Open Relationships?

Is anyone else here, theoretically at least, cool with this idea?

Its something I think about, cos in the next 5-7 years, I hope to meet the one and settle down to something like a stable life (although routine does bore me, and this makes me think my life will be a string of short run flings rather then a long term relationship) , but an "open" arrangement would keep the "new" factor going, hence nullifying to an extent the "routine boredness" that would follow...

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Reply 1

jovialtom

I think open relationships are a good way to start things off, nice and easy. Means you can really decide whether you want to move things to the next level and that your not 'stuck' if you realise that your suited to each other. Not good though if you have different opinions though about how things are going... i couldnt remain in an open relationship for more than 2 months, after that id like to know where things were going....

tom

Reply 2

legbreakgoogly

My problem is that I have a 5 min attention span unless sports is on.

Reply 3

jovialtom

lol, then open relationships prob suit you.... no commitment and leaves room for a quick exit. But i find girls often want to know whats going on, especially if they like you..

Reply 4

legbreakgoogly

Aye. I wish I could find "the right girl" now, rather then breeze thru life until my late 20's/early 30's...but thats unrealistic.

There was one girl at university who may have been the one, but our paths crossed very briefly... :frown:

The question is, would a girl be willing to have an open relationship?

Reply 5

mangomaz

Nope nope nope no never ever ever no no no no open relationships!!!!! I dont see how they could ever work. There would be no trust factor and neither of you would be willing the give the 'relationship' your best shot as there is no guarantee that the other person will be doing the same.

Nope. Never. Ever.

Reply 6

legbreakgoogly

I take it that's a no.

It would allow a more care free relationship.

Reply 7

lovelee-jublee

What's the point of having an 'Open Relationship'? You might as well just sleep around and go with other people. 'Cause that's basically the same thing. The relationship bit suggests commitment, but why commit yourself to one person whilst you're seeing another?! :confused:

I just don't get it! (Maybe thats 'cause I've been in a stable relationship for 2 and a half years so I'm biased! :p:

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Aye.

You might as well just sleep around with random girls. :rolleyes:

Why bother being in a relationship if that's your idea of a relationship?

Reply 10

MissisKate

I couldn't do it... seems far too complicated to me.

You just wouldn't know where you stand.

Plus how weird would it be to go in a club and your 'partner' to turn round and say "oh yeah, I slept with him/her last week" and you were with them just a few hours before/after.

I couldn't stand to think of my boyfriend having sex with someone else.

Reply 11

lovelee-jublee

Icy Ghost

You might as well just sleep around with random girls. :rolleyes:

Why bother being in a relationship if that's your idea of a relationship?

What is the point of calling it a relationship? As far as I'm concerned it isn't a relationship if you're also getting it elsewhere.

Reply 12

Sheen

lil_lee

What is the point of calling it a relationship? As far as I'm concerned it isn't a relationship if you're also getting it elsewhere.

i agree. what is the piont of calling that a relationship.
theres no way id ever want an open relationship and id never know where id stand...and i hate not knowing that.
the thought of my boyfriend being with someone else makes me feel sick.
although there are some girls that like to have open relationships.
oh well everyones different

Reply 13

lovelee-jublee

I've been in a steady relationship for 2 and a half years now, and I can't imagine my boyfriend being with anyone else. When we started our relationship, if he told me he wanted it to be open, I would have said no straight away...it's not right, and there can't be any trust, so it's hardly a proper relationship!

Reply 14

Luvbug

Open relationships in general don't seem to be a good idea. They seem to breed jealousy and resentment between the two people primarily involved. I don't have experience with open relationships but I would say they are probably not going to end up being long term. Plus if you just want to have flings or whatever with other people you probably shouldn't be in a relationship anyway.

Reply 15

PinkPigeon

I can see reasons why you might start with it- especially in the case of say a long-distance thing where if you went into a full relationship cheating could well happen anyway- it's got to be better if it's mutual. But I can never see them working for long- it will soon come to a point where one will want to move the relationship on to a more serious thing and it's whether or not the other person wants that.

Reply 16

legbreakgoogly

Generally negative feedback.

Am I too liberal?

Reply 17

jovialtom

....just wrong terminology

Reply 18

legbreakgoogly

Explain...

I think I am starting to believe in a state of near zero state involvement...

Reply 19

Happy1

I couldnt stand an open relationship... i mean, yeah id like the freedom myself, but i'd be sooo jealous and pissed about my boyfriend doing anything with anyone else lol