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Complicated love polygon! What to do?
Recently (well july) I broke up with an ex of 2 years, I loved him very much and he dumped me. The thing is I still think about him, I realise there are better men out there with interests more suited to me. I often felt he was never going anywhere and was somewhat dim and also short (besides the point). I feel that I do however still feel upset so see him with another girl, knowing full well that I couldn't feel for him again and he quite frankly makes me feel queezy with unattractiveness!
Anyway, that ended I moved on (?) I got with a guy who seemed out of my league, I feel he used me a bit looking back. We went out on 'dates' met up and after we slept together he told me he still loved his ex and that he couldnt commit to me so that stopped. I was gutted to say the least.
Recently however I told a close friend (who Im not too certain for sure my feelings for) that I liked him. We have kissed and he tells me he wants a relationship (but for some reason that makes me want to run a mile!)
I found out today tho that one of my best friends from another school who I don't catch up with as often as I would like to had pulled him in a club (then in an allyway very drunkenly after) that she really really likes him and nearly cried when he stopped responding to her texts (co-insiding with me telling him that I liked him).... and I feel awful because my feelings are so uncertain and this guy likes me so much! I led him on and everything. Hes friends with my ex too which is awkward. I don't want to hurt him at all. Neither me or my friend knew the other was interested! I feel bad to her and to him. I'm confused too because he was going to meet her up until I text him saying I liked him! (Not knowing or anything of course)
(Oh yeah and he is a virgin as is my friend where as I am not.) Not sure If it's relevent but maybe when you talk about hurting people and suitedness?
On top of this I met a sweet guy in a club who I plan to meet who has very similar interests.
So in short:
EX? Whats happening there.
I thought I liked guy who my friend likes very much but since he thinks I like him has stopped all interest in my friend who is besotted! EEEKKK
What should I do??????
Anyway, that ended I moved on (?) I got with a guy who seemed out of my league, I feel he used me a bit looking back. We went out on 'dates' met up and after we slept together he told me he still loved his ex and that he couldnt commit to me so that stopped. I was gutted to say the least.
Recently however I told a close friend (who Im not too certain for sure my feelings for) that I liked him. We have kissed and he tells me he wants a relationship (but for some reason that makes me want to run a mile!)
I found out today tho that one of my best friends from another school who I don't catch up with as often as I would like to had pulled him in a club (then in an allyway very drunkenly after) that she really really likes him and nearly cried when he stopped responding to her texts (co-insiding with me telling him that I liked him).... and I feel awful because my feelings are so uncertain and this guy likes me so much! I led him on and everything. Hes friends with my ex too which is awkward. I don't want to hurt him at all. Neither me or my friend knew the other was interested! I feel bad to her and to him. I'm confused too because he was going to meet her up until I text him saying I liked him! (Not knowing or anything of course)
(Oh yeah and he is a virgin as is my friend where as I am not.) Not sure If it's relevent but maybe when you talk about hurting people and suitedness?
On top of this I met a sweet guy in a club who I plan to meet who has very similar interests.
So in short:
EX? Whats happening there.
I thought I liked guy who my friend likes very much but since he thinks I like him has stopped all interest in my friend who is besotted! EEEKKK
What should I do??????
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naelse
sounds like you're not really ready for a relationship right now
Yes the ex and the 'attractive bloke' i think may have put me off. Perhaps because the 'attractive bloke' was so out of my league I can't set my sights any lower - even tho the guy is a really nice bloke! I think its scared me and I don't want to hurt him or me!
do they know eachother? you just have to keep your fingers crossed and hope that neither of them ever meet lol. plus if you arent actually in a relationship with either of them then you havent done anything wrong!
i think as others have said you should forget about your ex - his unattractiveness makes you feel queasy - i think this is affirmative of the fact you don't want to be with him anymore, and the guy who seemed to use you...
firstly with your close friend you haven't done anything wrong as you didnt know the other girl liked him. if your feelings are uncertain i don't think you should take things any further at the moment. plus the fact do you know how he feels about her? it was him pulling her so you shouldnt feel bad. i'd advise you to take a step back from having a r-ship with him at the moment.
the guy you met in the club, he sounds like he has potential so probably get to know him a bit better and see how it goes and which one you feel for.
good luck
firstly with your close friend you haven't done anything wrong as you didnt know the other girl liked him. if your feelings are uncertain i don't think you should take things any further at the moment. plus the fact do you know how he feels about her? it was him pulling her so you shouldnt feel bad. i'd advise you to take a step back from having a r-ship with him at the moment.
the guy you met in the club, he sounds like he has potential so probably get to know him a bit better and see how it goes and which one you feel for.
