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    Its been over 2 months or so since I broke up with my g/f. Weve kept in touch still however and weve had moments we got close den drifted apart.
    Over 1 week and 2 days ago we had a little argument cause she hanged up the phone on me. I waited 3 days for her to make the effort to explain herself but she didn’t, so I confronted her which lead to the argument.
    As a result she ended up blocking me from her msn account. I got through to her after 1 day and spoke to her on the phone.
    She just said ur allowing urself to get hurt from me, we can never be together (due to family) and her family comes first.

    I said fair enough but why treat me like **** now (and for once I actually raised my voice on her, not once in over 9 months of our relation did I ever do that), she ended up saying that the reason why she done all this was because shes 'a *****'. I asked her why are you and she said cause I am.
    In the end I found out that the doubts I had about her lies from the past where true and she openly admitted them her self.

    Since that day (1 week 2 days) we have been talking on the phone and until yesterday she was very warm with me and spoke to me in a way I always wanted her to speak to me.

    I realise my chosen path is not letting me let go and just giving me pain, but I know deep down this girl there is something real and special and I don’t want to give up on it. Ive seen the good side and its beautiful. The bad side is very often but when the good side is there nothing else matters.

    From last night again she went quiet and didn’t talk to me on the phone and today she hasn’t been on msn. I just don’t know why she changed so often.

    One of my close friends, she went out wid her b/f for over a year and 2 months. its been over 8 months since they split and shes still having problems forgetting. She even has found her self another guy whos shes really close with but still she has days where she will cry herself to sleep cause of that one guy.

    I dont understand how people can change so dramatically or is it just when your so in love you dont see the side your suppose to?
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    (Original post by lessthanthree)
    You blow hot and cold with each other after a split.

    I really think you should let it completely drift for a few weeks and get all of this uffishness out of your systems.
    What she said.
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    I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 and a half years, and I love him to bits. But like you, we have our arguments. Often. But we always come round and realise how good we are together. I know that if I'm not with him, or if I broke up with him, I'd be devastated and would be lost. So we always try our hardest together, and will try anything just to stay together. He means so much to me, so I totally understand how you feel.
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    screw her, man. Seriously, just ignore her. Wait for your epiphany moment.
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    maybe you two should just talk about your feelings and it sounds like she need someone to talk to!!

    getting feelings out in the open helps the healing process as then you have some idea of what you are working towards whether it be moving on or rebuilding a relationship!! at least then you will know!!
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    sometimes space can be good..though it's damn painful
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    Get away from her! SOON!!

    You're in a very, very bad position.
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    well weve made our feelings clear. She says shes in love with me and im in love with her, but there is no way in hell her family would allow her to marry me hence the split. Shes been off for the past 2 days now, somthings happened or shes realised shes getting to close.
    All I know I am gonna be the one who gets hurt most in the end but I will be able to say I didnt give up right till the very end.
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    (Original post by chris101)
    well weve made our feelings clear. She says shes in love with me and im in love with her, but there is no way in hell her family would allow her to marry me hence the split. Shes been off for the past 2 days now, somthings happened or shes realised shes getting to close.
    All I know I am gonna be the one who gets hurt most in the end but I will be able to say I didnt give up right till the very end.
    what do her family have against you? if you dont mind me asking?
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    Yeah, get away from her now. Fake your own death and move to Austrailia.
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    Let her go.

    You will always be fire and ice...what a song. Written by Richie Kotzen, sung by the band Poison...

    But yeah, leave her alone. If you get upset at her not talking to you, which is what you HAVE to do unless you want to always have her hanging over your shoulder...then get help in doing so.
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    You deserve to be with someone who is prepared to stand up tot ehir family to be with you - if she really loved you, she would try to make the relationship work.
 
 
 
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