To keep it short and sweet I am doing a 3 months internship overseas which will soon be over (more or less 4 weeks to go before it's done). With my gf we were emailing once a day, to talk about our day. We used to skype once a week over the weekend. Last week she stopped emailing me. She just said she was too busy and that we could talk on skype. However when we met on skype, I felt something was wrong. She told me she was bored of this skype talk and fed up of the long distance relationship (daily email, weekly skype). She said if I want to save this relationship, I have to come back soon. She told me she was not dating someone else. She just couldn't deal anymore with the distance. Cold blooded.
Shall I confront her via email, like ''hey are we still bf-gf?'' or shall I keep it cool and wait until I am back? Her mails now are short and she avoids the ''miss you''. I know for fact that when we used to have fights, I had to see her in order to calm the situation. I am afraid that a confrontation over emails/skype would not help...
What do do? Emailing her from time to time and avoiding the sweet talks until my return and then see from there?
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- Thread Starter
- 17-03-2011 03:10
- 17-03-2011 09:30
I wouldnt do it be email, how about give her a call and talk properly when you meet? also i wouldnt think too much into it, you will only end up worrying yourself.
- 17-03-2011 09:36
How long have you been going out? I'm in an LDR in that my bf lives 2 and a half hours by train away, and we see each other every week or two weeks. She may be having a bad week and feeling insecure about the whole thing, and be truthfully too busy. I find it tough because my flatmate's got a "local" bf who is always around, and for example, I got in last night after a 12hr study day to find them all snuggled on the couch, which made me feel a bit bitter and irritated at the fact I'm in an LDR.
Have a proper talk with her either on the phone or skype or whatever so you can gauge her reactions properly. Don't go in accusing her, just try to reassure her that it'll soon be done and that you love her (if that's something you've said to each other ) Chances are it's just a hard time for her, and she's missing you but sort of confused about whether she believes it's worth missing you or not.
- 17-03-2011 09:54
I think your best bet will be to talk to her over skype, or phone, something where you can hear each others voices so comments can be interpreted properly (like when sarcasm doesn't work over email). It sounds like she may just be having a 'down day', and it may be that she is missing you lots and that 4 weeks seems like a lifetime away.
My boyfriend is in Norway for 6 months! We talk daily on 'facetime', or 'ping' (we both have the new ipod touch which is a lifesaver), and i have days when i think 'whats the point' and we argue over silly things, but the truth is, i'm so excited to be going to see him in 7 weeks time, and for him to be home in August.
If she wants to make it work, she will stick with you, if not, maybe you both aren't right for each other? Either way, its probably best to save the serious talking for when you are together again, and 4 weeks time isn't too bad.
- PS Helper
- 17-03-2011 10:03
Where overseas? Is it possible to jump on a plane/ship/whatever for a weekend?
- 17-03-2011 10:05
Why don't you just pick up the phone have a nice long chat? You will be going back in three months time, right? If you both have been able to go through a ldr for the past two months, why can't you compromise a bit and wait for a month longer?
you can make it work if you guys rlly want it to work
- 17-03-2011 10:13
I'm in Ldr, personally what works best is space and not feeling pressured to call everyday. Iv been with my girlfriend for just over a year and both agree our careers and education comes 1st which it should. Things seem worse when your away and I found skype caused frustration and arguments. Chill out let her come to you and speak to her when your home.
- Thread Starter
- 17-03-2011 10:57
Thanks guys... She is really down to hearth. She said skype or emails are not real and it's a real frustration for her... She has her life on her side and I seem to be so far away from her... Out of her life... She told me she misses me, but the whole touchy feeling part of a LDR is not her cup of tea. She wants real stuff, not a virtual relationship. I guess she will feel better the day I will email her my my flight route (btw 22h of flight).
I don't think that a conversation over the phone or skype would help. When I was with her in the same country, talking with her over the phone when she was mad with me never worked. I had to see her to fix the problem. It's just a pain in the ass. I am an endless romantic while she is more ''cold blooded''. Things are great when we are together... But I guess she feels really insecure cause she does not know if I will come back and when... 4 weeks are just an estimation... I hope to be back in 4 weeks for sure...