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Manwhore...

Oh no.. Not another I-need-help-on-a-guy question... But I really need broad advice on this from a broad range of people...

There's this guy I really quite fancy and we get along very well, I see him once or twice a week at the pub, and we've been flirting quite a bit... and there's something there (at least in my head :tongue:

) But according to my friends he's a bit of a manwhore! He was also the most sought after guy I have EVER come across... One of those guys every girl (and gay guy) finds utterly irresistable... He's not like a complete idiot or anything, people fancy him because he's 'normal' but really fit at the same time. But of course I think "If everyone fancies him, he'd never fancy me..."

Now I'm not sure... Should I listen to my friends' warnings about him, or go-with-the-flow and risk getting hurt?

Reply 1

Lirael Abhorsen

1

well i would err on the side of caution if there are reports of him being a manwhore, but still you've got to make your own judgements about him independent of what others say... spend more time with him and see how it goes.. don't worry what other people think its the r-ship between the 2 of you thats the important thing... and even if he has been whorish in the past it doesn't necessarily mean he's going to carry on being like this.. give him a chance whilst being aware of the warnings

Reply 2

MNBStyle

9

carrierouge

Oh no.. Not another I-need-help-on-a-guy question... But I really need broad advice on this from a broad range of people...

There's this guy I really quite fancy and we get along very well, I see him once or twice a week at the pub, and we've been flirting quite a bit... and there's something there (at least in my head :tongue:

) But according to my friends he's a bit of a manwhore! He was also the most sought after guy I have EVER come across... One of those guys every girl (and gay guy) finds utterly irresistable... He's not like a complete idiot or anything, people fancy him because he's 'normal' but really fit at the same time. But of course I think "If everyone fancies him, he'd never fancy me..."

Now I'm not sure... Should I listen to my friends' warnings about him, or go-with-the-flow and risk getting hurt?

Would your friends have any reason 2 lie about him??

Reply 3

gordih6

yeh i think you should 'go with the flow' as you put it, but also be aware of what people have told you about him, people can get a bad reputation when its not really deserved, so if you are getting on well with him and you like him then give him a chance.

Reply 4

Tyler Durden

17

People say all sorts of things. You've got eyes and ears; talk to the guy. If he gets around that much I doubt you'll be together long enough for you to get attached to such an extent that you'll be hurt if he gets off with some other girl.

Reply 5

El Scotto

15

well if hes a manwhore then ya dont need to need to worry about him agreeing to go out with you somewhere, but if he is, dont sleep with him too soon, that means boredom sets in and along we move to the next.

Reply 6

L i b

19

You're obviously trying to justify fancying a complete tool.

Most girls try it, get hurt and then bitch about how stupid they were afterwards. I suggest you go with the flow. Our urges are what make us human after all.

Reply 7

LubyLoo

2

You're going into it knowing full well of his rumoured reputation. Fair enough it might be rumours, but it is good that you know he is like that now. I went into something with a guy, fell for him pretty badly then found out all he wanted was a bit of fun. Take it how it comes, but don't expect anything. You never know what might happen.

Reply 8

Objet trouvé

1

LibertineNorth

You're obviously trying to justify fancying a complete tool.

Most girls try it, get hurt and then bitch about how stupid they were afterwards. I suggest you go with the flow. Our urges are what make us human after all.

I agree. Why not just use him for once? You might get some good action after all.

And don't believe everything your friends say, they probably want his ass just as much as you do.

Reply 9

lovelee-jublee

12

There was this boy I had heard about in my school who was two years above me, but I had heard his name all round school. The boy I was seeing at the time lived in the same street, and they got on well. The 'boy who everyone knew' had just split with his girlfriend (before his girlfriend he had been with many girls before, and cheated on his ex 'because she cheated on me') and was on the rebound. I wasn't getting on with the boy I was seeing, and he gave my phone number to 'the boy everyone knew' for a laugh. He rang me, we met, and to cut a long story short, I've been with him now for 2 and a half years!

Lots of my friends warned me about him, and practically everyone in school said 'Oh, I heard you're going out with xxxxxxxx. What are you doing that for?' but I knew that he was genuine, and I didn't care what he did in the past, because with me he is the best I could ever ask for. He's funny and makes me laugh, but he's also soft, sensitive and caring. I know that he is changed from what he used to be, and I know he loves me and cares for me unlike anyone before. I'm glad I followed my instincts and not my friends, because otherwise I'd still be single and getting into trouble. I think you should follow your instincts, and just see where it takes you. If it doesn't work out, you don't have to stay around.

Reply 10

*~Emma~*

1

I'd take his reputation into account but i definately think you should make your own judgements on him. Just because he's been like that in the past doesn't mean he's going to be like that in every relationship, although obviously there's some risk.

Reply 11

SamTheMan

17

lil_lee

I wasn't getting on with the boy I was seeing, and he gave my phone number to 'the boy everyone knew' for a laugh. He rang me, we met, and to cut a long story short, I've been with him now for 2 and a half years!

How romantic. A bit like a meat market.

Pass girls around between mates... well he's not the only one to do that. That's romantic too.

Reply 12

LubyLoo

2

SamTheMan

How romantic. A bit like a meat market.

Pass girls around between mates... well he's not the only one to do that. That's romantic too.

And who said romance was dead? :rolleyes: