To those who have been dumped and left completely heartbroken...

It's really easy to get into a trap where the idea of meeting someone new, or even just being single for a while, seems so alien and impossible that you feel more comfortable feeling sorry for yourself and telling yourself there'll never be anyone else again etc.

Don't worry we have all been there! The problem is I know people who have been there for waaaay longer than they should have, sometimes you actually need to push yourself to consider the possibility that things are going to be alright!

Good luck! You'll be fine don't worry

Howa

How'd you know when its been too long?

...how long did it take you to get over that person? I don't mean just any break up, I mean the kind where you are still absolutely in love with that person and would do anything to get them back, but they don't want to know.

TL;DR: Guy I was in love with was an idiot, took me a year to get over it, you'll eventually get over it, don't worry, love

Long version:
OMG It took me like a year and a few months to build a bridge and get the **** over it.
It's sad cos he's the one the asked me out in the first place, and then the next day, dumped me, and immediately got with his friend, then broke up with her after like...3 DAYS.
I still didn't get the message though, cos I was so in love with this idiot.
I always tried to get his attention...so pathetic.
The last time I tried, I called him to ask him if he wanted anything more, he said no. Then the realisation (FINALLY) just hit me, that it was never going to happen, and I started getting over it. Now I can talk to him without having a mental break down, and I'm going to see other people, and I'm happier than I've been in a long time.

Exact same with my 3rd ex..

Lol, funny that

I nearly lost hope that I would never move on, but as we can testify, it eventually happens

Eh, a while. Don't know the actual time-scale, because, y'know, I can't count

Or more srsly, it's because I don't actually care; I never remain friends with ex's, usually because it's a bad break-up (I've been out with some ****ing psychos), but also because I cba to deal with any emotional stress it puts on me. Apathy: feels good man.

About 6-8 months. Just go out and do something else. I joined the gym and stopped texting her. I still miss her a little (the smallest possible amount) but nothing compared to what I did about 3 months after we broke up.

I'm enjoying single life right now I can flirt with anyone I want

...seriously, you couldn't sound more like the worst kind of woman at the moment. I'm assuming you were actually given testicles at birth?

...how long did it take you to get over that person? I don't mean just any break up, I mean the kind where you are still absolutely in love with that person and would do anything to get them back, but they don't want to know.