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conversation.again, sorry

Ok guys I'm really sorry but I couldn't find the advice I need on the search.
Thing is, I'm really bad of conversation with anyone! Even with my friends I don't really know what to say. I know that thats really sad and that, but I just really have no idea what to say, so all the time I just end up sitting there in silence- which is really not good. So any advice on general conversation with anybody? ( excpet about your family, school, work etc)
Sorry once again as this is probably repetative.
thanksxxx
i know exactly how you feel. A few years ago I was exactly like that and all m friends would laugh at me because I would always be really silent and shy and stuff. But I just think that I tend to prefer to just sit there and listen rather than participate because I feel that anything i saw would just be stupid and pointless lol. ANYWAY, i went to college and totally gained loadsa confidence. But anyway I haven't actually answered your questions. Umm i generally speak bout me lol and what I did over the weekend or sumthing stupid one of my friends did and generally they will relate wiv you and you should be able to have a conversation. sorry if that wasnt much help but practise makes perfect. if u keep forcing yourself to speak you will eventually get to the point when you can never shut up lol. good luck xx
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thanks :smile:
Reply 3
It takes all kinds of people to make a good conversation in a group...

Shy people, Loud people, Obnoxious people, Crazy people, Mature people,Funny people....whatever.
Reply 4
Are you sure you're bad at conversation and that its not just that you think you're bad? With really good mates silences can be ok, you just don't need to talk...if that makes sense? Anyway, I guess the only tips I could think of would be to talk about TV, or a film, latest music, or which celeb you really like, or even say something like 'those earring are really nice, they suit you/where did you get them from' and that'll start a conversation esp as you just complimented them, but of course make sure they're new or not vile (you might get a pair as a present next birthday :p: )

Anyway, I'm pretty sure that's not very good advice :redface: I've never had that problem, I'm the complete opposite - I never shut up! I think that may be even more annoying for my friend that not saying anything! :redface:

One thing is though, maybe you shouldn't force yourself to talk. It might just be that you're a quiet person and there isn't anything wrong with that! People might like you because you're not loud or shouty! You are you, and shouldn't try to change yourself for anyone else. You're fab and people will love you for being you. :smile:
^^I agree - with mates, i think you can just be silent together, because it's like a "friendly silence" if that makes any sense! I generally just talk about something random which interests me, and if anyone picks up on that we have a pretty lively conversation - otherwise i just stay back and listen to other people, which is not always a bad thing! good luck! xx
i used to have the same problem - never talking to people. i used to think there was something wrong with me. Til i came to uni, and readlised that itw as mainly cos the people at my old school were boring and not my kind of people at all. now i'm at uni, i've gained in confidence, and become a talkative person, and its because i have friends i can relate to. just wait until u meet the right people!
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Thanks for the replies people, they were a big help and il try them out :smile: