Girls and boys as friends?

saz_1989

For each subject I do, I have an hour of teaching where there's one teacher and two students and you don't get to choose your partner. Anyway for a couple of these I'm with this guy. I'd never have noticed him or spoken to him before cos we're so different but we get on quite well. But my bf is crazily jealous of him. He thinks this guy fancies me because we talk sometimes after lectures. He knows I don't fancy the guy. My bf has never spoken to him, but still has big issues. This guy has never suggested we go out for coffee or anything like that; the most "forward" thing he's said is "can I phone you if I need help with the work". We don't socialise together, or meet up outside of classes.

So guys, chances of this guy (with a gf) fancying me is pretty much nil (correct me if I'm wrong but I don't think I am). How do I convince my bf that girls and blokes can be friends and nothing else? Or don't you think that's possible, and if not, why?

Thankyou :smile:

Reply 1

Poica

14

Your boyfriend sounds like a bright spark indeed.

Reply 2

The Mudman

10

Poica

Your boyfriend sounds like a bright spark indeed.

Do I detect a note of sarcasm there, Poica?

Of course men and women can just be friends, and you're probably right that he doesn't fancy you, and is actually just a nice guy. It's like I help girls and guys out with their work when and if I can, it doesn't mean I fancy them... From the guys point of view, it's easy to understand his jealousy :redface:

especially if he's at all insecure (whether he shows his insecurities or not). My advice is to reassure your boyfriend, and make sure he knows how special he is to you. :smile:

Reply 3

Dalimyr

17

It's perfectly possible for people of opposite genders to be friends and nothing more. A lot of my friends are female and I wouldn't take things any further than that with them.

Not really sure how you can convince your boyfriend, but I'd say he just has to know that he can trust you. After all, so long as one side (i.e. you or this guy) has the willpower to not take anything further, nothing's going to happen, right? If your boyfriend can trust you, he should have no reason to be jealous.

Reply 4

SketchyCanvas~

10

I think its definately possible to be friends with a guy and nothing more unless you or the boy has feelings.
I was friends with a guy since year7 and nothing more. Just reassure your bf that you only have eyes for him (ur bf) and no-one else :smile:

SCx

Reply 5

xemilyx

2

i agree with SC and like her ive been best mates with a guy since year 7 he never had been anything but... and never will :smile:

however he is a little over protective lol but thats joe for you :smile:

Reply 6

ChemistBoy

16

Tell your boyfriend to grow-up! You can just write off 50% of the population as friends because of the possibility that they might fancy you, can you? Most normal people have many friends of both genders.

Reply 7

Poica

14

The Mudman

Do I detect a note of sarcasm there, Poica?

I am never sarcastic.

Reply 8

ChemistBoy

16

L.J

Do you think it would help if I introduced him?

Yes, fear is heightened by the unknown.

Reply 9

xemilyx

2

ChemistBoy

Yes, fear is heightened by the unknown.

very true!

Reply 10

Helenia

20

L.J

He is, he's awesome :smile:

But what do you mean in relation to this?

Erm, think love has blinded you to the sarcasm. :wink:

Being crazily jealous of a supervision partner is not highly intelligent behaviour :rolleyes:

Tell him to get a grip. And introducing them might help.

Reply 11

The Mudman

10

Poica

I am never sarcastic.

Are you kidding? The sarcasm detectors off the scale! *Ng-HEY-Flayben*

Reply 12

Where Did I Go?

Hmmm, Personally (male), don't see why not. Infact have more femals friends I'd say that male. And by far my closest friends are girls. Doesn't mean I fancy all of um, just that we are very good friends!

You could, depending how your bf is, get him to say meet you after class, then when you and this other fella are talking you can introduce them? Who knows, your bf might get on with him?

(having said that, have been single all my life, but thats a different issue!)

Reply 13

Traum

Just tell your bf that the guy has a gf?

Reply 14

SketchyCanvas~

10

Traum

Just tell your bf that the guy has a gf?

that way your lying to your bf and then when he finds out, all his trust in you has gone out of the window. Just reassure him that his the only one for you.

Reply 15

i am here now

1

i used to have to sit next to my boyfriend in everysingle lesson as he is jackson and i am johnson. How do think i felt when i became pregnant and it went round school. no one new we were even going out.
i also have his best mate a boy as a friend and i used to ahve to sit next ot him. we are mates. Just because you are different sex's doesnt mean you are in love!!

Reply 16

The Mudman

10

SketchyCanvas

that way your lying to your bf

*ahem* Read the original post more carefully...

Reply 17

Laursy

10

he should trust you and know maybe he should go with you to have coffee with this guy theres no harm in him getting to know him either get his girlfriend to come along!! you may even have a laugh and find yourselfs a pair of new mates!!

Reply 18

Poica

14

i am here now

i used to have to sit next to my boyfriend in everysingle lesson as he is jackson and i am johnson. How do think i felt when i became pregnant and it went round school. no one new we were even going out.
i also have his best mate a boy as a friend and i used to ahve to sit next ot him. we are mates. Just because you are different sex's doesnt mean you are in love!!

Wow.

Need I say more?

Wait - why tell us about you getting pregnant by your similarly surnamed boyfriend? Do we care?

Reply 19

random123

2

To the OP, ditch your bf and get with this other guy, you probably have a lot more in common with him. lol.

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