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Girls coming onto your boyfriend
Usually we think it's men who grope us in clubs, but I've noticed girls doing a lot of groping recently!
Last night I think I had one guy put his hand on my bum (it was ridiculous because I was dancing with my boyfriend). I stepped away and he tried again, so I took hold of his hand and threw it off me. Sorted.
Then there was this girl that my bf has met once. Apparently she's a complete whore, but I don't know her. My bf was following me and my friend to the dancefloor, and she saw him and started running her hands down his chest. He walked away. Next she walked out of the toilet in front of me, where he was waiting for me, and started trying to dance sexily with him, so I sidestepped in front of her and grabbed my bf. Then later she tried AGAIN! She started feeling him up from behind, he turned around and shook his head at her.
My point is, I remember the thread where we slagged off sleazy guys, but most of them, if you firmly remove their hand, or ask what they're doing, or tell them no, they'll stop. Girls on the other hand... Most guys don't try it on when you're with your boyfriend, but girls try it on with guys who very obviously have a girlfriend (I know a friend of this girl and she definitely knows that my bf is taken!). Fair enough, my boyfriend is gorgeous, but you don't make moves on a guy whose (rather tall and scary looking) girlfriend is there.
Girls, what would you have done in that situation? What would make a girl stop coming onto a guy? (Either from a perspective as a girl or the girlfriend).
Guys, do you enjoy attention like that? What would you do if you were my bf in this situation?
Last night I think I had one guy put his hand on my bum (it was ridiculous because I was dancing with my boyfriend). I stepped away and he tried again, so I took hold of his hand and threw it off me. Sorted.
Then there was this girl that my bf has met once. Apparently she's a complete whore, but I don't know her. My bf was following me and my friend to the dancefloor, and she saw him and started running her hands down his chest. He walked away. Next she walked out of the toilet in front of me, where he was waiting for me, and started trying to dance sexily with him, so I sidestepped in front of her and grabbed my bf. Then later she tried AGAIN! She started feeling him up from behind, he turned around and shook his head at her.
My point is, I remember the thread where we slagged off sleazy guys, but most of them, if you firmly remove their hand, or ask what they're doing, or tell them no, they'll stop. Girls on the other hand... Most guys don't try it on when you're with your boyfriend, but girls try it on with guys who very obviously have a girlfriend (I know a friend of this girl and she definitely knows that my bf is taken!). Fair enough, my boyfriend is gorgeous, but you don't make moves on a guy whose (rather tall and scary looking) girlfriend is there.
Girls, what would you have done in that situation? What would make a girl stop coming onto a guy? (Either from a perspective as a girl or the girlfriend).
Guys, do you enjoy attention like that? What would you do if you were my bf in this situation?
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Wow, that girl sounds like she's got some nerve!
There are a few girls who always flirt with my bf, a couple of them are a lot younger so I'm not too bothered, but the ones who are my age just piss me off. I feel like slapping them and telling them to go away, he's mine! Tbh though he likes the attention
but I don't think he'd do anything with them... they've never been as obvious as that girl in the club you were talking about, it's more just verbal flirting. If a girl did that to my bf when I was with him I'd have difficulty restraining myself from giving her a good slap!
There are a few girls who always flirt with my bf, a couple of them are a lot younger so I'm not too bothered, but the ones who are my age just piss me off. I feel like slapping them and telling them to go away, he's mine! Tbh though he likes the attention
but I don't think he'd do anything with them... they've never been as obvious as that girl in the club you were talking about, it's more just verbal flirting. If a girl did that to my bf when I was with him I'd have difficulty restraining myself from giving her a good slap!
If that happened with a bloke I was seeing I would want him to firmly tell her to leave him alone and that I was his girlfriend. This bloke keeps asking me out and I'm thinking about it but one of his female friends is completely in love with him and is all over him all the time and I said there is no chance of me saying yes while he lets her do that.
shes just jealous if that was me i'd be like 'have a look aorund theres plenty of other single guy here so go away'... well that sort of thing i mean she was doing it to annoy you by the sounds of it but thats not the point it is unfair seeing you and your bf love each other and she tries and move onto him. it was a good idea to keep stepping in front of her and your bf pushing her away i mean that proves that he wants you and you want him. xxx you both sound nice honest people who are happy together by the way! xxx
Wow.
