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Am I over reacting?
Ex and I were together for 3 years, we first went on a break in his GAP year, but then got back together in the hols all the time (he was in a school miles away), then again when he first started uni. Now, we fell out in the summer and didn't really speak much - but have been speaking daily for a couple of months lately.
It was my 18th on Sat - I didn't received a telephone call, a text, an email, a card, a present, anything. Every year he has called on my 'birthday morning' (ie 1 am or silly time) to 'sing' happy birthday, so he could be the 'first person to say it', then this year? Nothing. I was deeply offended and hurt - after the previous week he'd thrown a strop over not being invited to my party that weekend, so he KNEW my birthday was this weekend (friend and I were having a huge joint one, school play was this weekend etc).
He has just come on msn. 'How was your b'day?'
(reaction from me). asking me what I'd had etc. etc. I was just sat there, absolutely astonished, making astonished noises, mouth wide open. Eventually went on to say, 'I'm sorry, I just totally forgot.' Huh? What planet?
Needless to say, after then the grovelling 'I'm so sorry, I'm only human's', I just snapped and pointed it out like it was. I've since had a million unanswered phonecalls and I'm quite tempted never to speak again. I am absolutely fuming, rather than quite gutted as I was at 4am on Sat morning on the realisation he hadn't called.
What quite I do from here, I don't know. I'm just so angry, offended and hurt right now!!
It was my 18th on Sat - I didn't received a telephone call, a text, an email, a card, a present, anything. Every year he has called on my 'birthday morning' (ie 1 am or silly time) to 'sing' happy birthday, so he could be the 'first person to say it', then this year? Nothing. I was deeply offended and hurt - after the previous week he'd thrown a strop over not being invited to my party that weekend, so he KNEW my birthday was this weekend (friend and I were having a huge joint one, school play was this weekend etc).
He has just come on msn. 'How was your b'day?'
(reaction from me). asking me what I'd had etc. etc. I was just sat there, absolutely astonished, making astonished noises, mouth wide open. Eventually went on to say, 'I'm sorry, I just totally forgot.' Huh? What planet? Needless to say, after then the grovelling 'I'm so sorry, I'm only human's', I just snapped and pointed it out like it was. I've since had a million unanswered phonecalls and I'm quite tempted never to speak again. I am absolutely fuming, rather than quite gutted as I was at 4am on Sat morning on the realisation he hadn't called.
What quite I do from here, I don't know. I'm just so angry, offended and hurt right now!!
Lady_Muck
Ex and I were together for 3 years, we first went on a break in his GAP year, but then got back together in the hols all the time (he was in a school miles away), then again when he first started uni. Now, we fell out in the summer and didn't really speak much - but have been speaking daily for a couple of months lately.
It was my 18th on Sat - I didn't received a telephone call, a text, an email, a card, a present, anything. Every year he has called on my 'birthday morning' (ie 1 am or silly time) to 'sing' happy birthday, so he could be the 'first person to say it', then this year? Nothing. I was deeply offended and hurt - after the previous week he'd thrown a strop over not being invited to my party that weekend, so he KNEW my birthday was this weekend (friend and I were having a huge joint one, school play was this weekend etc).
He has just come on msn. 'How was your b'day?' (reaction from me). asking me what I'd had etc. etc. I was just sat there, absolutely astonished, making astonished noises, mouth wide open. Eventually went on to say, 'I'm sorry, I just totally forgot.' Huh? What planet?
Needless to say, after then the grovelling 'I'm so sorry, I'm only human's', I just snapped and pointed it out like it was. I've since had a million unanswered phonecalls and I'm quite tempted never to speak again. I am absolutely fuming, rather than quite gutted as I was at 4am on Sat morning on the realisation he hadn't called.
What quite I do from here, I don't know. I'm just so angry, offended and hurt right now!!
It was my 18th on Sat - I didn't received a telephone call, a text, an email, a card, a present, anything. Every year he has called on my 'birthday morning' (ie 1 am or silly time) to 'sing' happy birthday, so he could be the 'first person to say it', then this year? Nothing. I was deeply offended and hurt - after the previous week he'd thrown a strop over not being invited to my party that weekend, so he KNEW my birthday was this weekend (friend and I were having a huge joint one, school play was this weekend etc).
He has just come on msn. 'How was your b'day?'
(reaction from me). asking me what I'd had etc. etc. I was just sat there, absolutely astonished, making astonished noises, mouth wide open. Eventually went on to say, 'I'm sorry, I just totally forgot.' Huh? What planet? Needless to say, after then the grovelling 'I'm so sorry, I'm only human's', I just snapped and pointed it out like it was. I've since had a million unanswered phonecalls and I'm quite tempted never to speak again. I am absolutely fuming, rather than quite gutted as I was at 4am on Sat morning on the realisation he hadn't called.
What quite I do from here, I don't know. I'm just so angry, offended and hurt right now!!
Well he was probably angry/offended/hurt that he wasn't invited to your party...
guys can be weird sometimes, but in this case, it sounds like you might as well call it quits, rather than getting upset and risking your friendship with this guy!
Long term do you wanna be more than mates or are you cool with how it is? If it's the latter I'd just chalk it up to him being an ignorant s*d for a few minutes of his life and try to forget about it. If you wanna get back with him then unless he has a better reason than the one he's already given you - you probably won't be able to overlook it
Yes, you are over-reacting and sound pretty petulant in my opinion.
He probably didn't feel like it, seeing as you didn't consider him special enough to be invited to your party.
Sounds like you have an immature relationship. I wouldn't worry too much.
Lady_Muck
Ex and I were together for 3 years, we first went on a break in his GAP year, but then got back together in the hols all the time (he was in a school miles away), then again when he first started uni. Now, we fell out in the summer and didn't really speak much - but have been speaking daily for a couple of months lately.
It was my 18th on Sat - I didn't received a telephone call, a text, an email, a card, a present, anything. Every year he has called on my 'birthday morning' (ie 1 am or silly time) to 'sing' happy birthday, so he could be the 'first person to say it', then this year? Nothing. I was deeply offended and hurt - after the previous week he'd thrown a strop over not being invited to my party that weekend, so he KNEW my birthday was this weekend (friend and I were having a huge joint one, school play was this weekend etc).
He has just come on msn. 'How was your b'day?' (reaction from me). asking me what I'd had etc. etc. I was just sat there, absolutely astonished, making astonished noises, mouth wide open. Eventually went on to say, 'I'm sorry, I just totally forgot.' Huh? What planet?
Needless to say, after then the grovelling 'I'm so sorry, I'm only human's', I just snapped and pointed it out like it was. I've since had a million unanswered phonecalls and I'm quite tempted never to speak again. I am absolutely fuming, rather than quite gutted as I was at 4am on Sat morning on the realisation he hadn't called.
What quite I do from here, I don't know. I'm just so angry, offended and hurt right now!!
It was my 18th on Sat - I didn't received a telephone call, a text, an email, a card, a present, anything. Every year he has called on my 'birthday morning' (ie 1 am or silly time) to 'sing' happy birthday, so he could be the 'first person to say it', then this year? Nothing. I was deeply offended and hurt - after the previous week he'd thrown a strop over not being invited to my party that weekend, so he KNEW my birthday was this weekend (friend and I were having a huge joint one, school play was this weekend etc).
He has just come on msn. 'How was your b'day?'
(reaction from me). asking me what I'd had etc. etc. I was just sat there, absolutely astonished, making astonished noises, mouth wide open. Eventually went on to say, 'I'm sorry, I just totally forgot.' Huh? What planet? Needless to say, after then the grovelling 'I'm so sorry, I'm only human's', I just snapped and pointed it out like it was. I've since had a million unanswered phonecalls and I'm quite tempted never to speak again. I am absolutely fuming, rather than quite gutted as I was at 4am on Sat morning on the realisation he hadn't called.
What quite I do from here, I don't know. I'm just so angry, offended and hurt right now!!
Sounds like because you didnt invite him to the party he was doing the immature attention seeking/ ill get back at her tactic.
And as this tactic failed by you having a major go at him, he does the innocent grovelling tactic
You didn't invite your boyfriend to your birthday party? WTF?
I think you have some serious problems there. Can't you see that he might be just a little bit annoyed at not getting an invite to your 18th? I think you need to have a good talk about this. Certainly if I didn't get invited to my girlfriends birthday she would no longer be my girlfriend and she certainly wouldn't be a getting a present or a card.
I think you have some serious problems there. Can't you see that he might be just a little bit annoyed at not getting an invite to your 18th? I think you need to have a good talk about this. Certainly if I didn't get invited to my girlfriends birthday she would no longer be my girlfriend and she certainly wouldn't be a getting a present or a card.
mousey
I think you're over-reacting hugely. He's your ex and you didn't consider him important enough to be invited, he doesn't owe you anything.
True.
Okay, you could be a bit upset that he forgot or didn't wish you happy bday on purpose..but don't exagerate.
Hmmm... You dont invite him to your birthday party and you know he wasnt happy about it and you were still expecting him to call you up wishing happy birthday and were upset when he didnt. Right.
And then you're angry at him for asking you how it was?
I'm not surprised hes not answering your calls.
And then you're angry at him for asking you how it was?
I'm not surprised hes not answering your calls.
Lady_Muck
Ex and I were together for 3 years, we first went on a break in his GAP year, but then got back together in the hols all the time (he was in a school miles away), then again when he first started uni. Now, we fell out in the summer and didn't really speak much - but have been speaking daily for a couple of months lately.
It was my 18th on Sat - I didn't received a telephone call, a text, an email, a card, a present, anything. Every year he has called on my 'birthday morning' (ie 1 am or silly time) to 'sing' happy birthday, so he could be the 'first person to say it', then this year? Nothing. I was deeply offended and hurt - after the previous week he'd thrown a strop over not being invited to my party that weekend, so he KNEW my birthday was this weekend (friend and I were having a huge joint one, school play was this weekend etc).
