The Student Room Group

Would You Go Out With Someone Who You Were Not Attracted To?

Theres this guy that i know, who really likes me and he is soooo sweet, someone that would treat me like a princess, be there for me in all ways imaginable, caring, attentive; got loads going for him.. but im not attracted to him in a physical sense :confused:

Instead i always seem to get with the rude, dead beat, arrogorant (sp?) disrepectful (well the last boy i was seeing) type who have nothing much going for them

Anyway my question is would you go out without someone, sharing an intimate relation with who you were unattracted to?

Me personally, i dont think i could.. what bout you guys!?

edit: should hopefully give more clarity!?

Scroll to see replies

Reply 1
no becuase thats just like living a lie,

i wouldn;t be able to bring myself to go near someone if there wasn;t anything there at all!! it seems abit out of order and shallow!!
Reply 2
Latayah
Theres this guy that i know, who really likes me and he is soooo sweet, someone that would treat me like a princess, be there for me in all ways imaginable, caring, attentive; got loads going for him.. but im not attracted to him in a physical sense :confused:

Instead i always seem to go for the rude, dead beat, arrogorant (sp?) disrepectful (well the last boy i was seeing) type who have nothing much going for them

Anyway my question is would you go out without someone, sharing an intimate relation with who you were unattracted to?

Me personally, i dont think i could.. what bout you guys!?

No i wouldn't because going out with someone your not in the least bit physically attracted to will only cause problems.

As for the choice of boys you go for anyway **** knows whats wrong with you, girls seem to find losers like badboys exciting for somereason,
its very shallow to the nicer guys personally and youll only regret that in the long run to,
No offence but the love for guys like that is more b ased on how mature you are
You can't go out with someone you're not attracted to. It wouldn't be fair on either of you. But hopefully one day you will get sick of the bad boys and actually grow up enough to fancy a nice, kind, down to earth adult.
Reply 4
You can learn to love people. But whatever
Reply 5
Never!! A relationship without attraction is just friendship/dependency
Reply 6
MNBStyle
As for the choice of boys you go for anyway **** knows whats wrong with you, girls seem to find losers like badboys exciting for somereason,
its very shallow to the nicer guys personally and youll only regret that in the long run to,
No offence but the love for guys like that is more b ased on how mature you are

I dont go for the bad guys...i hate those guys and i dont see the piont.
I dont enjoy being treated like crap.
i like the nice, sweet, caring, and funny guys like my boyfriend.
ive never understood why alot of girls seem to like the bad boy type i just dont get it :confused:
Reply 7
no no no ... you got it all wrong lol

firstly, im not attracted to or like bad boys i just always seem to get involved with these boys for some reason; which it is usually after i have got with them when i discover their true personality

and secondly, its not that im not 'grown up enough' to be attracted to a nice guy (thats just silly) its that im just not attracted to THIS nice guy. I would LOVE to find a nice guy that im attracted to and not all the types that i seem to associate myself with somehow.

If you get my drift!?
Reply 8
Latayah
no no no ... you got it all wrong lol

firstly, im not attracted to or like bad boys i just always seem to get involved with these boys for some reason; which it is usually after i have got with them when i discover their true personality

and secondly, its not that im not 'grown up enough' to be attracted to a nice guy (thats just silly) its that im just not attracted to THIS nice guy. I would LOVE to find a nice guy that im attracted to and not all the types that i seem to associate myself with somehow.

If you get my drift!?

Yeah i get your drift now, that wasn't how it looked in the way you worded the post thoe (May i suggest editing it :p: )
The reason i think girls seem to end up with losers like badboys is because there the sort of guys who are usually making loads of effort to pick up a girl,
where as a nice guy will usually take his time and keep himself to himself.
if you get what i mean???
Reply 9
MNBStyle
Yeah i get your drift now, that wasn't how it looked in the way you worded the post thoe (May i suggest editing it :p: )
The reason i think girls seem to end up with losers like badboys is because there the sort of guys who are usually making loads of effort to pick up a girl,
where as a nice guy will usually take his time and keep himself to himself.
if you get what i mean???


Courting. It's a lost art.
Reply 10
Poica
Courting. It's a lost art.

Amazing
Reply 11
MNBStyle
Amazing


What is?
Reply 12
MNBStyle
Yeah i get your drift now, that wasn't how it looked in the way you worded the post thoe (May i suggest editing it :p: )
The reason i think girls seem to end up with losers like badboys is because there the sort of guys who are usually making loads of effort to pick up a girl,
where as a nice guy will usually take his time and keep himself to himself.
if you get what i mean???


hmm yeah i think you may have a point.. like the last boy that i was seeing (who was such a loser... i see it now lol) initially put so much effort into the relationship, but the whole relationship was based on lies. Now this other guy (the sweet one) knew about my past relationship and told me he was going to wait, a couple of months before telling me... so i can see where your coming from!!
Think about whether you could grow to find him attractive physically...or does he just completely turn you off in that respect? If it's the latter, just friendship. If it's the former it could develop into something more.
Reply 14
cherrychocolate
Think about whether you could grow to find him attractive physically...or does he just completely turn you off in that respect? If it's the latter, just friendship. If it's the former it could develop into something more.


he's not unattractive really, im just not personally attracted to him. I don't think i will ever find him attractive. I know that i will never get with him but i was just feeling really bad, as i was able to give someone who had no intention of treating me right a chance, yet i'm unable to try and make it work between the two of us.
Reply 15
Latayah
hmm yeah i think you may have a point.. like the last boy that i was seeing (who was such a loser... i see it now lol) initially put so much effort into the relationship, but the whole relationship was based on lies. Now this other guy (the sweet one) knew about my past relationship and told me he was going to wait, a couple of months before telling me... so i can see where your coming from!!

There you go thats it :wink:
Seems so simple when you really think about it doesnt it?
Latayah
Would You Go Out With Someone Who You Were Not Attracted To?


No I couldn't, and whats with all the upper case letters all over the place? It is a complete mess.
Reply 17
MNBStyle
There you go thats it :wink:
Seems so simple when you really think about it doesnt it?


sorry, what seems so simple when you think about it :confused: ?
Reply 18
Latayah
sorry, what seems so simple when you think about it :confused: ?

On why girls seem to end up with bad boys all the time
Reply 19
Beekeeper
and whats with all the upper case letters all over the place? It is a complete mess.


o----kay :ninja:

if it matters that much:

its just how i chose to do the lettering for title, i think it looks quite good didnt fancy all lower case (with the exception of the first letter). If you still want to discuss my lettering preference.. feel free to pm me :biggrin: