I know I’m going to sound pathetic and I know there has been many threads about mulsim/strict parents etc But please excuse me I need to let it all out
My parents are muslims as you can tell ^^ I love them, they have done a lot for me, although they haven’t been the best of parents but they have brought me up and fed me.
I grew up always wanting what other kids had, for example on eid I always wanted clothes like my other cousins but my dad didn’t have a job (he was healthy but lazy) so he couldn’t afford eid clothes for me, but if he wasn’t so lazy I could have been a happy child. As I grew up I started to get used to the fact that my dad doesn’t care about my future and I should just give up on believing that one day he will come home from work and buy me lots of clothes and toys. I was a kid after all and my idea of being happy was being like my cousins who had everything that I wanted.
Now I’m 18 and happy-ish with my life, but my parents are still stopping me from being what I want and having the life that I want. Like every 18 year old I want to be allowed to go out every now and then and have a bit of fun, but I’m not allowed. I have been lying to my parents to go out and have a good time. I don’t really believe in Islam and they don’t know.
Today I came home about an hour ago, and my parents thought that I was at the library but I was at my bf’s house. I came home and I got shouted at, because my dad went to the library on his way home to pick me up, he didn’t have to do this, he just wanted to check on me! so I wasn’t there and now they are going crazy.
They have been bitching about me and I can hear them clearly in my room, my dad called me a whore and he said that he can’t wait till I go to university and leave him in peace. My mum said yeah she can go and live her life the way it pleases her, and the moment she leaves this house to go to university she is no longer our daughter.
What the ****!!!!!!!!! I actually want to go to uni to study, I have been working way too hard for my a levels and have applied for the most competitive course, how can they say this!!
I went straight to the living room after I heard this and tried to talk to them, they just didn’t care and my dad nearly slapped me. I have respected all the time, not even once I have mentioned that my dad’s laziness ruined my childhood and teenage life. That their unnecessary strictness made me sad and that they need to let go of their culture, relax and let me live, it’s not my fault I was born here
:/ so sorry for this long post, I just had to tell someone