He has just come on msn. 'How was your b'day?' (reaction from me). asking me what I'd had etc. etc. I was just sat there, absolutely astonished, making astonished noises, mouth wide open. Eventually went on to say, 'I'm sorry, I just totally forgot.' Huh? What planet?
Needless to say, after then the grovelling 'I'm so sorry, I'm only human's', I just snapped and pointed it out like it was. I've since had a million unanswered phonecalls and I'm quite tempted never to speak again. I am absolutely fuming, rather than quite gutted as I was at 4am on Sat morning on the realisation he hadn't called.
What quite I do from here, I don't know. I'm just so angry, offended and hurt right now!!
It was my 18th on Sat - I didn't received a telephone call, a text, an email, a card, a present, anything. Every year he has called on my 'birthday morning' (ie 1 am or silly time) to 'sing' happy birthday, so he could be the 'first person to say it', then this year? Nothing. I was deeply offended and hurt - after the previous week he'd thrown a strop over not being invited to my party that weekend, so he KNEW my birthday was this weekend (friend and I were having a huge joint one, school play was this weekend etc).
He has just come on msn. 'How was your b'day?'
(reaction from me). asking me what I'd had etc. etc. I was just sat there, absolutely astonished, making astonished noises, mouth wide open. Eventually went on to say, 'I'm sorry, I just totally forgot.' Huh? What planet? Needless to say, after then the grovelling 'I'm so sorry, I'm only human's', I just snapped and pointed it out like it was. I've since had a million unanswered phonecalls and I'm quite tempted never to speak again. I am absolutely fuming, rather than quite gutted as I was at 4am on Sat morning on the realisation he hadn't called.
What quite I do from here, I don't know. I'm just so angry, offended and hurt right now!!
Yes, this is your problem, not his. As others have said, he doesn't owe you anything...if anything he should be angry at you for expecting him to call you in the morning when you haven't even invited him to your party.
Overreacting nothing - you don't have the right to be angry with him.
MNBStyle
Sounds like because you didnt invite him to the party he was doing the immature attention seeking/ ill get back at her tactic.
And as this tactic failed by you having a major go at him, he does the innocent grovelling tactic
And as this tactic failed by you having a major go at him, he does the innocent grovelling tactic
Very true.
He is merely being petty and getting revenge.
Thus you should not feel mad, but flattered that he was offended at not being invited.
As everyone else has said, you are quite clearly over-reacting. If I was in his shoes the last thing I would want to do is phone someone up at 1am to wish them happy birthday, especially if they hadn't invited me to their party- it would make me look desperate and stupid- I would have taken that as a sign that that person didn't want to talk to me.
You have no right to be angry with him at all, I'm sorry to say.
You have no right to be angry with him at all, I'm sorry to say.
you know people can really forget things, thgouth I can understand how painful it is, especially with ur ex, but from the other hand, if he is an ex and not current BF why do you need to be so offended? I mean, it is a person form your past life and he just doent have to congratulate you...but it is smth like rational explonation, but I know that it hrts now and you are angry...try to calm down..and dont congratulate him as well, on his BD he will be in your shoes =)
I didn't invite him because whenever I see him it just goes badly (in a way that, it's not good for either of us, because we just get back together as neither of us are seeing another person and it was getting to the point where every weekend was spending time together and it was just like being in a relationship, which I found hard!) and I just didn't want him there, not in a way that I hate him, I just find it uncomfortable because if we ARE 'off' then we 'shouldn't speak' as he's not the type of person I could be friends with, too much water underneath the bridge so to speak.
I was with him for 3 years, it's a long time 'when you're young'. Of course I was very close to him and he helped me through some pretty turbulant times, I'd get back togethe tomorrow, but it's not straightforward and never has been. I'm getting a bit tired of having such a long distance relationship (we both were at different schools, so it's always been the same) yet in a way I'm used to it. He;s very hard to speak to in that respect as he won't give me a straight answer and just plays around with me something chronic. In any other situation, I would totally not have it, but because it's him, he has this 'hold' over me. Guys, I guess.
We did speak last night anyway, for a long time and have resolved the differences about the birthday. He said he's sorry and proceeded to remind me of all the things I've done, resulting in mass laughter, it's just like that - whenever I'm angry at him it turns out so I'm putty again! Argh. Sooo confusing
I was with him for 3 years, it's a long time 'when you're young'. Of course I was very close to him and he helped me through some pretty turbulant times, I'd get back togethe tomorrow, but it's not straightforward and never has been. I'm getting a bit tired of having such a long distance relationship (we both were at different schools, so it's always been the same) yet in a way I'm used to it. He;s very hard to speak to in that respect as he won't give me a straight answer and just plays around with me something chronic. In any other situation, I would totally not have it, but because it's him, he has this 'hold' over me. Guys, I guess.
We did speak last night anyway, for a long time and have resolved the differences about the birthday. He said he's sorry and proceeded to remind me of all the things I've done, resulting in mass laughter, it's just like that - whenever I'm angry at him it turns out so I'm putty again! Argh. Sooo confusing
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