Am I stupid?

Okay, I've recently been seeing (not in the dating/sexual sense) this girl who I really like. Normally I'm not the type to go for relationships as I get disinterested easily and rarely have had a decent relationship, but this girl was perfect on every level. She's gorgeous, funny, outgoing, intelligent and just so awesome and I can't stress how much I'm into her.

She knows I like her loads and on Saturday I took her to the Taste of Chaos tour for her birthday which is this Friday coming up. At this gig she kissed me and then kissed me twice before she had to leave and I was so so happy. Predictably I thought this was a sure sign she liked me too.

Monday I took her to see Saw 2. We spent the evening cuddling or whatnot and walking about talking about stuff like families, childhood memories, bands we like, my obsession with Strung Out (my favourite band) and Spider-Man movies and I can't remember a time in recent memory I've been happier.

Just as I was leaving on the train, we kissed goodnight and I asked her out because all signs pointed to her liking me. Her response was to giggle, playfully smack my arm and then say in the voice of someone being wound up "shut uuuup!" at which point the guard decided to close the doors so I couldn't stay and talk to her.

Since then I've texted her once or twice to see if she's alright to which I get no reply because she allegedly has no credit - good enough excuse for me. Anyway, tonight (Tuesday night) I went to play snooker with my mate, I come home and log on to MSN. She's not online but no big deal, I'm not a clingy, obsessive guy and the last thing I want is for her to be weirded out. I sign on to another account of mine to check my ebay emails that I send to this address and she's online there. Needless to say I'm a bit gutted. I ask her how she's doing but no reply so I apologise if it seemed I came on a bit too strong Monday night (which I don't think I was in all honesty).

Anyway, she then appears offline on THAT MSN as well about 10 minutes later, signs back in, then signs back out.

Was I stupid to look too much into her feelings for me? She had said she doesn't kiss just anyone by the way.. I dunno if I'm stupid for even giving a damn because under normal circumstances I wouldn't, but this girl made such an impact on me.. Eurgh I feel sick. Girls = great to screw my mind up. =( </3

Reply 1

Poica

Difficult to say honey - it's not your fault. Give her some time, things will either work out or not. She may be screwing with you, she may have other things going on, there may be a million reasons.
Don't worry prematurely

Reply 2

hanadeka2002

She probably just freaked out when you asked her out, not because she doesn't like you but because,well,girls do that sometimes. How old are you both?

She's probably a bit shy?

Reply 3

MNBStyle

No your not stupid mate, you took the risk to ask her out and she clearly doesn't feel the same but atleast you took the chance ( if you dont ask you dont get after all).
Sure thats tough to deal with but atleast you went in there and took the chance, atleast now you can move on would of been worse if you had spent months on this girl then to find out she dont want a relationship.

Reply 4

Strung Out

She's 19 on Friday, I'm 19 on Monday.

I know it's a bit early to judge but I honestly can't stress how much I'm into her. Normally I wouldn't give a damn but I've never felt so happy with someone. I tried ringing her just before I found out she was blocking me like and there was no answer which I thought nothing of.

Sorry if it seems I sound a loser haha, I just have all these niggling doubts in my head and it's not nice..

Reply 5

hanadeka2002

No you don't sound a loser, I think you have a right to have all those 'niggling doubts.'

It sounds like she likes you...but as other people have said, there may be other things going on in her life. Has she had many boyfriends?...she may just not know how to react to the situation....

Reply 6

MNBStyle

Just see how it goes and wait to see if she gets in touch.
Ill be honest (might sound harsh) but i doubt she will get intouch,
if she doesn't then its her loss dont let it put ya confidence down

Reply 7

Strung Out

Thanks for the advice, tis much appreciated. Just wondering from a girl's point of view what it means to you?

Luckily I'm not a quitter. I'm not gonna lose interest on some niggling doubts until I hear it from her mouth she's not interested. Just see how it pans out. If it's not a positive result, ah well, life goes on and I'm not a bad looking bloke with a majorly outgoing attitude. Probably find someone else in due time, just I really really like her.

Reply 8

Sir Joe

that sucks man. Total respect for asking her out, though personally i never "ask people out", it doesn't seem right. I just go with the flow, keep going on dates and having fun, and things tend to fall into place. I either wait for the girl to ask some questions, or wait for someone to say in front of us "so are you two going out?" and take it from there.

I think the best thing to do is just leave it for awhile. Give it some time and see if she unblocks you. When I was interested in a girl i blocked her on msn when she added me because i dont like to seem predictable. Just act like you've been busy, don't mention what has happend. If anything try to keep being the fun happy guy, dont start being all deep and serious about this. If things fall into place they will, if not, you can walk away saying you did what felt right and if she doesnt like that then **** her.

Clearly stupid.

^^^^ Hahaha cheers :p:

Sir Joe -- thanks for the advice. It was basically what I was gonna do anyway 'cause that's the guy I am and I always take 'life goes on and I'm gonna enjoy it while it's there to enjoy' attitude, but the advice is way appreciated :biggrin:

Reply 11

ChemistBoy

legbreakgoogly

Clearly stupid.

Absolutely - OP, you expect women to behave in a logical and rational way - it ain't gonna happen! :biggrin:

Reply 12

Traum

Hmm i think she does like you but is probably scared of commitment - i.e. be gf/bf...
And there is always this tendercy (for me) to push guys away after i know they like me... it's bitchy, but it's like a self-protection mechanism...

somethings are nicer if they're kept blurry... remember that...