I've honestly never been in that situation before, (I'm not a regular at pubs and clubs, which is probably the reason) and I don't quite know what I'd do if I was. My boyfriend would probably tell the girl to leave him alone (he phoned me the other night to say that some drunken woman had been chasing him and he had to tell her to go away) but if he didn't, or if he did and she didn't listen to him... I don't know. If I was drunk I would probably give off a foul-mouthed tirade but I don't think that would achieve anything. Probably I would tell her shortly and sharply to get lost, although depending on what type of person she was, it might end in a fight...
I don't know to be honest. Instinct would be to tell her to go away politely... in reality I would probably slap her or use foul language *shrugs*
I've honestly never been in that situation before, (I'm not a regular at pubs and clubs, which is probably the reason) and I don't quite know what I'd do if I was. My boyfriend would probably tell the girl to leave him alone (he phoned me the other night to say that some drunken woman had been chasing him and he had to tell her to go away) but if he didn't, or if he did and she didn't listen to him... I don't know. If I was drunk I would probably give off a foul-mouthed tirade but I don't think that would achieve anything. Probably I would tell her shortly and sharply to get lost, although depending on what type of person she was, it might end in a fight...
I don't know to be honest. Instinct would be to tell her to go away politely... in reality I would probably slap her or use foul language *shrugs*
I know a few girls like that. I seriously wish beating women repeatedly with blunt objects wasnt so frowned upon in situations like that.
L.J
I'm quite glad that people seem to agree that it was ok for me to be angry! My boyfriend wasn't happy that I was pissed off, but I think he needs to tell girls like that to get lost. Should I have said something? Or pushed her away?
If anyone should say something to her, or physically push her away, it should be him, in my opinion.
BlackHawk
Ah you jump to conclusions. Who ever said you had to lay a hand on someone to teach them respect?
As for the forces not being proud.
As for the forces not being proud.
It was a jibe - i come from a town with a big army base, and they kick off so often with the locals. hence to me it seems like part and parcel with the army. that said they are TA so not really same as regulars.
How do you teach someone respect in a club without violence..?
no like they can hear you.
BlackHawk
I don't think it's a good idea for a man to physically push away a woman. May get into trouble that way.
Maybe he didn't tell her to go away as he enjoyed the attention and enjoyed knowing the L.J was jealous.
Maybe he didn't tell her to go away as he enjoyed the attention and enjoyed knowing the L.J was jealous.
doubt he has the balls. L.J doesn't sound the sort who you try to make jealous.
BlackHawk
I don't think it's a good idea for a man to physically push away a woman. May get into trouble that way.
I didn't mean push her away in a forceful way - I agree that wouldn't be a good idea from anyone, male or female. Moving someone's hands away if they strayed would be acceptable though.
BlackHawk
Maybe he didn't tell her to go away as he enjoyed the attention and enjoyed knowing the L.J was jealous.
For her sake I hope not!
L.J
I would quite happily remove someone's hands from either myself or my boyfriend, or push someone out of the way if they were trying it on with him. Is that acceptable?
I'm aware he should have told her to get lost... So is he. He just lacks confidence and thinks it's mean to tell people to stop it. Or so he says.
I'm aware he should have told her to get lost... So is he. He just lacks confidence and thinks it's mean to tell people to stop it. Or so he says.
I think it's important for your boyfriend to do the talking/hand removing etc. to make it clear to her that he is not interested. If you step in and do it yourself, you will come across as the jealous girlfriend and she may assume that she'll simply have better luck if you are not around.
Your boyfriend needs to learn to be more assertive, especially if he's as attractive as you say - otherwise he risks getting accosted by random women and not being able to say no!
Navindu
It was a jibe - i come from a town with a big army base, and they kick off so often with the locals. hence to me it seems like part and parcel with the army. that said they are TA so not really same as regulars.
How do you teach someone respect in a club without violence..?
no like they can hear you.
How do you teach someone respect in a club without violence..?
no like they can hear you.
You just have to know what to say to get someones attention really.
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