(Original post by The Cornerstone)
That's the thing I don't understand about people saying this, surely if you try to be different or reinvent yourself it might make you seem a bit fake no? Plus there's a chance of the past biting you back (eg: uni friends meeting your old friends). I never quite understand when people say that
Well what do you think we mean by "reinvent"? I don't mean that you should lie about your past, like tell people you went to a private school when you didn't, or that you love rock music when you really hate it. I mean that if you got a reputation for being shy and reserved at school and you disliked this image, then you could make an effort not to be shy and reserved at university. Or you had a reputation as a wild child, then you could be a bit more sensible etc etc etc.
I suppose what you need to understand is that the relationship between who you are and who the people around you think you are is not simply a one way street. If all your mates rock up with you at uni and say "hey have you met Brian, he's such a crazy ****er, you should hear about the time he...", then you're basically stuck being stereotyped as that. Whereas if you went by yourself, you could present yourself as a completely calm and sensible person and by the time your mates came to visit, then everyone's "image" of you would have already stuck.
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