Confidence...

Any confidence I have recently been trying to develop keeps getting shattered by my inability to try anything new.
I'm absolutely terrified of makeup, new hair, new clothes anything because I'm worried people will say something...the most pathetic thing being I don't know what they could possibly say that would bother me?!
I physically cannot do anything to make myself feel better...I mean I feel really low because I can't try anything new, I don't wear makeup, I wear hats all the time cause my hairs a state and my clothes are basically a mess.
I keep setting myself goals of what I'll do and none of them follow through.
I don't think I'm gunna be able to cope with uni if I can't deal with this...I don't know what to do!

Reply 1

Logan

4

wellp, your parents are always there to help sort you out. Especially ure mum, my mum was the one who taught me how to dress properly, but though she allows me to dress up what i want as it is in that where you learn about yourself. Its all about experimenting on what you look good in, because if youll never try then youll never achieve anything. DOnt be afraid to look a bit silly, people wont care as long as it doesnt go too much over the top :biggrin:

experiment and learn thats the way.. and oh dont wear a cpa, show to the world your beautiful face!!!

Reply 2

Devil Bunny

If I were you i would go on a shopping trip with some mates n all go for a day out together get your mates to give you some tips, maybe go for a makeover to boost your confidence!

Good luck :smile:

Reply 3

discombobulation

OP

2

Dragoness

If I were you i would go on a shopping trip with some mates n all go for a day out together get your mates to give you some tips, maybe go for a makeover to boost your confidence!

Good luck :smile:

I don't have any friends :frown:

honestly...
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nasht

wellp, your parents are always there to help sort you out. Especially ure mum, my mum was the one who taught me how to dress properly, but though she allows me to dress up what i want as it is in that where you learn about yourself. Its all about experimenting on what you look good in, because if youll never try then youll never achieve anything. DOnt be afraid to look a bit silly, people wont care as long as it doesnt go too much over the top :biggrin:

experiment and learn thats the way.. and oh dont wear a cpa, show to the world your beautiful face!!!

Hee hee thanks for your help, I get what you mean totally, my mum is really supportive probably disappointed that I'm not more adventurous! :smile:

I need the hats cause my hair's ick!

Reply 4

Profesh

20

what_a_shambles

I don't have any friends :frown:

honestly...

Then perhaps that is the root of the issue.

Reply 5

discombobulation

OP

2

Profesh

Then perhaps that is the root of the issue.

It probably is but there's nothing I can really do about it, I can't make people want to know me now...it's too late for college and the people from my school at my college dont wanna know :smile:

Reply 6

Profesh

20

what_a_shambles

It probably is but there's nothing I can really do about it, I can't make people want to know me now...it's too late for college and the people from my school at my college dont wanna know :smile:

Then why are you even in the least bit concerned about something so inconsequential?

Reply 7

discombobulation

OP

2

Profesh

Then why are you even in the least bit concerned about something so inconsequential?

Because it is hard to go to a place you hate everyday, hating the way you feel and feeling like someone's going to say something because you know it's a mess and they know the same...

it's impossible to explain it seems.

Reply 8

Devil Bunny

Is there any clubs you could go to too meet new people, im sure someone out there would be friends with you :smile:

keep smiling :smile:

Reply 9

Ben

12

You sound a lot like me. Perhaps you have Social Anxiety, PM me if you want to talk. :smile:

Reply 10

discombobulation

OP

2

Dragoness

Is there any clubs you could go to too meet new people, im sure someone out there would be friends with you :smile:

keep smiling :smile:

I'm hoping to find some when I get away from this place. Because the town is so small, everybody knows everybody, it's horrible and impossible to get away from all the bloody connections...

Reply 11

Devil Bunny

Good luck

dont give up and try to be confident believe in urself and dont care what other people think of you!! I dont :wink:

Reply 12

discombobulation

OP

2

Dragoness

Good luck

dont give up and try to be confident believe in urself and dont care what other people think of you!! I dont :wink:

That is exactly what I need to do really.

Reply 13

jameso88

1

if your worried about your hair you could always go on that hair thread, i think its fashion & beauty and they will give you advice to make your hair less "icky", if you post on that thread they can give you loadsa fashion and beauty tips. you say you have no friends but have you never had them or do you just not have them now.

Reply 14

discombobulation

OP

2

jameso88

if your worried about your hair you could always go on that hair thread, i think its fashion & beauty and they will give you advice to make your hair less "icky", if you post on that thread they can give you loadsa fashion and beauty tips. you say you have no friends but have you never had them or do you just not have them now.

Not had any since starting college 2004 :smile:

Reply 15

oblivious

13

i'd give you a hug but u support liverpool

Reply 16

discombobulation

OP

2

oblivious

i'd give you a hug but u support liverpool

:P meaaaaan :P

Reply 17

Laursy

10

I can't make people want to know me

thats true all my mates disowned me and i have only 1 left who lives miles away, im pretty much on my own none is supporting me!! you know what i do? i just don;t let it get to me, you won;t be happy unless you let yourself be happy, go out meet new people trust me confidence comes naturally when you feel confortable in your self, so why don;t you try differant clothes, try make up, get in touch wid a few old mates (surely they wil wanna catch up) go out have a laugh outer beauty is nothing compared to happiness,

i hate the idea of people being unhappy, at first i was depressed! now i have nothing much, my things and my family aren;t that supportuve either, i just picked up the pieces and carried on as hard as it may be, you should defo do some things to boost your confidence,

as for yor looks, well thats easily manageable but work on the emotional stuff first then you will be able to go out have a laugh and do whatever you want without a care in the world.

if others slate you, ignore them you are you none else can tell you differently, don;t try and change your personality, just figure out some stuff in yor mind, keep a diary of your thoughts and emotions so you can look back!! and work forward!!
i hope everything goes well for you, sounds like you deserve it

Reply 18

xelprep

ok i think best thing to do is sort yourself out before you goto university. forget about college now. make sure you talk to loads of people first day etc at university.

Reply 19

Laursy

10

ok i think best thing to do is sort yourself out before you goto university. forget about college now. make sure you talk to loads of people first day etc at university

indeed talk to people get to know them gain their trust and you trust them, you will soon have confidence once you speck to loads of strangers thats the worst part of the first day over!!

don't think what if they don;t like me? i have done that in the past and it got me nowhere!! think to yourself, im going to be studing with these people and i am going to make friends with them and i am going to ejoy this uni its going to be the best!!

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