I think my "mate" fancies my boyfriend...

elbow drop her.

OK well basically I've been with my boyfriend on and off for three years. We've had two break ups but are now at a point where we are moving in together and stuff. But I can't help but feel a bit anxious about a friend of mine.

I started university last year and I made friends with this girl, I then met up with my boyfriend who I'd not seen for over a year and we got back together. She was always included and he treated her like one of his own friends and she was always saying how jealous she was, how she wished she had a boyfriend like that etc.

Anyway we had a really bad break up and I obviously was in a bad state and probably over exagerrated the situation and she told me that she thought we were wrong with each other and that our fights were brutal and we were a train wreck waiting to happen. Which was bizarre because any arguments or disagreements we had were always quickly sorted and never ebbed out to my other areas of my life.

Anyway after a few months and a lot of space my boyfriend and I got to talking and decided that we had a few disagreements but we should give it another go.

My friend was furious, she said she never wanted to hear his name mentioned and that I was "F'cking stupid, I deserve to end up hurt blah blah blah" and then randomly when I don't even mention him starts shouting at me in public places. Saying that he "bought me back" and all this.

He thinks it's funny and still considers her to be a friend but I'm ever so slightly suspicious of her motives. Most friends even if they don't agree should still support your desicions. I am very happy and I am very in love but I am still realistic about the whole thing. She can be very.....flakey with her moods and once when I was ill and couldn't come out she threw a strop and didn't talk to me for a month.

Also when we split up I went away to Thailand and me and my bf talked whilst we were away and she had invited him to go clubbing with her. They text each other and they are still friends.

I trust my boyfriend implicity, he considers her to be a friend and nothing else but I cannot help but feel ever so slightly ambiguous about her feelings towards him. She's had a really bad time with blokes before allowing them to use her and abuse her and he is one of the only blokes in my experience that treats her as a friend and not like a piece of meat.

I know nothing will happen between them but I just want to gauge other people's ideas on the situation as to how I can resolve it and she can stop bloody shouting at me and making me feel bad for getting back together with someone I love so much, who has been my best friend for longer than I've known her.

Thanks.

If 'twere my girlfriend in the same situation, I'd STOP talking and texting the psycho, if only for my girl's peace of mind.

Since he isn't doing that, you have to think there's at least SOMETHING going on. Of course there's no way of knowing how naked or seminal that 'thing' is.