Confidence

Hey,

All my life i've had excema and been allergic to a number of things. Throughout primary school i was pretty shy on the outside but inside i felt like the most confident person ever and i was at home. I used to have rashes on my face and this made me feel like absolute crap, i felt ugly and relvulting. Through secondary school my ezcema got better and better until at about the being of yr 10 it seemed completely disappeared :biggrin:

I felt really confident, expanded my friendship group loads, and i got alot of guys (wahey). I really felt my best especially this summer. Now right at the begining on 6th form its all come back again :frown:

every morning i wake up not wanting to go to school so people wont look at me. I actually cried on the tube this morning because someone looked at me (i'm paranoid they're thinking how revulting i am).

Normally if someone looked at me i would feel confident but now i want to run and hide :frown:

I saw a video of me that was filmed over the summer and i looked so pretty and confident. And now i wont even talk to people so that no one will look at me. I want the old me back.

Reply 1

Tim Street

Whats come back, the excma or the shyness?

Reply 2

emit.

2

they appear to go hand-in-hand. if it went for a few years, there must be soemthing you can do. i have a similar issue with mouth ulcers. i get these outbursts every month or so and during the few weeks i have them i find it hard to talk to people so i just shy away :frown:

and there's nothing i can do.

Reply 3

heminder

13

~the_one~

Hey,

All my life i've had excema and been allergic to a number of things. Throughout primary school i was pretty shy on the outside but inside i felt like the most confident person ever and i was at home. I used to have rashes on my face and this made me feel like absolute crap, i felt ugly and relvulting. Through secondary school my ezcema got better and better until at about the being of yr 10 it seemed completely disappeared :biggrin:

I felt really confident, expanded my friendship group loads, and i got alot of guys (wahey). I really felt my best especially this summer. Now right at the begining on 6th form its all come back again :frown:

every morning i wake up not wanting to go to school so people wont look at me. I actually cried on the tube this morning because someone looked at me (i'm paranoid they're thinking how revulting i am).

Normally if someone looked at me i would feel confident but now i want to run and hide :frown:

I saw a video of me that was filmed over the summer and i looked so pretty and confident. And now i wont even talk to people so that no one will look at me. I want the old me back.

i used to have eczema on my arms...
all gone now...

i went on holiday once and left my creams at home...
clever me...
it was actually the best thing to happen...
since i was all pre-occupied on my holiday, and didn't touch (scratch) my arms the eczema dissapeared by the time i got back...
it hasn't come back since...

i now use Vaseline on my arms to make sure it's locked away in hell...

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eczema

Reply 4

white_haired_wizard

16

Probably inter-linked. I would say if you start to feel down about your looks, you feel more self-conscious, this leads to feeling increasingly insular which is/can be shyness.

I can relate. Summer - i went abroad to Asia for 4 weeks, my skin was fantastic and i looked the healthiest and best looking i ever have done - almost, perfect, spotless skin, and my hair was bleached by the sun, so pretty blonde again, and a healthy looking tan to go with it all....sweet.

But back to England, the climate, poor student diet at uni, and days i have felt pretty down because i look wholly different and not half as attractive, which does suck.

We all have good and bad days - i just don't feel people think as much about others as people think they do, i'd say people generally, are much more insular and closed as beings, than meets the eye/what you think - people can tend to be rather self-interested, self conscious beings....not saying extremely selfish, but maybe, its human nature to be over self-indulgent at times...this may not be music to your ears or any help, but just don't worry about it i guess...but having said that, easier said than done perhaps. :smile:

All people have days of looking like shít...

Reply 5

Laursy

10

aww you need to get past it and realise that people who are close to you won't judge you and think you are revolting,

i used to get really bad excema(however it is spelt) on my arms and i wasn't afraid to hide it people asked what it was and i told them, now i have scabs and stuff they look like syringe scabs (ive never pushed) which will not go away but to be honest it doesn;t really bother me anymore!!

you should go out and try to have a good time and then you will realise people who do look at you strangely or in a way that offends you (they are extremly shallow and you shouldn;t even justify them with an answer or let them see you upset) they aren;t worth it, its you and the people who love you!!

you should speck to someone about how you feel!!

i hope this doesn;t offend and i really hope everything works out for you becuase to me it really sounds like you deserve it!! x

Reply 6

Excalibur

15

~the_one~

Hey,

All my life i've had excema and been allergic to a number of things. Throughout primary school i was pretty shy on the outside but inside i felt like the most confident person ever and i was at home. I used to have rashes on my face and this made me feel like absolute crap, i felt ugly and relvulting. Through secondary school my ezcema got better and better until at about the being of yr 10 it seemed completely disappeared :biggrin:

I felt really confident, expanded my friendship group loads, and i got alot of guys (wahey). I really felt my best especially this summer. Now right at the begining on 6th form its all come back again :frown:

every morning i wake up not wanting to go to school so people wont look at me. I actually cried on the tube this morning because someone looked at me (i'm paranoid they're thinking how revulting i am).

Normally if someone looked at me i would feel confident but now i want to run and hide :frown:

I saw a video of me that was filmed over the summer and i looked so pretty and confident. And now i wont even talk to people so that no one will look at me. I want the old me back.

Is it that your eczema has returned? Or is this unrelated?

I can sympathise, though. I've never been all that confident about myself, and I always get slightly paranoid when a stranger is looking at me - perhaps they're thinking "How short is that girl?" or something. Is your loss of confidence maybe have something to do with starting sixth form? Perhaps the workload of AS Levels may be getting you down. But the radiant and confident girl you were over the summer is still you, and it hasn't gone away - and she will return. :smile:

And as wizard said - people are really not that interested in you as you may think they are. :p:

Humans are all very self-centred beings.

Reply 7

Tesh

1

Try a cream called Elicina. It's expensive £25 but might help a lot.

Reply 8

Poica

14

Excalibur

Is it that your eczema has returned? Or is this unrelated?

I can sympathise, though. I've never been all that confident about myself, and I always get slightly paranoid when a stranger is looking at me - perhaps they're thinking "How short is that girl?" or something. Is your loss of confidence maybe have something to do with starting sixth form? Perhaps the workload of AS Levels may be getting you down. But the radiant and confident girl you were over the summer is still you, and it hasn't gone away - and she will return. :smile:

And as wizard said - people are really not that interested in you as you may think they are. :p:

Humans are all very self-centred beings.

Ha ha ha ha ha ha - I'm loving the way you linked that to your own experience - "Oh my god, I'm so short!!! Stop looking at me, I'm so much smaller than most 15 years olds! What will I do!?"

To the OP, it really is a state of mind. Look people in the eye. You know you can be that confident, just try. If you get used to looking people in the eye and holding your head up to the world, you'll feel better. Well, possibly.

Reply 9

iz_a_bell

10

I have ezema on my face too. It got really bad at a point that I had to go see a doctor. And the cream I was prescribed worked brilliantly. Go to the doctors, that's my advice.

Also, I didn't really care much on how other people sees me. At least I get to find out who are my real friends who like as because of who I am, not how I look like!

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