Can't talk to people in a group...feeling terrible about itWatch
This is exactly like me, though i don't know how old you are. but with me it has gotten easier with time. And just trying to take little steps, like telling myself to just contribute one or 2 words when in group situations, doing that for a few times and then upping the anty. I don't know, i still struggle sometimes in new situations but doing that has definitely helped, and also just throwing myself into new situation where i'm outside of my comfort zone definitely helped. With time you should feel more comfortable Just keep at it.
I'm 21. It's weird because if I have to talk to each of those people individually, I can talk loads. They're all my friends, but then if we're all in a group, I can't talk at all. So if I'm so comfortable with them individually, what's the need to feel so conscious when we're all together?
You're better speaking to people individually and that's a good quality to have.
Better to be like that then one of those people whose "fine in a group but a ******** on their own".
And OP I would do as someone else suggested and just start small and just say a few words and work your way up.
i prefer being in a group tbf. one on one, there's only 2 brains of conversation. In a group of 3+, there's more brains to contribute to conversations so it makes conversation smoother
I think its just a form of shyness, i can talk to every one of my friends individually about anything, but then in a big group and theres a thousand eyes staring back and everyone could not your thoughts or opinions then it makes it scary. If its a one on one conversation its not so intimidating because there is only one person who can say anything back to you. When you voice an opinion or such to a group then its not just one on one is it. I wouldn't worry though, i think sometimes people just feel comfy in not such big groups. in large groups i actually just go mute, I literally dont think much or feel the need to say anything. Because I dont think people will be interested in what i have to say. In reality this is not the case, i dont know why i do it. But there's nothing wrong with you Well if there is, then theres something wrong with me too haha You'll be fine, have you explained to your friends how you feel? they obviously dont have a problem with you or else why would they still be hanging round with you
My friends always go like 'why are you so quiet?' 'talk' .. but i just cant.. donno why.
plus when i'm one to one with someone they're more likely to respond. if i say something out there in a group, it's indirect, people are more likely to ignore it, and so you're left hanging there awkwardly.
im trying to avoid any conversation when there are more than two people
but it seems not possible to avoid all of it
it drive me ******* crazy...