The Student Room Group

Have I turned hima away?

me and this guy have been texting and talking on msn loads and we've seen each other a couple of times. Hes been telling me loads that he really likes me and hes been saying I'm really 'sweet' and 'amazing' and that I'm possible 'girlfriend material' etc...so it's all been going well. We've had some quite deep conversations on msn as well so we're in the process of getting to know each other. The other night I met up with him and he asked me again if i was a virgin. I didnt admit it but did hint at it and he got the message. I think he's been with quite a few girls and anyway, later on he kept goin on about how he's not good enough for me. He said it loads and i was saying to him how 'surely thats my decision to decide whether ur good enough'. I also kept saying to him 'that I cant help who i like'. When I first met him I was worried that all he wanted was sex, but he made that clear and said he didnt. He stayed round the other nite (nothin happened) and then the fllowin mornin when he left he told me to text him after work (he said it twice). So i did but he never replied and hasnt today either...have i put him off somehow...perhaps cos he thinks hes not good enough? What should i do now??
im confused
Reply 2
turkish_delight
im confused


sorry, which bit is confusin?? i'll try and explain it clearer.
him!!
nothin makes sense
like him tellin u 2 txt him and then not replying
sounds like he's playing silly games 2me
Reply 4
rockin_rio
When I first met him I was worried that all he wanted was sex, but he made that clear and said he didnt. ??


there's the flaw. ^ I'm willing to bet he's been put off by you being a virgin; that's what happens 90% of the time. For some guys, the idea that by having sex with the girl he'll be hurting them/potentially making them bleed just loses the interest. Now I'm not this shallow, but I know many friends that are.
Reply 5
Am sure he is still interested in you. Dont despair!!
Reply 6
timescale plz.
Reply 7
_Jax_
timescale plz.


about 1 1/2 weeks
Reply 8
hmm well I was going to say that if he hung around for that long then he's into you for more than that but now I'm not to sure. Mabey convince him that if he was with you then eventualy you would put out and that it would not be a big deal to you? I don't know ive never been in a relationship just because I wanted sex.
Reply 9
_Jax_
hmm well I was going to say that if he hung around for that long then he's into you for more than that but now I'm not to sure. Mabey convince him that if he was with you then eventualy you would put out and that it would not be a big deal to you? I don't know ive never been in a relationship just because I wanted sex.


i did say to him the other night that at the moment i just wanted to get to know him better and he said 'so do i'....
Reply 10
did he start being awkward about the same time you said you were a virgin? is there anything else you might've said that's prompted it?
Reply 11
Tim Kabel
did he start being awkward about the same time you said you were a virgin? is there anything else you might've said that's prompted it?


ok i went on msn - it said he was online (quite often it says hes online but hes out of his room) so i said 'u ignorin me then?' and i gave him bout half an hour to reply (he didnt) so said 'ok fine. bye'. he then sent me a text sayin no he wasnt ignorin me, he just hadnt been in his room to get the messages and then said 'sorry babe x'. So i text him back sayin 'oh rite. i thought u were cos u didnt reply to my text yesterday' and he hasnt text back to that one, and that was over an hour ago....i guess i just dont know what to think...whether he's scared of getting into a relationship or something...im not sure....
Reply 12
U cud go out, have sex, come back then say ur not a virgin, then see if he's still this awkward.
Reply 13
rockin_rio
ok i went on msn - it said he was online (quite often it says hes online but hes out of his room) so i said 'u ignorin me then?' and i gave him bout half an hour to reply (he didnt) so said 'ok fine. bye'. he then sent me a text sayin no he wasnt ignorin me, he just hadnt been in his room to get the messages and then said 'sorry babe x'. So i text him back sayin 'oh rite. i thought u were cos u didnt reply to my text yesterday' and he hasnt text back to that one, and that was over an hour ago....i guess i just dont know what to think...whether he's scared of getting into a relationship or something...im not sure....


men can be complete bastards, i did that to my ex, i stopped communicating wiht her for a month, even to the point that she was crying all night long. Her older brother eventually called me up (EEEEEeeeeeeKKKKk) so the next day i called her up and i formally told her that things arent working well, so i just didnt told her that deep inside im gonna break up wif her
Reply 14
rockin_rio
me and this guy have been texting and talking on msn loads and we've seen each other a couple of times. Hes been telling me loads that he really likes me and hes been saying I'm really 'sweet' and 'amazing' and that I'm possible 'girlfriend material' etc...so it's all been going well. We've had some quite deep conversations on msn as well so we're in the process of getting to know each other. The other night I met up with him and he asked me again if i was a virgin. I didnt admit it but did hint at it and he got the message. I think he's been with quite a few girls and anyway, later on he kept goin on about how he's not good enough for me. He said it loads and i was saying to him how 'surely thats my decision to decide whether ur good enough'. I also kept saying to him 'that I cant help who i like'. When I first met him I was worried that all he wanted was sex, but he made that clear and said he didnt. He stayed round the other nite (nothin happened) and then the fllowin mornin when he left he told me to text him after work (he said it twice). So i did but he never replied and hasnt today either...have i put him off somehow...perhaps cos he thinks hes not good enough? What should i do now??

When a guy says
"I think we shouldn't go out because im not good enough for you"
There iver looking for excuses because they dont want you, or there just attention seeking and looking for a ego boost.
Unless there a very shy person.
I agree that it looks like hes playing typical immature lad games.
Reply 15
one word i think can describe this and that is:

mind games!!!

patience and hard to get games
Reply 16
Tim Kabel
U cud go out, have sex, come back then say ur not a virgin, then see if he's still this awkward.


You always give such great advice.
Reply 17
Laursy
one word i think can describe this and that is:

mind games!!!


Your surname wouldn't happen to be 'Bush' by any chance, would it?
Reply 18
just thought id update u guys. Well we spoke last night on msn and he apologised for not texting me back, said he forgot whilst he was busy. he also said that 'you havent done anything, i promise, i promise!!'. So thats where it's at at the moment...I'm going to see how it goes for the next few days. If ne of you have any thoughts or advice on what i shud perhaps do or wat the next move shud be, i would love to hear it. ill keep you posted xx
Reply 19
Your surname wouldn't happen to be 'Bush' by any chance, would it?


nope

did george bush say something like that!!

oh dear!!!