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Obviously I have mainly female friends at university and i wouldn't take it further tbh. Why can't you talk to a girl without getting the urge lol
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I hope so but I have never been able to do so. It just always leads to someone making a move on someone. I have been able to be friendly with guys, but not friends. I know girls who have been able to do this, but it is a mystery to me as to how. I would love a guy friend.

Wait. I lied. I have a guy friend. He is gay though so I don't count it.
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They can only be friends if there is no sexual attraction there. If either party fancies the other but is just being their 'friend' but secretly hoping something more will happen, that's phony and not a true friendship.

If there is sexual attraction there, better not to be 'just friends'. Better to be lovers, or not see each other at all....no sense hanging around being 'friends' with someone you fancy but who doesn't feel the same.
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(Original post by Lilli1994)
I was thinking about this the other day... is it possible for girls and boys to be purely just friends, nothing more?
hmm tricky oneee...I think if you're in a relationship and you have a guy mate then you both know the boundaries. as long as you're too in love with your bf to cheat and the guy respects the fact you're taken...nothing will happen. But once you're single (BOTH single) then i think flirtyness etc begins and depending on whether the mutual feelings are there or not it can turn into more.
Hmm i really don't know..all my life i've had guy mates and they've been like BROS but i've come to uni and now i'm single, even when i think it's friendship they end up being flirty etc...you just have to be really cautious. e.g. if a guy is getting a bit too attached and dropping hints then let him know you're not interested..unless of course you are :P
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No. If you are enetering my life girls, you're as good as signing a sexual contract.
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Generally, yes. Guys and girls can just be friends and be 100% platonic. Of course, one might secretly fancy the other at some point, and there might be sexual thoughts or something at some point, but it's not something to be made an issue of and it won't ruin the friendship unless they make a right issue out of it.

Guys and girls that are really close or best friends, however, can be a different story. I believe it's probably the most difficult thing in the world to have both a boyfriend and a male best friend (that is single). In fact, it rarely works. In my experience, the boyfriend and best friend end up at loggerheads and one of them ends up pissing off in the end because the girl is kinda forced to 'choose'. It's not neccessarily the best friend that would make it an issue, but it can make the boyfriend feel quite insecure.
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Yes they can. But more often that not, if one finds the other attractive, they probably want a bit more that 'just friends'.
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Yes.
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Of course.
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Yes.I can be just friends with some boys,while others; can't. It depends on what kind of boy he is.
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yes, most of my friends are male and I am in no way attracted to any of them. Not sure how they feel about me though!
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Of course.

See, most guys, if they were attracted to a woman; they would be trying to **** her before she had her coat off. It is only on here that people go on about friendzone this and harbour all this pent up, unrequited lust towards their friends. If that stuff is out of the way from the get go, it is easier to just be friends.
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Oh of course they can, stop sexualising EVERYTHING and start living life.
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Yes it is. Personally I get on better with boys than girls anyway, girls cause too much drama and bad feeling a lot of the time.
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yes, considering I have a few guy friends who are bisexual or homosexual, so don't have any 'interest' in me.
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Stupid question.
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Yes they can.

I have no idea when people started saying they can't I mean you can even have a friend who you know is gorgeous but you still don't see her in a sexual way. I can anyway. There are many people in my life; co-workers, friends of the family, teachers etc. that I have found attractive but have never done anything about it nor have I ever wanted to. I have been perfectly happy with just seeing them in a friends capacity.

Life isn't a porno, people don't have sex with their teachers or their best friend's mum or their parents friends or any of the other weird things pornos roleplay. Not people with half a conscience anyway.
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Yup, possible.



Eventually, TSR will end up with around 20 threads stickied at the top of H&R to answer these questions - like: what do guys like in girls and other such recurring threads.
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