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    Which is more effective + why?
    talking or writing?
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    Depends on the individual. Personally, I don't like talking to people about my "feelings", but I probably wouldn't write them either. I'll just keep them bottled up until I probably have a heart attack/drug/alcohol related death age 40.
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    Yeah i agree, depends on the person. For me personally talking would be better, I don't think writing would really help me but talking about things certainly would
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    (Original post by st_23)
    Yeah i agree, depends on the person. For me personally talking would be better, I don't think writing would really help me but talking about things certainly would
    why?
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    I find writing much easier than talking but that's just me
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Which is more effective + why?
    talking or writing?
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    I do anything to get them out really, talking and writing. Can't stand to have feelings build up! But if things get too much then I'll usually write them down. If I talk to people often, I feel like too much of a burden.
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    I write but I would agree with the others that it is quite personal.
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    (Original post by DiZZeeKiD)
    Depends on the individual. Personally, I don't like talking to people about my "feelings", but I probably wouldn't write them either. I'll just keep them bottled up until I probably have a heart attack/drug/alcohol related death age 40.
    This. I'll race you to it.
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    I used to bottle things up. I did that for years and now im on anti depressants and anti anxiety tablets!!
    I do find though, that for me it is a lot easier to write my feelings down. I feel less self concious that way and I find it easier if I can think about things when im writing but saying that, once I start writing its hard to stop.
    Talking to someone 1 on 1 in a dark room also helps!
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    talking, as paper cannot give you advice
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    why?

    I don't know, it would just feel like writing had no meaning unless someone read it. If i just wrote something down and no one saw it i'd feel like nothing has changes but by telling someone i'd feel like i got a bit of it off my chest.

    Saying that i do tend to bottle a lot of things up but when i do get them out i prefer to talk to someone. Also by talking to someone they can offer you reassurance and advice.
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    thanks for all the replies I appreciate your advice
    I haven t chosen yet,maybe I ll do a bit of both depending on what I feel comfortable with someone knowing... and what I might need advice with...
    Feel free to post more if you have other things to say...
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    I ve had a couple of ideas,sinse I m not much of a songwriter,I might go for poems or sinse I have difficulty expressing what I feel just put together clips of songs that represent how I feel about certain things or write out the lyrics if the editing is taking too long.
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    (Original post by *twinkletoes*)
    I used to bottle things up. I did that for years and now im on anti depressants and anti anxiety tablets!!
    I do find though, that for me it is a lot easier to write my feelings down. I feel less self concious that way and I find it easier if I can think about things when im writing but saying that, once I start writing its hard to stop.
    Talking to someone 1 on 1 in a dark room also helps!
    Just out of curiosity (to add to my own knowledge and understanding):

    - When you bottled your feelings up, is it because you felt there was really no one you could actually talk to about your problems?
    - - Do you now have someone you can talk to about your problems? If so, is it a friend/partner or doctor/counsellor or either or all of these?

    - Do you still bottle things up? (Whilst the SSRIs are helping you cope)

    Finally, the dark room method, I can't believe I never thought about that - I think it's a brilliant idea, thanks.
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    (Original post by Final Fantasy)
    Just out of curiosity (to add to my own knowledge and understanding):

    - When you bottled your feelings up, is it because you felt there was really no one you could actually talk to about your problems?
    - - Do you now have someone you can talk to about your problems? If so, is it a friend/partner or doctor/counsellor or either or all of these?

    - Do you still bottle things up? (Whilst the SSRIs are helping you cope)

    Finally, the dark room method, I can't believe I never thought about that - I think it's a brilliant idea, thanks.

    I bottled things up because I was young, stupid and thought that the last thing people needed was me adding to their problems... I lost my mum when I was 13 (7years ago now!) and that was the start of me bottling things up as I knew all my other family were coping with their grief as well... Then it just got worse as I got older. I did some pretty stupid things and I kept things from people because I was worried that people would judge me.

    If I have to talk to someone now then I talk to my dance teacher who is also a really good friend of mine. She and I are so alike and although she is almost 20 years older than me, she can relate to things iv done and what im going through as well as she was on anti depressants etc when she was my age and I know that no matter what I tell her, she wont judge me but I also know that if I do something she doesnt agree with she will just tell me straight. It was her that suggested talking in a dark room. You just lie back to back so you cant see each other and talk. I was offered counselling by my GP but I struggle with talking to strangers so I just chose the SSRI's.

    I do still bottle things up but not so much these days. Im getting better now though (probably to do with the tablets) but I feel like I am a lot stronger emotionally and more mentally stable.

    Sorry for the length of my post!!! x
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    (Original post by *twinkletoes*)
    I bottled things up because I was young, stupid and thought that the last thing people needed was me adding to their problems... I lost my mum when I was 13 (7years ago now!) and that was the start of me bottling things up as I knew all my other family were coping with their grief as well... Then it just got worse as I got older. I did some pretty stupid things and I kept things from people because I was worried that people would judge me.

    If I have to talk to someone now then I talk to my dance teacher who is also a really good friend of mine. She and I are so alike and although she is almost 20 years older than me, she can relate to things iv done and what im going through as well as she was on anti depressants etc when she was my age and I know that no matter what I tell her, she wont judge me but I also know that if I do something she doesnt agree with she will just tell me straight. It was her that suggested talking in a dark room. You just lie back to back so you cant see each other and talk. I was offered counselling by my GP but I struggle with talking to strangers so I just chose the SSRI's.

    I do still bottle things up but not so much these days. Im getting better now though (probably to do with the tablets) but I feel like I am a lot stronger emotionally and more mentally stable.

    Sorry for the length of my post!!! x
    Interesting, I see now. Thanks for replying.

    Don't worry about the length of post, I asked, you answered, and if I didn't like it then it would be my own problem wouldn't it?

    Good luck to you.
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    (Original post by Final Fantasy)
    Interesting, I see now. Thanks for replying.

    Don't worry about the length of post, I asked, you answered, and if I didn't like it then it would be my own problem wouldn't it?

    Good luck to you.

    Aha, true point that!

    Good luck to you too!!!
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    (Original post by *twinkletoes*)
    Aha, true point that!

    Good luck to you too!!!
    What for? :confused:
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    (Original post by Final Fantasy)
    What for? :confused:
    You asked for advice so I guess it was a good luck with following my advice lol.
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    (Original post by *twinkletoes*)
    You asked for advice so I guess it was a good luck with following my advice lol.
    Wasn't advice I was looking for I wanted to understand something a little bit better (I find it's always helpful to hear as many different views and experiences as you can). But thanks, you've helped, I learned something new (the dark room method - although I have a different variation in mind than the back-to-back one)!
 
 
 
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