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Same sex best friend fancies me

My best friend (girl) has been telling me she fancies me for a long time now, but recently has started saying she is in love with me. The thing is she's not homosexual or bisexual, because she says (and I believe her) that it is only me that she has felt this way for, no other girls. She seems to think it's pretty normal to have a 'exception' and that people do sometimes feel this way for one member of the same sex although they are completely straight. She's not confused about her sexuality at all, but just has feelings for me. Is it normal, has this happened to anyone else before? I would not dream of not being friends with her anymore but i just don't want things to be a bit difficult in the long term,as I really will not ever feel the same.

Reply 1

lil_sweetie

1

Never happened to me, but I think it's possible for people to have exceptions but not be gay / bi. Make sure she knows exactly how you feel - ie. that it's never going to happen, and just carry on being best mates as normal. Hopefully it won't be weird if you're good enough friends for something like that to not come between you.

Reply 2

hugatree

11

It's possible. :smile:

In fact I have sort of the same thing going on with my friend too but it's not love, just bi-curiosity.

OP

Bi-curiosity?

lessthanthree

when you're not quite sure and want to have a bit of a dabble in same sex relations.

It's no big deal like -tonnes of us go through it :smile:

Yeah..

Reply 5

Duck and Cover

15

different?

The thing is she's not homosexual or bisexual, because she says (and I believe her) that it is only me that she has felt this way for, no other girls. She seems to think it's pretty normal to have a 'exception'

I think it is normal - I'm straight but I'm in exactly the same position with my best guy friend. It's just him...and If it puts you at ease...we have done stuff...and we're still best friends... :rolleyes:

Reply 6

xelprep

that's normal. i love George Michael, but i'm not homosexual :cool:

but seriously, even if it is just *that* person. it means your bisexual or gay for sure. how the hell can you even say something like "hey folks, i just gave my friend (guy) a blowjob but i'm straight! trust me woman!" ....

Reply 7

Duck and Cover

15

xelprep

that's normal. i love George Michael, but i'm not homosexual :cool:

but seriously, even if it is just *that* person. it means your bisexual or gay for sure. how the hell can you even say something like "hey folks, i just gave my friend (guy) a blowjob but i'm straight! trust me woman!" ....

Relationships with women, flings with guys. Love my life :cool:

Reply 8

Laursy

10

maybe she is such a close mate and such a best friend that she has thought she has feelings for you and mistaked friendship for other feelings!!

if you are close to someone and you start feeling something more for them i thinkit is totally normal,

if she is definatly straight i think she is just mistaking it like i said before

one of my mates said she was in love with me and stuff but i know she was straight, it just proves you have a strong friendship if she has told you it must have taken alot of courage,

Reply 9

zhivago

2

Duck and Cover

Relationships with women, flings with guys. Love my life :cool:

I have to say it...that sounds so hot. :wink:

Reply 10

xelprep

Duck and Cover

Relationships with women, flings with guys. Love my life :cool:

I have to say it... i felt sick when i read that

Reply 11

SophistiCat

2

I can really relate to your situation - I fell for my female best friend, although I'm bisexual. We did 'experiment' quite a lot, which encouraged my feelings, and quite frankly complicated things (although if I could go back, I would let it all happen again :biggrin:

) ... I wouldn't suggest you did anything with her unless you feel the same. Do you find her attractive in that way at all? I know my friend felt slightly that way towards me at least, but she ended up getting scared because she didn't want people to think she was a lesbian :rolleyes:

We're not best friends anymore, we didn't speak to each other for about a year after if happened - however, we are now at the same uni and speak to each other pretty often. Its sad that we're not close like we used to be, however I'm not sure if our relationship would work now without things getting 'complicated' again...

*mind wandering where it shouldn't be* :wink:

Reply 12

Laursy

10

why don;t you just talk to her and clear the air if it is making you feel uncomfortable, thats the best thing to do sit down and try and make more sense of it, you might even end up joking about it, don't forget she must have been slightly confused about it and it must have been hard to tell you.

Reply 13

MNBStyle

9

different?

My best friend (girl) has been telling me she fancies me for a long time now, but recently has started saying she is in love with me. The thing is she's not homosexual or bisexual, because she says (and I believe her) that it is only me that she has felt this way for, no other girls. She seems to think it's pretty normal to have a 'exception' and that people do sometimes feel this way for one member of the same sex although they are completely straight. She's not confused about her sexuality at all, but just has feelings for me. Is it normal, has this happened to anyone else before? I would not dream of not being friends with her anymore but i just don't want things to be a bit difficult in the long term,as I really will not ever feel the same.

Yes it is possible, especially if you are very close friends

Reply 14

OppressedMass

13

different?

My best friend (girl) has been telling me she fancies me for a long time now, but recently has started saying she is in love with me. The thing is she's not homosexual or bisexual, because she says (and I believe her) that it is only me that she has felt this way for, no other girls. She seems to think it's pretty normal to have a 'exception' and that people do sometimes feel this way for one member of the same sex although they are completely straight. She's not confused about her sexuality at all, but just has feelings for me. Is it normal, has this happened to anyone else before? I would not dream of not being friends with her anymore but i just don't want things to be a bit difficult in the long term,as I really will not ever feel the same.

If she wants to do naughty things to you then its very unlikely you're an exeption sexual arousal isn't so selective..

Reply 15

different?

OP

2

Right well I'm put a bit at ease that some people think that it's possible, because I really thought it wasn't and it did concern me. Yes we are very close friends, I have spoken to her and I think it's just going to be under the surface, because I don't have any sort of inclination to go down that route and I'm pretty assured that she wouldn't force anything. I suppose I'll just have to see how, if at all it affects things.

Reply 16

hugatree

11

zhivago

I have to say it...that sounds so hot. :wink:

It does doesn't it. :biggrin:

*mind wanders off*

Reply 17

fordeletionpurposesonly.

Be flattered - it's nice when people fancy you surely.

But just make sure that you tell your friend that nothing is going to come of it - you don't want to lead her on in anyway and then let her down and her end up feeling awful. So long as you're honest about everything, your friendship will survive this. Also, be flattered that she obviously trusts you enough to tell you this, she could've bottled this all up under the belief that you would disown her or something. You're obviously a good friend.

Just be open, be honest, be a friend. You'll both be fine.