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Would u forgive your boyfriend if he got off with someone else?

Reply 40

MNBStyle

9

susiemakemeblue

Being nice to a good guy is one thing. But why should you be nice to a cheating scumbag?

You shouldn't of course i was just saying, i wasn't disagreeing

Reply 41

Apricot Fairy

16

MNBStyle

You shouldn't of course i was just saying, i wasn't disagreeing

The reason I'm nice is because I've never been with a cheating scumbag.

Reply 42

MNBStyle

9

susiemakemeblue

The reason I'm nice is because I've never been with a cheating scumbag.

Right ok and that was random and uncalled for lol :p:

Reply 43

Apricot Fairy

16

MNBStyle

Right ok and that was random and uncalled for lol :p:

Why?

Reply 44

Wild Thing

11

I'd forgive him.

Reply 45

icklehc

1

As far as im concerned, if you choose to be someone's partner you are ultimately choosing to repect them and be faithful to them. Whats the point in being in a relationship if both partner's are able to cheat and be forgiven for it?

Reply 46

Lush Law

15

Hang on people. Some of you are saying "get rid" a bit too easily.

I'm not sure I could give up on a relationship that meant a lot to me that casually. If you're married, and your husband gets off with someone else, would you throw him out and begin divorce proceedings?

I think one of the fundamental problems regarding the excessive breakdown of relationships and marriages in the UK is the fact that people just don't talk anymore.

Reply 47

iceman_jondoe

18

forgiveness i for the weak

Reply 48

Laursy

10

people just don't talk anymore

excatly

you should talk about things and have a proper conversation every now and again, like i said before i dont think its worth throwing away at least he had the respect to tell you he did it, just think how much guts that would have took to build up the courage to tell you.

Reply 49

happydinosaur

15

loose_moose

My boyfriend's at uni, so I don't get to see him much. I do care about him a lot, but last weekend when I went to visit him he announced he'd got off with this girl he used to have a massive crush on - before he went to unI! He wasn't even drunk! He did seem genuinely very sorry about it, but it's really bugging me. I'm giving him a second chance but my friends say they wouldn't. What do you think?

No I wouldn't.

I wouldn't hate him for it or anything like that but I would make it very clear that his actions had destroyed our relationship.

Anyone who cheats on you is not worth it. Might seem a bit drastic to just give up on something so suddenly, I suppose it depends. If it was a drunken mistake then maybe there would be a way to work through it but if it was blatent cheating repeatedly with another person then it would definatly be over. I have seen a few good friends destroyed by people like that and I wouldn't wish it upon anyone.

Reply 50

icklehc

1

Laursy

excatly

you should talk about things and have a proper conversation every now and again, like i said before i dont think its worth throwing away at least he had the respect to tell you he did it, just think how much guts that would have took to build up the courage to tell you.

i dont mean to be harsh but men and women dont cheat because they are yearning for a long chat. They cheat because they are not satisfied with what they have. You could see it as he had respect to tell his gf, or he had a major lack of respect for her by cheating in the first place.

Reply 51

Dekota

I would forgive your boyfriend.

See ... even if he would have been faithful to you .. he still needed some.

Reply 52

bret

12

i think you should forgive him. he's a young man with a lot of testosterone going through him. just try not to let it ruin things.

Reply 53

xXMessedUpXx

15

red_roadkill

Hang on people. Some of you are saying "get rid" a bit too easily.

I'm not sure I could give up on a relationship that meant a lot to me that casually. If you're married, and your husband gets off with someone else, would you throw him out and begin divorce proceedings?

I think one of the fundamental problems regarding the excessive breakdown of relationships and marriages in the UK is the fact that people just don't talk anymore.

people should try to work through problems. in some cases they just give up too easily

Reply 54

elr_moran

2

I wouldn't. But, as you said, it happened early on in your relationship, and to be honest I don't know if I could then. If it happened now in my relationship I couldn't forgive him- I would never be able to trust him and we would both be miserable.

To be honest, unless we had an understanding that the relationship was open at the beginning (and I would never do that) I personally could never forgive "getting off" with someone else.

Reply 55

xXMessedUpXx

15

icklehc

i dont mean to be harsh but men and women dont cheat because they are yearning for a long chat. They cheat because they are not satisfied with what they have. You could see it as he had respect to tell his gf, or he had a major lack of respect for her by cheating in the first place.

or they cheat cos they've had their drink spiked and been taken advantage of..

Reply 56

hugatree

11

If you're not in an open relationship, he wasn't drunk and even has/had a crush about her: no, I wouldn't let him get away with it that easily. (This does not mean "I'd dump the bastard!")

It depends on more things. It's hard to let go if it's really love and not just an infatuation, a fling, or one of those '2 months relationships'.

I have only read your first post and not all 3 pages so don't know what other factors may influence a future decision; it's up to you anyway. :smile:

Reply 57

xXMessedUpXx

15

L.J

Drink getting spiked?

Where I live we call that rape...

never went that far

Reply 58

Becks1871

cheating shouldnt happen...but it does!! If u have as serious a relationship as u say u do, and u trully believe he wont do it again, then these things can be worked through. Jus remember that its never gunna b easy to have a long distance relationship.

Reply 59

clairey87

1

No I wouldn't forgive him! Not even if he was drunk!

Would u forgive your boyfriend if he got off with someone else?

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