good luck
Thanks its interesting you think I should steer clear if of all except the guy in the club. WOuld it be weird to think the reason for being more interested now in the other guy who my friend likes is because I fear that if I don't do something I will loose him. Like I suppose the idea of kids when they say 'I don't want him but nobody else can!'
its interesting you think I should steer clear if of all except the guy in the club. WOuld it be weird to think the reason for being more interested now in the other guy who my friend likes is because I fear that if I don't do something I will loose him. Like I suppose the idea of kids when they say 'I don't want him but nobody else can!'thw worse thing you can do is fall out with people close to you over a bloke, ive done it and now half the people i used to be mates with think im evil, for having a go at someone who was sleeping with my ex when i was still with him.
forget about your ex, take things slow when you meet someone else!!
don't rush things and jump in head first!!!
forget about your ex, take things slow when you meet someone else!!
don't rush things and jump in head first!!!
but this friend is cool, shes knows i didnt know and were friends!
don;t let it come between you because what i have learnt is mates is more important then a bloke, i kissed this guy my mate liked even though he told me he had told her he didn;t feel the same, i found out they were going out a few days later!! and she hasn't spoken to me since!!
id get really drunk on something poetically rock n roll, like cheap rose wine or something and then make my mind up. Try it. Works for me.
Steer clear of men until you have got your head sorted-out as you will just end up with a bad reputation.
Tell the guy who your mate fancies that you don't like him - that way he can get on with his life rather than being messed around by you (and your mate will probably be happier too).
Tell the guy who your mate fancies that you don't like him - that way he can get on with his life rather than being messed around by you (and your mate will probably be happier too).
-sophie-
Recently (well july) I broke up with an ex of 2 years, I loved him very much and he dumped me. The thing is I still think about him, I realise there are better men out there with interests more suited to me. I often felt he was never going anywhere and was somewhat dim and also short (besides the point). I feel that I do however still feel upset so see him with another girl, knowing full well that I couldn't feel for him again and he quite frankly makes me feel queezy with unattractiveness!
Anyway, that ended I moved on (?) I got with a guy who seemed out of my league, I feel he used me a bit looking back. We went out on 'dates' met up and after we slept together he told me he still loved his ex and that he couldnt commit to me so that stopped. I was gutted to say the least.
Recently however I told a close friend (who Im not too certain for sure my feelings for) that I liked him. We have kissed and he tells me he wants a relationship (but for some reason that makes me want to run a mile!)
I found out today tho that one of my best friends from another school who I don't catch up with as often as I would like to had pulled him in a club (then in an allyway very drunkenly after) that she really really likes him and nearly cried when he stopped responding to her texts (co-insiding with me telling him that I liked him).... and I feel awful because my feelings are so uncertain and this guy likes me so much! I led him on and everything. Hes friends with my ex too which is awkward. I don't want to hurt him at all. Neither me or my friend knew the other was interested! I feel bad to her and to him. I'm confused too because he was going to meet her up until I text him saying I liked him! (Not knowing or anything of course)
(Oh yeah and he is a virgin as is my friend where as I am not.) Not sure If it's relevent but maybe when you talk about hurting people and suitedness?
On top of this I met a sweet guy in a club who I plan to meet who has very similar interests.
So in short:
EX? Whats happening there.
I thought I liked guy who my friend likes very much but since he thinks I like him has stopped all interest in my friend who is besotted! EEEKKK
What should I do??????
Anyway, that ended I moved on (?) I got with a guy who seemed out of my league, I feel he used me a bit looking back. We went out on 'dates' met up and after we slept together he told me he still loved his ex and that he couldnt commit to me so that stopped. I was gutted to say the least.
Recently however I told a close friend (who Im not too certain for sure my feelings for) that I liked him. We have kissed and he tells me he wants a relationship (but for some reason that makes me want to run a mile!)
I found out today tho that one of my best friends from another school who I don't catch up with as often as I would like to had pulled him in a club (then in an allyway very drunkenly after) that she really really likes him and nearly cried when he stopped responding to her texts (co-insiding with me telling him that I liked him).... and I feel awful because my feelings are so uncertain and this guy likes me so much! I led him on and everything. Hes friends with my ex too which is awkward. I don't want to hurt him at all. Neither me or my friend knew the other was interested! I feel bad to her and to him. I'm confused too because he was going to meet her up until I text him saying I liked him! (Not knowing or anything of course)
(Oh yeah and he is a virgin as is my friend where as I am not.) Not sure If it's relevent but maybe when you talk about hurting people and suitedness?
On top of this I met a sweet guy in a club who I plan to meet who has very similar interests.
So in short:
EX? Whats happening there.
I thought I liked guy who my friend likes very much but since he thinks I like him has stopped all interest in my friend who is besotted! EEEKKK
What should I do??????
Give it time. Eventually the right choice will become obvious. If it is not obvious now then you are not ready for it!!
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