I'll try to keep this as short as possible. From 2009, I was involved with a man who by all accounts is absolutely perfect for me (or so I thought). We became best friends as well as partners and it was wonderful, I genuinely didn't think I could be happier. Then things started to deteriorate (I have a few things going on which meant I couldn't put 100% effort into the relationship) and we broke up.
This part was fine, as we were both still really good friends and decided to go on as before. I didn't expect to find anyone else, but then, sods law I did. This other person put everything into perspective- whereas I thought I was in love before, it paled in comparison to how I felt towards the new person.
However- these two people, although not close friends in the least, were part of the same friend group at work (so, hung around together in a group but not by themselves). In a bid to avoid upsetting the first man, we decided to keep the relationship a secret for the first few weeks and then tell him later when we were sure it was what we wanted (which we did).
Everything was fine until a friend of ours decided it would be better that the original man new the whole truth (even though he wasn't ready for it) and now he refuses to interact with me, his old social group, has stopped any interest in outside activities and rarely shows up for work. He's completely miserable (as I am as well).
I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions as to how to make sure he's okay/perhaps regain contact? I've tried texting him but to my knowledge he's blanking them.
(Short version) Went out with my best friend, it turned out not to be as good as I thought it would be, met someone else from the same social group and now my best friend is becoming a recluse and refusing to talk to me, what can I do to help him?