I've been really down for a couple of months now, it's not the first time I find it comes and goes but this is the first time I've been down while being in a relationship. Until the past week or so I had never properly considered the idea that I could be depressed but I've been looking all over the internet and I've decided that I will seek help somewhere...when I feel ready.
But I just don't feel in love anymore. I don't know whether it's just my negative mood or whether I have actually fallen out of love. I feel bad because he's such a lovely guy and he's really in love with me, but I don't feel like I can cope with a relationship now. It makes me feel stressed and anxious thinking about it, and I think it's making me feel more sad.
1. Should I tell him about my depression (seeing as it's just me thinking this and no diagnosis)?
2. Is it selfish to break up with him because of my mood and stress?
3. How would I break up with him when there is no clear cut reason?
4. I can imagine that he would want to help me through my sadness but just the idea of that seems like hell to me - so how do I put him off that?
5. How do I get help???
Talk to him about your problems and see if he can help you cope better. He will probably want to help so dont worry about dragging him down or anything.
This relationship obviously isn't making you happy. It may be a bit of a stretch to say you're depressed. Though it may be a good idea to talk to someone about it. Don't be so quick to label yourself OK? I'm not saying you're not depressed.
Talk to your partner, maybe there's an issue you're not aware of. If not then your relationship may not be making you happy.