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Whats wrong with me ?

Hi I'm really worried, recently everything I do makes me upset. Just little things make me start to cry and most days I don't even have the motivation to go to uni. I can't be bothered to talk to mates anymore and mostly stay in my room crying. My bf is getting so pissed off as ytou can imagine as I ring him up and then suomething sets me off and I start crying. I miss him so much at uni but its got to the point where I wanna see him everyday and if i don't i get really upset.Im so worried something is wrong with me, I just cant be bothered to eat or be social all i wanna do is cry :frown:

Reply 1

Enchanté

14

It sounds to me you may have depression...or your are stressed out from doing uni work which can be upsetting my a level work upsets me sometimes ask your GP about this it could be nothing :smile:

xxx

Reply 2

CherryGarcia

1

may be you have pms? when ru expecting your periods?

Reply 3

Monkey_Maiden

OP

11

Its not PMS as I never get that and its nowhere near my period. Ive slept most of today as I dont feel like I should do anything :frown:

My bf just said he doesnt know if he still loves me anymore and cant cope with me and we should split up. Whenever he says stuff like that I get really hysterical and it makes things worse :frown:

Reply 4

MNBStyle

9

Monkey_Maiden

Hi I'm really worried, recently everything I do makes me upset. Just little things make me start to cry and most days I don't even have the motivation to go to uni. I can't be bothered to talk to mates anymore and mostly stay in my room crying. My bf is getting so pissed off as ytou can imagine as I ring him up and then suomething sets me off and I start crying. I miss him so much at uni but its got to the point where I wanna see him everyday and if i don't i get really upset.Im so worried something is wrong with me, I just cant be bothered to eat or be social all i wanna do is cry :frown:

Sounds like all the signs of depression to me, are you under alot of pressure at uni, or missing your family back home more than you expected.
Your boyfriend shouldnt get pissed off at you for it he should be supporting you

Reply 5

Laursy

10

My bf just said he doesnt know if he still loves me anymore and cant cope with me and we should split up. Whenever he says stuff like that I get really hysterical and it makes things worse

he shouldnt be so insensitive you need someone to talk ot who will listen and talk you through it, go to the doctor hun or even speck to one of your mates about how you are feeling, i hope things get better for you!!

Reply 6

Library

2

Monkey_Maiden

Hi I'm really worried, recently everything I do makes me upset. Just little things make me start to cry and most days I don't even have the motivation to go to uni. I can't be bothered to talk to mates anymore and mostly stay in my room crying. My bf is getting so pissed off as ytou can imagine as I ring him up and then suomething sets me off and I start crying. I miss him so much at uni but its got to the point where I wanna see him everyday and if i don't i get really upset.Im so worried something is wrong with me, I just cant be bothered to eat or be social all i wanna do is cry :frown:

Nothing is wrong with you. You need sport!... if that doesnt work, a trip down the GPs might help.

Reply 7

MNBStyle

9

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Nothing is wrong with you. You need sport!... if that doesnt work, a trip down the GPs might help.

Thats 2 threads youve mentioned sport in now to solve a problem :p:

Thoe you are right exercise does help alot in these situations i just found it funny, i can just picture someone talking about there problem then you pop out of nowhere going
"Ahhhhh but Sport is the answer" *no offence* :biggrin:

Reply 8

Dalimyr

17

Monkey_Maiden

Hi I'm really worried, recently everything I do makes me upset. Just little things make me start to cry and most days I don't even have the motivation to go to uni. I can't be bothered to talk to mates anymore and mostly stay in my room crying. My bf is getting so pissed off as ytou can imagine as I ring him up and then suomething sets me off and I start crying. I miss him so much at uni but its got to the point where I wanna see him everyday and if i don't i get really upset.Im so worried something is wrong with me, I just cant be bothered to eat or be social all i wanna do is cry :frown:

Getting upset at random things, not being bothered to do various things...yeah, it's depression.
Try to socialise as much as possible - in the past I've found that by not being alone, I wasn't dwelling on my depression. After all, thinking about how upset you are is only going to make you feel worse, isn't it?
However, when you are alone, it may be an idea to try and pinpoint when the depression started and what the root cause of it may be...once you know that, you can maybe talk to friends, your boyfriend or whoever you feel comfortable talking with about how you could go about sorting the problem out.

It's a fairly short-term fix, but hopefully the depression will only be a short-term thing :smile:

If it lasts, or if it recurs, maybe see your GP about getting a prescription of anti-depressants (which, although I suffer from depression fairly often, I have yet to do...I really should listen to my own advice :biggrin:

)

Reply 9

BlueRoses

14

It does sound like you have depression. See your GP if you're really worried, or try talking to a uni councillor (you'll probably have one). You could also try talking to Samaritans, their phone number is 0845 7909090.

Good luck, I know what it's like to feel really depressed. xxxx :smile:

thinking of you

Reply 10

Monkey_Maiden

OP

11

Thanks everyone :smile:

I've made an appointment with the uni counsellor next wed so hopefully that might help things. my bf is down for the weekend and we've talked bout it and he says he will try to help but doesn't know how to, so I don't wanna burden him.
Yeah I have bee n under a lot of pressure, starting uni, moving away esp as I was quite a family person anyway, plus it probly doesn't halp that im a constant worrier :frown:

I'm ok now as my bf is down but when he goes on sunday im scared i'll goback to being so down I wont leave my bed
Sorry for moaning, thanks for listening
x

Reply 11

xXMessedUpXx

15

you sound exactly how i've been for the last few weeks (and i suffer from depression). hopefully if you see acounseller it will help you. dont think of it as burdening your bf. he's said he wants to help so let him. it may be the best he can do it offer you support (which yuo ned right now). if your family don't already know, maybe you should tell them. it might help you through this if you have your family's support?
Another thing..don't do what i did and start drinking...not a good way to cope :redface:

even to wehn i was drunk i didn't feel down. i know its hard but *try* not to stay in your room the whole time. its not easy but if theres anyway communual (living room?) then try and go there. even if its only for 10 minutes at a time. just to try and break it up a bit.
And fresh air can work wonders. Ive spent the last 4 weeks on/off trying to make myself get out of my room. etc Maybe its easier for me cos i've had depression before and i know what i personally have to do to help myself, however hopefully through counselling you'll discover what you nee to do to help yourself.
sorry i've rambelled on :redface:

Take care and keep us updated, and if you need to chat PM me x
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Laursy

he shouldnt be so insensitive you need someone to talk ot who will listen and talk you through it, go to the doctor hun or even speck to one of your mates about how you are feeling, i hope things get better for you!!

mine did that a month or two ago. in fact i spent all day crying in bed... :redface:

try not to rely on him to make you happy. i've made that mistake with my own bf x

Reply 12

Dalimyr

17

Another thing..don't do what i did and start drinking...not a good way to cope :redface:

At our age, that's really something that comes naturally if the depression gets bad enough...depression can lead to alcoholism and even suicide (it has done with me; a suicide attempt, anyway). Sort it out before it gets to that stage :wink:

Maybe its easier for me cos i've had depression before and i know what i personally have to do to help myself

Yep, I'd agree with that. The first time you get depression, as with the first time pretty much anything happens to you, you're not entirely sure what you have to do to cope with it. Once you've had experience, you have a fair idea of the things to do and things to avoid doing...

And fresh air can work wonders

Mmm, true. Nothing beats a stroll down quiet streets at 3 or 4 in the morning :biggrin:

Absolute peace and quiet and the fresh air - helps you gather your thoughts in non-claustrophobic surroundings :smile:

Though if you're sensible enough to go to your bed at a decent time, here's hoping you know of some nice place to walk around in; a park or somewhere :smile:

try not to rely on him to make you happy. i've made that mistake with my own bf x

Umm, isn't your boyfriend supposed to be someone who you can confide in and turn to whenever you're feeling down? Or is that just my misconstrued perception of what he should be like? I'm in agreement with Laursy - he should be sensitive to her feelings and help her through it, not trying to weasel his way out.
I know that with your depression this really isn't the best time to say this, monkey_maiden, but your boyfriend is probably right to say that he's not sure if he loves you - if he's not willing to help you through something like this (and I know how much it hurts mentally; depression can be gruelling at the best of times), he's not worth holding onto. Find yourself someone who'll actually treat you with the love and care you need and deserve, hun.

Reply 13

Mafer

Yeah, I think it's really about stress. It's normal, so don't bother much, just keep telling yourself everything is okey, and try to sort trouble one by one. don't cope with it all at once...

Reply 14

Evenstar

13

I agree with Dalimyr. I too have suffered from depression in the past (although I haven't had a relapse now for ages *touches wood*), and everything he said is spot on. Basically the worst thing you can do is shut yourself off from the world and stew in your depression. You need help, whether it's emotional support from your friends or practical help from your GP. Hope you feel better soon xx

Reply 15

mangomaz

14

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Nothing is wrong with you. You need sport!... if that doesnt work, a trip down the GPs might help.

This is very true, try to avoid taking pills if the doc prescribes them and try and use excercise instead. Its been clinically proven I think to work just as well as taking pills. (I think I dont have any sources!)

Reply 16

Dalimyr

17

Evenstar

I agree with Dalimyr. I too have suffered from depression in the past (although I haven't had a relapse now for ages *touches wood*), and everything he said is spot on.

Thanks for that :smile:

It's nice to know that my past experiences can help other people when they feel down, and it's a very nice confidence boost for people to say that what I say is spot on :cool:

It is a shame, though, that the areas of conversation where this is most often the case is in topics discussing depression and suicide, which unfortunately are my main memories of what are undoubtedly the worst years of my life...

It's hard to talk about, and probably always will be, but I have no problem doing it if I feel that I can help someone else with their problem. I now honestly see myself as something of a lost cause - I know my frequent depression relapses will get the better of me one day...however, I know that people who are not in as bad a condition as I am can have a proper second chance, and if I can feel that I helped them on their way to starting up that second chance, I'm damn well going to try :smile:

*takes deep breath*

Anyway, good luck to monkey_maiden and anyone else in a similar situation to her. You'll always have my support :hugs:

Reply 17

Monkey_Maiden

OP

11

Hi probablys everyone sick of hearing me go on but theres not many othwr people who listen. I spoke to mum on phone other day saying im feeling depressed and not motivated anymore and all she said was cheer up, you cant move back as we have just swapped the rooms around. things really are bad. my counselling app is on wed but that might not even help. my bf works all day so he cant contact me and all my mates say its just a phase dont worry :frown:

First day back at uni after reading week and it was horrible, lack of motivation to listen, felt like walking out halfway through. i seriously consider if I should drop outta uni. I really resent it and i wanna be with my mates and family at home when im down like this :frown:

Reply 18

Dalimyr

17

Hi probablys everyone sick of hearing me go on

Not at all, hun :hugs:

my counselling app is on wed but that might not even help

I'm not going to comment on that too much, having never had a counselling session myself...it should help, but there's only one way to find out.

all my mates say its just a phase dont worry

Well, sometimes it is, but then again sometimes it isn't...in my case, this "phase" has been on and off for about 3 years now. Alright, I'll try to stay positive from now on :smile:

You've got to hope it'll just be a phase and you'll get over it quickly, but you've got to beat it down otherwise it'll beat you down. The things we've mentioned earlier in this topic really do work for clearing your mind of the depressive thoughts that will be doing nothing but making your depression even worse, so give them a try. Even if it doesn't stop the depression, it'll weaken it a bit, which can make it a bit easier for you to cope.

First day back at uni after reading week and it was horrible, lack of motivation to listen, felt like walking out halfway through

Well, you did better than me, then. Before reading week, I vowed that I'd go to my 9am lectures and would work hard...woke up at 7am today, got up out of bed, and sat down at the computer...my motivation was (and still is) so low that I can't be bothered going to class at all - at least you managed to do that :wink:

i seriously consider if I should drop outta uni

No, hun, really - don't do that...I know how you're feeling, but dropping out is not the answer...hell, that could even make your depression worse (by dropping out of uni, it would give you a feeling that you failed at it, but because depression has a nasty habit of making you twist everything around, it would probably make you think that you've just failed in general)

I really resent it and i wanna be with my mates and family at home when im down like this

Trust me, go out and meet some people - get your mind off the depression for a while. If you've got any close friends, maybe tell them about how you're feeling and maybe they could try to cheer you up.

You've got all the sympathy I can give you, hun :hugs:

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...eh, why not? :hugs:

Reply 19

Clairehayz

5

This thread has really helped me, I am in exactly the same position as Monkey Maiden, and I mean exactly the same, the only difference is I haven't moved away to uni yet, it's the UCAS and work deadlines and fees and boyfriend that is all stressing me out. I 've had depression for about a year and a half now and I've only just started to sort it out, so you can probably tell I'm really bad, I tried a counsellor recently and it didn't work, maybe because I do psychology and I understood the approaches she was trying or because she was just pants lol but yeah I'm quite bad so I think I should go to the doctors or something.
I get so stressed and frustrated the only thing that actually makes me feel better is weed, a whole packet of fags or cuttin myself. I'm just scared that when I go to the doctors, he won't say I've got depression, and that he's actually gonna say I'm just a nutter!?!??! :confused:

And going for walks really helps me as well (usually whilst smoking a fag/spliff) I find I wake up at about 4 in the morning and have the urge to go for a walk or tidy up my room, then I feel fine and relaxed, how random!

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