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Okay really need everyone's opinions on this one ...

Basically there's this girl in the year below at my school who I think is absolutely gorgeous. She's got a great personality and looks amazing - she's literally the perfect girl for me (and I'm not just saying that - she really is).

Now both her and I haven't been in a relationship with anyone in years (purely by personal choice). We're both not the most popular or most attractive people in school, and we both, if you like, are amateurs at relationships.

The thing is I really want to start a relationship with this girl, but to be honest I'm quite inexperienced at doing this, and I desperately don't want to mess up - especially with her.

But the problem is that because she's in the year below, I hardly ever see her to get to know her - she's in completely different lessons to me at school and I never see her outside school e.g. at parties etc. as she goes to parties with her friends, while I go to different parties with mine.

The only opportunity I have to talk to her is on a weekday night when we both do swimming for the school team. I can talk to her then but I just don't know what to say to her! God it's frustrating! (Oh, and I could talk to her on facebook, but again - I just don't know what to say that will make her laugh! )

What I really would like is suggestions from you guys - what can I do?

Just a quick word about me, I'm 17, kind of confident and averagely good looking, but haven't had a relationship for years (so haven't actually gone further than kissing a girl - which could be an issue i guess ).

Oh, and just FYI, I actually started (about 2 months ago) a complete exercise workout regime to try and get my whole body stronger and fitter just to impress her at swimming! Call me crazy I know, but I've now almost got a six pack from it, just for her

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Okay really need everyone's opinions on this one ...

Basically there's this girl in the year below at my school who I think is absolutely gorgeous. She's got a great personality and looks amazing - she's literally the perfect girl for me (and I'm not just saying that - she really is).

Now both her and I haven't been in a relationship with anyone in years (purely by personal choice). We're both not the most popular or most attractive people in school, and we both, if you like, are amateurs at relationships.

The thing is I really want to start a relationship with this girl, but to be honest I'm quite inexperienced at doing this, and I desperately don't want to mess up - especially with her.

But the problem is that because she's in the year below, I hardly ever see her to get to know her - she's in completely different lessons to me at school and I never see her outside school e.g. at parties etc. as she goes to parties with her friends, while I go to different parties with mine.

The only opportunity I have to talk to her is on a weekday night when we both do swimming for the school team. I can talk to her then but I just don't know what to say to her! God it's frustrating! (Oh, and I could talk to her on facebook, but again - I just don't know what to say that will make her laugh! )

What I really would like is suggestions from you guys - what can I do?

Just a quick word about me, I'm 17, kind of confident and averagely good looking, but haven't had a relationship for years (so haven't actually gone further than kissing a girl - which could be an issue i guess ).

Oh, and just FYI, I actually started (about 2 months ago) a complete exercise workout regime to try and get my whole body stronger and fitter just to impress her at swimming! Call me crazy I know, but I've now almost got a six pack from it, just for her

(... and sorry about being anonymous on this one :cool:)
The highlighted bits seem really weird

And by the way, women aren't always impressed by fitness. Common misconception. You're much more likely to get a response out of her by actually asking her out. :facepalm:
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The highlighted bits seem really weird

And by the way, women aren't always impressed by fitness. Common misconception. You're much more likely to get a response out of her by actually asking her out. :facepalm:
Haha I know it seems weird - at the school I go to there aren't many relationships that happen at once. But yeah, I'm 17, she's 16 and we both honestly haven't been out with anyone for at least a couple of years

Also, I can't really just ask her out without talking to her first - might be a bit weird asking out a girl who I rarely see/speak to.
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Haha I know it seems weird - at the school I go to there aren't many relationships that happen at once. But yeah, I'm 17, she's 16 and we both honestly haven't been out with anyone for at least a couple of years

Also, I can't really just ask her out without talking to her first - might be a bit weird asking out a girl who I rarely see/speak to.
So is getting a 6 pack for her. :rolleyes:
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So is getting a 6 pack for her. :rolleyes:
haha true but I guess my philosophy was that it would increase the chances of her starting to become more interested in me, and so would make talking to her a lot easier with that thought in my mind
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haha true but I guess my philosophy was that it would increase the chances of her starting to become more interested in me, and so would make talking to her a lot easier with that thought in my mind
Just start saying hello to her, ask how she is, what she'll be doing over the summer blah blah blah. That would be far more effective.
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Just start saying hello to her, ask how she is, what she'll be doing over the summer blah blah blah. That would be far more effective.
haha you make it sound so easy no i agree that would be fine, but I'm worried of sudden silence in the conversation when we both don't know what to say.

However I've just remembered there's a school party type thing happening this saturday where she'll be there - i guess that would be the time to talk to her... but what can I say that'll keep her interested in me, rather than the "i need to go now..." excuse :confused:
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What is is you you guys really like that younger pussay no joke....................
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Dude, you need to man up and talk to the girl. How can she be 'perfect' for you if you can't hold a conversation with her?

Forget about working on a 6 pack and go back to basics...talking.

Ask her out, you really have absolutely nothing to lose.
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you sound like a dork.
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Tl/dr

But if she's perfect she's too good for you.
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I don't see why the OP is getting loads of hate just for trying to impress this girl. It's obvious he likes her in a way more than just a ONS, and that he's a little timid, which he mentioned (implicitly, ie that he hasn't a relationship in a long time).

OP, I'd say that, by all means, continue your fitness program, and that would definitely be a way to impress her, but be wary if that is all she is interested in. As other people have said, try and improve the contact you have with her. A girl may be perfect for you, but you might not be perfect for her (but hopefully for you, you are).
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Just talk to her at swimming and stuff - like actual conversation, not just like "Good length time" or some ****, then after that just say Hi at school when passing in the corridors or whatever. Go from there, speak more on facebook - you get the idea. Then if things are going well i.e you're talking a lot, she is initaiting conversations even if only on facebook. Just ask her out or if she wants to go do something. It's not hard really, in it's most simplest terms "Man up."
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