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Adjusting to single life

xXMessedUpXx

15

Ok,, so seeing as my boyfriend of 14 months split up with me today, any tips on how to get on with my life? :frown:

Reply 1

Poica

14

Meh

Reply 2

luckylaura05

1

chin up eh - it will take a while to get used to but hey the single life isnt so bad and if it wasnt meant to be then at least you arent being led on or anything.
hope you're doing alright :smile:

xxx

Reply 3

lady

I am so sorry to hear that hunni :hugs:

It will be hard for a long time to get used to him not being around or being able to speak to him etc but it will get easier. You are allowed one week to wallow in self-pity, cry, eat chocolate, recieve lots of hugs,watch sad/love films, sleep a lot, and probably to cry some more, but then you should clear out all of his stuff and try to move on with your life. If you don't feel ready then don't push yourself, only you will know when you're ready to move on and get on with your life.
My advice is to cry, let it out and then put it behind you, talk to your friends and let people look after you, you always feel better when someone else is looking after you.
I hope that you'll be feeling a little better soon.
pm me if you ever want to chat/want some sympathy/want to wallow!
Love and hugs
Lady
xxxx

Reply 4

jbcubed3

1

watch sad/love films

Watching films about heartbreak always cheers me up after I'm dumped :smile:

*sarcasm*

Anyway, probably best to do stuff to take your mind off it - read, watch more HAPPY films and tv shows - essentially do what you enjoy doing.

Hope everything's good for you! :smile:

XXX

Reply 5

Helenia

20

Firstly, don't start trying to "get on with your life" immediately. Sure, you still have to function as a human being, but that doesn't mean you can't take a bit of time out to be sad, cry, get angry etc rather than bottling. Make sure your friends are around to help if needed. Once you're through that, you can start thinking about what and where you need to go next.

Reply 6

Jenna999

1

yeah it's a bit soon to be thinking about moving on, getting on with your life, adjusting to single life etc. you are allowed time to wallow in self-pity, feel sorry for yourself and be sad. it's natural and healthy.
xxx

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forgot to mention i'm really sorry to hear that... was it a shock or were things not going too well?
xxx

Reply 7

The Mudman

10

Remember that it's ok to feel lonely. Of course, that doesn't mean wallow in self-pity and complain to the point where your friends avoid you cos you're so depressive...

Reply 8

Brown Eyed Girl

It's weird getting out of the habbit of seeing them daily. i split up with my ex after about 13/14 months my self and the spliting up its self was hard cause of the habbit i was in

Reply 9

Enchanté

14

think happy stuff go out have a girly night with friends xxx :hugs:

Reply 10

Ariel4

1

Im sorry. i hate being dumped, it sucks! but give youself time to get over it, dont expect to feel great in a week.
in the meantime, think of all the things you can do now hes gone, you can organise things with your friends without having to worry whether hes going to want to do something, you can out and talk to other guys and have a dance and a chat with them without feeling bad.
When youve got over him, however long it takes, think of all the lovely new men you can meet, find a lovely rich man who can buy you Jimmy Choos and expensive flowers and wine :biggrin:

i wouldnt go out and do this straight away though, it might do more harm than good.
And eat lots of chocolate, have a sympathy fest, and watch of lots of Friends with your mates.

Reply 11

Pink Sparkles

13

Chocolate might help ease the pain :wink:

Don't worry, things will get easier over time *hugs*

Reply 12

TrentEnd

2

alcohol is the answer - drink until you forget the question!

seriously though, keep listening to My Awesome Compilation and you should be fine

Reply 13

-TMG-

9

xXMessedUpXx

Ok,, so seeing as my boyfriend of 14 months split up with me today, any tips on how to get on with my life? :frown:

Um...just get on with it?

And...

DONT ring him
DONT go anywhere he might be
DONT even think about him

Three simple rules

Reply 14

DancingDiva

I know how u feel *hugs*, my boyfriend split up with me just over a week ago. Its tough. But just remember, its a great time to take advantage of the fact that you can eat whateva ( especially the most fattening, chocolatey things !! ), drink as much as you want, and do what on earth you like just because its time to feel a little bit sorry for yourself!! Dont get into a habit of this..... lying under the duvet with Kleenex wont find you a nice new Orlando look-a-like for instance will it? But take a little selfish time to give yourself some sympathy. It'll get a lot of the 'down' feeling out of your system. Try not to think about him too much, which i know is very very hard! But every time u do, go and busy yourself with something else!! Anything! Cook, clean, go shopping, whatever keeps you busy. Then, after this stage has passed, which as frustrating as it sounds, only time will heal, then u can begin to enjoy the excitment of single life again! Remember tht initial amazing feeling you had when u first were gettin together with your boyfriend? You can begin to feel that spark all over again with new people. And take time to getting to know new people.
I know that at first it feels like the worst thing in the world! Im feeling it too. But time will heal. Focus yourself on your friends/family/the though of a new crush etc. It will get much easier. And hopefully you and your ex will be friends one day!

Reply 15

Laursy

10

go and have a laugh with your mates, none better to cheer you up then a mate!!

try and out it out of your mind and have an agreement not to talk about it with your mate!!

soon enough when someone mentions his name you will be like ' i used to go out with him like many moons ago'

i don;t really have hung ups about exes but defo i think the above is a good idea!!

Reply 16

Apricot Fairy

16

Spend a bit of time wallowing in self-pity, watching sad films, thinking about him, stuffing your face with chocolate etc. Then after a week or two, get out and do stuff. Don't let yourself have a spare minute of the day to think about him. Go and see friends, do things together, spend time with your family. Try and re-kindle relationships with people you might have neglected whilst you were with him. Do lots of exercise. It always cheers you up. You'll still think about him and cry at night for a while, but try and wear yourself out so you're tired enough to go to sleep quickly.

:hugs:

I know it feels like the end of the world. We've all been there.

Reply 17

Laursy

10

Spend a bit of time wallowing in self-pity, watching sad films, thinking about him

not being nasty or anything but is there a point in doing that the whole idea of gettin over things is not to dwell on things id get straight out there and force myself to have a fun time, laugh and joke around withpeople who are important not crying myself into a tissue about some bloke!!

Reply 18

hanadeka2002

Sorry to hear that. Firstly...chocolate and DVDs. Then have a big girlie night out and have loads of fun and you'll soon forget him. Keep busy. Throw yourself into uni work and try to arrange not to be on your own too much so you're not thinking about him.

Reply 19

MNBStyle

9

cherrychocolate

Sorry to hear that. Firstly...chocolate and DVDs. Then have a big girlie night out and have loads of fun and you'll soon forget him. Keep busy. Throw yourself into uni work and try to arrange not to be on your own too much so you're not thinking about him.

I suggest going with what cherry chocolate said
Just dont choose depressing DVDs

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