuinely very sorry about it, but it's really bugging me. I'm giving him a second chance but my friends say they wouldn't. What do you think?

I dont think you should, if he had been really drunk then maybe you could forgive him, but as he wasn't drunk then whats his excuse???

Reply 36

MattG

1

This is not the kind of thing that is excusable by "not thinking", "just letting it happen" or "drunkeness" His actions required a conscious decision. He needs to learn that his actions have consequences. If he isn't mature enough to contemplate and accept the consequences then he isn't worth your time

Reply 37

Apricot Fairy

16

When I was with my ex, I met loads of really nice guys, and fancied some of them. I was in France without him, and I ended up dancing with a really cute French guy. I never intended anything to happen between us, even though I fancied him like mad, but suddenly he leaned over and kissed me, really quickly. He didn't speak English, but I told him immediately that I had a boyfriend. At seven o'clock the next morning I was on the phone to my boyfriend in England, really upset about it all. If you love the person you're with, you wouldn't even dream of cheating on them. I wouldn't stick around if someone cheated on me.

Reply 38

MNBStyle

9

susiemakemeblue

When I was with my ex, I met loads of really nice guys, and fancied some of them. I was in France without him, and I ended up dancing with a really cute French guy. I never intended anything to happen between us, even though I fancied him like mad, but suddenly he leaned over and kissed me, really quickly. He didn't speak English, but I told him immediately that I had a boyfriend. At seven o'clock the next morning I was on the phone to my boyfriend in England, really upset about it all. If you love the person you're with, you wouldn't even dream of cheating on them. I wouldn't stick around if someone cheated on me.

Its good to know your not overley nice like in that situation then :wink:

Reply 39

Apricot Fairy

16

MNBStyle

Its good to know your not overley nice like in that situation then :wink:

Being nice to a good guy is one thing. But why should you be nice to a cheating scumbag?

Would u forgive your boyfriend if he got off with someone else?

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