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I feel unmotivated

I feel unmotivated in school at the moment and in my relationship. Right now I'm in a long-distance relationship and we've been arguing for the past couple of months constantly. He says that he feels that we're going to drift apart permanently and not work out, which utterly makes him disappointed since he loves me and wants it to work out, and he's trying to fix it but I'm not putting in any effort. He says that I am the only thing in his life worthwhile and without me he has nothing. (This is probably due to the fact that he dropped out of university, etc. He doesn't seem to care about the rational in life.) The thing is that I have developed feelings for another, but I still love my boyfriend, even if just as a friend. He has been the best friend of my life thus far.

Should we just end it and never speak to each other again? I'm not naive to believe that friendships can last afterwards, especially since this is long-distance.
SlyPie
I feel unmotivated in school at the moment and in my relationship. Right now I'm in a long-distance relationship and we've been arguing for the past couple of months constantly. He says that he feels that we're going to drift apart permanently and not work out, which utterly makes him disappointed since he loves me and wants it to work out, and he's trying to fix it but I'm not putting in any effort. He says that I am the only thing in his life worthwhile and without me he has nothing. (This is probably due to the fact that he dropped out of university, etc. He doesn't seem to care about the rational in life.) The thing is that I have developed feelings for another, but I still love my boyfriend, even if just as a friend. He has been the best friend of my life thus far.

Should we just end it and never speak to each other again? I'm not naive to believe that friendships can last afterwards, especially since this is long-distance.


I'm sorry :frown: I know how rough it feels, I've been there myself. Ideally you'd be able to break up with the long-distance boyfriend but still stay friends, but it never works like that!
Umm. Yeah. If you really don't feel strongly about him any more and there's someone else you like, the sooner you break up the less painful it is...
Reply 2
opiache
I'm sorry :frown: I know how rough it feels, I've been there myself. Ideally you'd be able to break up with the long-distance boyfriend but still stay friends, but it never works like that!
Umm. Yeah. If you really don't feel strongly about him any more and there's someone else you like, the sooner you break up the less painful it is...


yeh i agree, the longer you leave it, the worse it will become and maybe even harder to break-up.
Reply 3
That's the thing though: I'm already having somewhat of a hard time because it has been 4+ years. I can't even remember the day when he wasn't in my life.
Well it is apparent to an extent from your post that you want different things in life - do you really want to be with someone like that?
Reply 5
octanethriller
Well it is apparent to an extent from your post that you want different things in life - do you really want to be with someone like that?


If he wins the lottery, yes. But in all seriousness, I can't see it realistically working, but he is my best friend. He knows me inside & out.
Reply 6
you should speck to him about how you are feeling rather then just finishing it like that he will respect you more if you discuss it with him and then you may still stay friends, personally i treated my exes like poop thats why they don;t like me anymore

you don;t want to lose your best friend as who is going to be there when you need a shoulder none does it better then your best mate!!
Reply 7
you know it is never easy to find real love, but alwasy easy to lose it..if you have decided to lose it, think twice about it, not to regret in future, but anyway, you should listen to what your hears tells you..and follow it, just like this you can be happy...so, take ur decision, but dot make mistakes.
you know it is never easy to find real love, but always easy to lose it..if you have decided to lose it, think twice about it before doing it, not to regret in future, but anyway, you should listen to what your heart tells you..and follow it, just like this you can be happy...so, take ur decision, but dot make mistakes.
SlyPie
If he wins the lottery, yes. But in all seriousness, I can't see it realistically working, but he is my best friend. He knows me inside & out.
my ex was my best friend, i knew him for 3 years and we were going out 18 months of that. Its very difficult to let someone liek that go from your life, but you have to do whats best. If you stay togetehr you may split anyway, at least if you split on good terms, you have a chance of keeping some of your friendship. It takes time, but if you split up, you will adjust. Its not an easy decsion to make (mine was made for me) but only you know what is right..
Reply 10
It's more so true that the girl will cheat on the guy nowadays ...