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Girls, ladies I need your help, :P from boys too.

OK. Let me be short, I am a student in England, the same is the girl. She is from my country too (let's say we are from Singapore). I met her on the net.

Then after few weeks, we met, talked and I can say the girl is nice. We still kept talking via internet (though we live in the same city), via phone, I usually meet her after school near her house, and she never been rude to me, neither I was.

Few days back, we decided to go to the dinner, and she accepted, after dinner I suggested movie and she did enjoy it.

My only puzzle is, when I ask her if she has got a boyfriend (here or back at home) she never gives me a clue, changing the topic. I don't think she might be lying to me, but I wanted to know what you guys think it might indicate on? Does she have a boyfriend or not? What does these kind of approach mean, she is lovely, I wanna tell her that I do niotice her if there is not someone attached to her.

(couple of times she said, I can find the answer to my question from our dialogues (probably she hints on her leaving the question unanswered), but how, I never know, I even didn't bother to ask her how I can understand if she didn't reply me properly)

Girls, ladies, what would you say she is reacting like, I would highly appreciate especially your views as you are female human beings, who have very secrets usually. :wink:

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The way she's evading the question would mean to me that she feels uncomfortable when you ask. This could mean that she does have a boyfriend of some sort, or that she simply doesn't like you asking her personal questions, however seeing as you seem quite close I wouldn't have thought that would be a problem.
maybe shes just a bit uncomfortable/shy talking about these things... just keep going with the friends side of things, and when the time feels right, try and take it further.. but like L.J said, slowly :smile:
Or maybe she just wants to be friends with you, so she's avoiding telling you if she has a bf.
Reply 4
It could be that she wants you to pursue her and doesn't want to seem readily available. Us girls like being a bit coy and hard to get sometimes... (Or it could be that she's very shy!)
I say go for it. He obviously doesn't mean much to her if she is spending this much time with you. And if anything happens it wouldn't be your fault, as she didn't tell you if there did happen to be a situation.
Reply 6
She probably is just shy or maybe shes unsure about how she feels about you and doesnt want to give anything away yet or maybe she does have a boyfriend and doesnt know how to tell you or something.
*shrugs*
Reply 7
She probably has a bf back home, and avoids answering the question becos she doesnt want to spoil her chances of getting to know u better. Or maybem she just wants to keep u for free meals and movies!!
Reply 8
Thanks, guys, I found out what the obstacle it was. You, guys, made me very much happy, thanks for spreading hands for help, :wink:


BTW, (Dilya, man axirangi posta xonda murdam as well, ouch mebaxshed nito javob shudas :wink: )
Reply 9
TSR-Sam
Thanks, guys, I found out what the obstacle it was. You, guys, made me very much happy, thanks for spreading hands for help, :wink:


BTW, (Dilya, man axirangi posta xonda murdam as well, ouch mebaxshed nito javob shudas :wink: )

so what was the obstacle!? lol...
Reply 10
TSR-Sam
OK. Let me be short, I am a student in England, the same is the girl. She is from my country too (let's say we are from Singapore). I met her on the net.

Then after few weeks, we met, talked and I can say the girl is nice. We still kept talking via internet (though we live in the same city), via phone, I usually meet her after school near her house, and she never been rude to me, neither I was.

Few days back, we decided to go to the dinner, and she accepted, after dinner I suggested movie and she did enjoy it.

My only puzzle is, when I ask her if she has got a boyfriend (here or back at home) she never gives me a clue, changing the topic. I don't think she might be lying to me, but I wanted to know what you guys think it might indicate on? Does she have a boyfriend or not? What does these kind of approach mean, she is lovely, I wanna tell her that I do niotice her if there is not someone attached to her.

(couple of times she said, I can find the answer to my question from our dialogues (probably she hints on her leaving the question unanswered), but how, I never know, I even didn't bother to ask her how I can understand if she didn't reply me properly)

Girls, ladies, what would you say she is reacting like, I would highly appreciate especially your views as you are female human beings, who have very secrets usually. :wink:


If I fancied someone and they asked me if I had a boyfriend I'd say no! I wouldn't be vague like it appears this girl is being. Maybe she does have a boyfriend and just doesn't want to say.
Reply 11
kokopops
so what was the obstacle!? lol...
it is "The past" ... :frown:


I think she is the best girl I have ever known, so I would beg (yeah beg) her to let me read her history. :wink: :P I am truely in love, i guess, but how to react, never know, grrrrrrrrrrrr....

Days go and go, :frown: "Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own."!
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Am i mad!

Doooooohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
Reply 12
TSR-Sam
it is "The past" ... :frown:


I think she is the best girl I have ever known, so I would beg (yeah beg) her to let me read her history. :wink: :P I am truely in love, i guess, but how to react, never know, grrrrrrrrrrrr....

Days go and go, :frown: "Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own."!
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Am i mad!

Doooooohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh


i think with something like that, you just have to give her time and space to overcome whatever it is in her past which is kinda making her go slow ... if you do that, and don't sort of pressurize her into anything then things should be ok!! x
Reply 13
kokopops
i think with something like that, you just have to give her time and space to overcome whatever it is in her past which is kinda making her go slow ... if you do that, and don't sort of pressurize her into anything then things should be ok!! x
that's smart way of approaching this situation, good point.
Reply 14
TSR-Sam
that's smart way of approaching this situation, good point.
I am ready to go further, risky, but honestly worth trying.
Reply 15
TSR-Sam
I am ready to go further, risky, but honestly worth trying.
Asalcha, I love you! :smile:
Reply 16
hm...she either a) has a boyfriend, but still likes you as well, or b) is single, but doesn't want to go anywhere past "friendship" with you.
Reply 17
Indu.Mitra
(trying hard not to sound harsh..) but she might be married?
She admits, she has not been married yet.
*OMG*
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~*PinkTeaCozy*~
hm...she either a) has a boyfriend, but still likes you as well, or b) is single, but doesn't want to go anywhere past "friendship" with you.
Can you elaborate on "friendship" please. ... :smile:
*me staring at your post*
Reply 18
TSR-Sam
She admits, she has not been married yet.
*OMG*
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Can you elaborate on "friendship" please. ... :smile:
*me staring at your post*
I am v passionate about her, ready to help to rehabilitate the past-time scars.

:frown:
Reply 19
We have been out again, I did my best to present her what I am and how I am, so did she, but she has never said her feelings. I am not going to push her, letting things for time to decide.

I love her, hope it'll be mutual soon, and open.