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Online dating at 19. . ?

I am a 19 year old female currently at university. I've never been in a relationship or even been kissed. Online dating is something I would like to try as I don't think I'm going to meet anyone at my university. I am shy and awkward but I've recently been put on anti-depressants and am working on my issues. I created a REALLY bad profile, to set the bar low and so if anyone contacted me they would have low expectations and I didn't include a picture. Unfortunately a really good looking guy quite liked my profile and sort of made contact. My question is what do I do? Will people not think I'm pathetic for not having kissed a man at 19 and should I even be on a dating website?

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

I say go for it. I did this at 21 (if you think you're pathetic!) having been in the exact same situation as you - had never been kissed or anything and just wasn't meeting the right people are university. I went on dates with about 6 different guys and eventually met someone awesome who is now my boyfriend and has been for nearly a year. What have you got to lose?

Reply 2

alijimi

11

Original post by Anonymous

I am a 19 year old female currently at university. I've never been in a relationship or even been kissed. Online dating is something I would like to try as I don't think I'm going to meet anyone at my university. I am shy and awkward but I've recently been put on anti-depressants and am working on my issues. I created a REALLY bad profile, to set the bar low and so if anyone contacted me they would have low expectations and I didn't include a picture. Unfortunately a really good looking guy quite liked my profile and sort of made contact. My question is what do I do? Will people not think I'm pathetic for not having kissed a man at 19 and should I even be on a dating website?

Unfortunately?!! :lolwut:

. Fortunately that a good looking guy has made contact with you. Well you will need to meet this guy in person to know him better, but you already know how he looks, which is better than chatting with someone online whom you don't even know how they look!! :cool:

Reply 3

Casshern1456

18

We need pics, really.

Reply 4

UnknwnEntity

Hey baby

ASL?

Reply 5

gamer9

slightly off topic but what dating site is best to use?

Reply 6

Captain Slow

6

Original post by Anonymous

I am a 19 year old female currently at university. I've never been in a relationship or even been kissed. I don't think I'm going to meet anyone at my university. I am shy and awkward ... Will people not think I'm pathetic for not having kissed a man at 19?

I'm male, not female - but other than that I'm in pretty much the same boat. There are times I think myself faintly pathetic for it - but no-one else sees it that way and most of the time I'm happy with it.

There's someone out there for everyone, it's just a case of finding them. :smile:

Reply 7

Torrchy

9

Why not? Online dating's perfectley fine. Just a suggestion - meet him in a crowded place for the first time, you know, just to make sure.

Reply 8

Jack McGill

8

Definitely go for it in terms of the Internet dating you could meet someone nice in the same boat.

Reply 9

Carpediemxx

17

Okcupid pretty good, lots of people on there and its fairly straightforward. People may sneer at online dating, but its getting more and more prominent and i can only see it becoming a huge part of relationships in the future

Reply 10

Cheesecakefactory

14

What website did you use?

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

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Original post by Cheesecakefactory

What website did you use?

I used match.com but I've heard okcupid's good

Reply 12

LunaBuna

I'm glad I'm not the only one thinking about doing this! :smile:

not sure witch one to use though >.<

Reply 13

IndigoRockGirl

11

Unfortunately? You want a boyfriend, a boy seems to be interested in you, go for it. /thread\

Reply 14

kat91s

11

I found my boyfriend when I was 19 and he was 23 on match.com. Well worth the money, as I met him after only two days on the site and 8 months later we are still happy! I have more dating experience than you, but I thought it would be a fun way to meet people outside of my usual social circle, and as it turned out I had more emails than I could physically reply to so I would fully recommend giving it a try. You would also be surprised how many guys around our age are on there.

Reply 15

j2s0n

8

I'm 18 and never kissed anyone. Occasionally the thought of online dating goes through my head, but I can never be bothered when push comes to shove.

If you want to do it then go for it. There's nothing weird about it.

Reply 16

Sherkba

3

There's nothing weird about it, I just find it slightly pathetic (I'm expecting all the ''I met my bf online!!!!'' comments, for sure). I don't find it pathetic because it's the internet, but because it's sad that you feel the lack of a man so acutely you are going to actively search for one.

What is WRONG with young people today? Get out there, live your life, make new friends, do the best you can on your course, travel, contribute to society, discover new interests and hobbies, in short make sure your life is full without needing a guy to fill the emptiness. I get that being single can be lonely...but it's not the end of the world, not if you're keeping your life busy and interesting.

Basically, I just think it's sad that a 19 year-old would feel like she ''needs'' a relationship badly enough to sign up to a dating service. If you just broaden your activities and interest,s not only will your week be richer and more entertaining, but you may also meet someone with similar interests that way.

Reply 17

sarahthegemini

10

You sound like a right miserable person tbh, you've had a bit of luck on the dating site yet you're still being negative about it, "unfortunately a cute guy contacted me ..." :lolwut:

God yes, how unfortunate :rolleyes:

Reply 18

alawhisp

9

Original post by Sherkba

There's nothing weird about it, I just find it slightly pathetic (I'm expecting all the ''I met my bf online!!!!'' comments, for sure). I don't find it pathetic because it's the internet, but because it's sad that you feel the lack of a man so acutely you are going to actively search for one.

What is WRONG with young people today? Get out there, live your life, make new friends, do the best you can on your course, travel, contribute to society, discover new interests and hobbies, in short make sure your life is full without needing a guy to fill the emptiness. I get that being single can be lonely...but it's not the end of the world, not if you're keeping your life busy and interesting.

Basically, I just think it's sad that a 19 year-old would feel like she ''needs'' a relationship badly enough to sign up to a dating service. If you just broaden your activities and interest,s not only will your week be richer and more entertaining, but you may also meet someone with similar interests that way.

I hate posting in bloody old threads but I can't +rep you any more and I agree with all of this :smile:

Reply 19

Ciaran88

15

Original post by alawhisp

I hate posting in bloody old threads but I can't +rep you any more and I agree with all of this :smile:

What's with this new attitude towards wanting to be in a relationship? Why is it any less valid to desire love than it is to desire anything else in life, like friends or family or a child?

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