one night then more?

okay so you've just met someone and click with them, end up sleeping with them (even though you're not the 'one night stand type')....is it possible for this kind of situation ever to develop into more? or is all the 'mystery' gone so neither parties want to pursue the other any more?

discuss :smile:

Reply 1

Freckles

I don't know, never happened to me. I guess sleeping with someone on your first dates is sort of a bad start and, in a lot of cases, can't really lead anywhere. But it depends on "why" you slept together. If it was because you really clicked and it felt right and irresistable, than that's different from when you were just really wasted and horny obviously lol. I guess if you just really clicked, then it might develop into more than a one night stand ...

Reply 2

Lirael Abhorsen

yeah i can't relate to that from personal experience...but if you feel you've got an intellectual connection on top of this then it sound slike its got more behind it... if both parties arrange to meet again then it could be more than that.. it really depends on the people

Reply 3

PublicSchoolAnn

No. Its just horrid and to be fair when you met them you were probably smashed and the only time you spoke to them again was to give them back their ipod which they left in your room. :frown:

Reply 4

Freckles

sounds like an experience :wink:

Reply 5

FatStimpy

It depends. I've spoken to a friend about this. He says that girls who sleep with you on the first date aren't what most guys would see at 'girlfriend material'. The ones they really like (he says), they will wait for. I'm not the type to have a one night stand too, but I met a guy, then we went on a date and then I slept with him. I had another date with him and slept with him again. I then decided I didn't really like him, but he really did want to take things further. The same thing happened with a girl I live with. So I guess it depends. Every guy is different. You can't rule out the chance of a relationship coming from it. MY best mate just got together with a girl he originally thought was just a "f*ck buddy".

Reply 6

Savannah

yeah... i suppose if you really hit it off and were not completely gone when you slept with them then things could turn out alright. But, tbh i think that the other person involved will probably always think of it as a one night stand. Its not a great grounding to build a relationship upon...

Reply 7

hippychick4eva

hmm... i can kinda relate to this... i got with a guy.. when he still had a gf.. only kissing though.. n i felt realy bad.. n so did he... we didnt talk for a couple of weeks.. but then we started txting and stuff a while after that.. a couple of months later he split up with his gf ( i didnt see him v often anyway because he didnt go to my school - we met though wrk - but never worked together) I did really like him, and there was a week left before he went to uni... so we decided to meet up and ended up having sex... not so much a one night stand but more of a daytime one of thing...
but there was loads of chemistry between us.. and we ended up doing it again... several times... this point we both felt really bad cuz he was just heading off to uni n we didnt know what to do about it.. so we left it at that.. but since hes been gone we've spoken to each other loads... and seen eachother quite a bit, ive even been up to visit him.. and last week when he came back for my birthday we spent loaaaaads of time together he asked me out. :smile:

I know this isnt quite relevant to the thread.. but i do think that it shows a good relationship (well - its good at the moment anyway - we both really like eachother- personality wise (hes faab :smile:

) of course as well the physical attraction...) can come from what was initially just casual sex.
we fancied eachother just from apperances/sexual attraction whatever.. got a little carried away and did something about it... and then realised how much we liked each other properly after that.. so yer - something more definatly can develop! cuz it did for me! :P

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