Quick! Need advice!

That gut that ive kind of been textin, chatting to on msn hasn't spoken to me since Sunday night on msn. He's the one that i posted about last time and said that sometimes he doesn't reply to my text and people said that was because he might be busy. Well as I said, havent spoken to him since Sunday night and even thought he may have blocked me from MSN cos he hadnt been online the past two nights but I've just received a text message from him sayin 'Hey wat u upto babe? x'. I was ready to give up on him and my friends think i shouldn't text back. Should I reply or not???

Reply 1

miss_buttercup

no, dont reply hun, just leave him to it, he sounds like hes playin games. see if he persists to txt u even if u dont reply - that way ul have a better idea of wot he honestly thinks of u x

Reply 2

waterlily

4

i dont know the whole story sorry... but mayb hes comp been broken or somthing??? give him the benefit of the doubt mayb?

Reply 3

rockin_rio

OP

waterlily

i dont know the whole story sorry... but mayb hes comp been broken or somthing??? give him the benefit of the doubt mayb?

waterlily - this is the story:

There's this guy who ive been getting to know and there are times when he doesnt reply to some of my texts. For example the other day he said 3 times that he'd let me know if he was gonna be going out for a birthday party and he didnt otherwise hed meet up with me. I was kind of pissed off so sent him a text sayin ' thanks for letting me know'. he then replied later on sayin 'so im in the bad books now then' and because I couldnt reply straight away he then sent another one a few hours later sayin 'I take that as a yes then'. When I eventually replied I told him how I was confused at what he was feeling about 'us' and said i didnt want him to lead me on if he didnt want anything more. He said 'i wouldnt lead you on'. Right so I've got one friend saying that if he didnt care he wouldnt have bothered to ask if he was in the bad books and say 'i wouldnt lead you on'. But then Ive got a few other friends who think that because he doesnt always text me back and is not extremely attentive, they think hes a nob and that I should just forget about him.
Who am I supposed to go with???? I still really like him but amy friends that say hes a nob - are they right? Should I give up on him???

text him back!!

why wouldnt you text back? because hes not been online for 2 days? :s-smilie:

Reply 6

Lirael Abhorsen

1

i think this is all quite confusing but text messages/ msn can be so ambiguous and trivial i would definitely say give him the benefit of doubt, as he hasnt actualyl done anything wrong... maybe face to face communication will help let you know where you stand

Reply 7

Laursy

10

if you like him then text back why should you be worrying what everyone else is thinking and telling you to do!!

i think that people ignoreme for a reason some times but they don;t maybe he was busy, don;t give up on something after the first blip, if you want something to come of it then go for it listen to what you want not others, if you feel like you don;t want to and don;t want anything to come of it then just leave it!!

good luck hun xx

Reply 8

willey

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Deffinately text him back, its been 2 days!!!!!!! Sorry but that’s nothing!
Maybe he really is just generally busy, but ur friends to call him a nob cos he doesn’t reply to a few texts is a bit harsh

Reply 9

Objet trouvé

1

Any guy who calls you babe needs a flying slap.

text back.

wait for a few days and then txt back... keep him on his sits...

Reply 12

Trigger

18

OH DEAR. how about you actually talk to him?

Reply 13

rockin_rio

OP

Well just thought Id let u know - I decided to text him back thanks to your advice and he replied - hes been fixing his computer cos it crashed big time because of a virus. So I guess that explains the whole not being online thing. I told my friend that I'd text him and she was like 'no u shouldnt have!'. Oh well, too bad! Anyway, he knows how I feel so I'm thinking I might just let him make the moves that way if he likes me he'll keep things going...if not then it's his loss....and then I'll know how he feels...

Reply 14

rockin_rio

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Indu.Mitra

woah dudette u need to relax! dont rea dinto things too much.. take it with a pinch of salt.. u know if u hold a book too close u won't be able to read it!
He probably was busy.. just be fine about it... see he made the effort to txt u.. it shows u were on his mind..... of course txt him back.. but leave like 5 minutes between each txt :-) x

he leaves about 30mins-1hr before he replies. Is that a bad sign?

Reply 15

Objet trouvé

1

Holy crap. Listen to yourself. You do not want to be his bitch. Remember, there is no point stressing out over guys because theyre just so ****ing stupid. They're like dogs or something.

Play hard to get. Don't reply to his texts. Tell him not to call you "babe" and use your name.

Reply 16

gt@vetschool

10

i'm thinking he's not really wanting a relationship here, which is why he's not been trying too hard.

its the kind of strategy i employed at the beginning of the year when i was kind of after a girl. intuition told me it would be best if she made the moves. and as it turned out she already had a boyfriend so i didn't waste much effort there.

him calling you babe is not a good sign imo, something i'd never do

Reply 17

psycho(logist)

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rockin_rio

That gut that ive kind of been textin, chatting to on msn hasn't spoken to me since Sunday night on msn. He's the one that i posted about last time and said that sometimes he doesn't reply to my text and people said that was because he might be busy. Well as I said, havent spoken to him since Sunday night and even thought he may have blocked me from MSN cos he hadnt been online the past two nights but I've just received a text message from him sayin 'Hey wat u upto babe? x'. I was ready to give up on him and my friends think i shouldn't text back. Should I reply or not???

This is a prime example of how girls work - it is so like us to jump to inexplicable conclusions!

Don't worry... I hardly think he'd have blocked you on msn. That's just how guys work - it may not be that he's not into you, they're (generally speaking) a lot more relaxed when it comes to these kinds of things. Let's just say their brains are uh... wired... a lot differently from ours.

So just go with the flow. Don't start playing 'the game' - you know which one. :p:

Reply 18

rockin_rio

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psycho(logist)

This is a prime example of how girls work - it is so like us to jump to inexplicable conclusions!

Don't worry... I hardly think he'd have blocked you on msn. That's just how guys work - it may not be that he's not into you, they're (generally speaking) a lot more relaxed when it comes to these kinds of things. Let's just say their brains are uh... wired... a lot differently from ours.

So just go with the flow. Don't start playing 'the game' - you know which one. :p: