helping a friend getover someone.

Hello!!!
Basically, one of my best friends broke up with her boyfriend of six years a few months ago. She seemed to be getting over it ok, but after seeing him again this weekend shes really upset. I have tried my best to write her a supportive email and have posted the gist of it below... just wondered if you could tell me what you think of it... is it too cheesy?!
Thanks, Tom :smile:

.... I guess I under estimated your feelings for James as I was under the impression that you had started to move on, but for you to be that worked up over a text message it's really clear to me how you must feel about him.

My advice to you is just to be honest with yourself, and honest with people around you. If James can't extend you the same courtesy and if you feel like you're not going to be able to trust him again, then realistically things can never really work out between you and you need to accept that. If that’s the case then it really sucks but there’s nothing you can do to change it, I know it's a clique but you just have to move on. It's a daunting task but it can be done... there are times when you'll wish for the earth to open and swallow you up, but I promise you it'll get easier sooner than you think. I noticed such a change in you when on Thursday, you seemed so much happier, please don't let what ever happened this weekend put you back to square one again. Your such an amazing girl and you deserve someone who truly appreciates you and realises how lucky they are to be with you... and don't worry, you'll meet him someday. Remember that your friends are always there for you, and if you ever want to chat about anything at all just phone me......

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ok ignore the "I noticed such a change in you when on Thursday" typo!

Very sweet. Send it

thank you...

i actually think its better to say it to her face than throuh email because it is easier to absorb things when you listen

Reply 5

Laursy

i actually think its better to say it to her face than throuh email because it is easier to absorb things when you listen

also i think you can express yourself more and also face to face is better, bless maybe she just needs somebody there for her!!

Reply 6

jovialtom

yeh thats definetly true.... but i'd forget what i was supposed to say and she's in london, i'm in Nottingham... can have a propper chat when i see her at the weekend.

Reply 7

Poison Ivy

How about on the phone?

Reply 8

jovialtom

its part of a chain of emails we have been sending each other so i think its ok, she'll read it at work in the morning...

Reply 9

Laursy

then you should phone her

it sounds like you really care which is really sweet!!

Reply 10

MNBStyle

The email seems fine to me, aslong as she knows she can talk to you when she needs to and that then thats all you can do,
Just be carefull not to make it look like your smothering her because at a time like this she may need time to herself aswell to gather her thoughts