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    (Original post by River85)
    When you have tried discussing this, has this been "in passing" or as a properly structured, sitting down, meeting?

    If the latter then you've done all you can. Unfortunately all you can do now is a) put up with it or b) see the landlord. I really do recommend speaking to your landlord as, if you aren't allowed people to stay, your housemate will be in breach of contract.

    There are some dickish landlords around but I see no reason why you (or anyone else) will get into trouble. You're innocent parties. You'll probably get into more trouble if the landlord finds out later. Or if the boyfriend damages something in the house.
    ahaha to be fair it started off a structured one but then it turned into a bit of a fight because they basically were telling us that they wouldnt compromise and that we werent allowed to be unhappy about this. but coool thanks for the advice :]
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    (Original post by River85)
    You shouldn't as you are powerless here, you (and the other housemates) did not invite or encourage him. You have done your best to resolve the situation and have brought it to his attention.

    What do you mean by "get into trouble"?
    i dunno like withhold part of our deposit or somthing, or not allow us back next year as i think some people wanna stay in this house.
    spose it would be a bit extreme
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    (Original post by lolly1234)
    Arghhhhh jst need to vent off some steam! My housemates disgusting boyfriend is at our house 24/7 even though he has his own house not far away, he does f' all communal cleaning and i feel like should put some newspaper down in the bathroom for him as he's obviously not potty trained yet.

    When i asked him to contribute towards bills he basically refused on the grounds that he uses the same lightbulb as his girlfriend and cooks the same meals (despite 2 mins earlier cooking a fat bowl of rice and somthing for himself. i did mention all the other stuff he uses like tv, washing machine, shower etc. he told me that this was counteracted by the fact that they go to his 'for weeks', which everyone knows is complete RUBBISH, the first time they have been to his for a minimum of a week was last week and this is since the beginning of the year!! apart from that theyve stayed at his for like one night at a time on verrrryyyy few occassions over the past 2 terms (could probably count it on one hand). i told him that this was not true, but he refused to accept that, despite previously claiming on many occasions himself that hes always here!

    Now ever since he claimed that they go to his house for a equal amount of time, he has been at our house every night bar one! He really distracts me when i have work to do and i have 3 deadlines for tommorrow. i also told him and his girlfriend how they distract me but they have obviously not taken this on board. When i previously posted about him on here someone suggested to talk to the landlord but then i was advised not to do this because the rest of us could get in trouble. Not much i can do really.

    arghhhhhhh!!!
    This sounds really childish. A flatmate has a boyfriend over...it happens. Why does it even matter? Ignore him if he's distracting you and go to your own private room. As long as his girlfriend pays, I really don't see the problem at all.
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    (Original post by .Ali.)
    This sounds really childish. A flatmate has a boyfriend over...it happens. Why does it even matter? Ignore him if he's distracting you and go to your own private room. As long as his girlfriend pays, I really don't see the problem at all.
    errm coz my room is next door and its only like a very thin stud wall. Plus i like to be able to use the shower without someone who doesnt live here getting in before me as we only have one and making me late for uni, i wanna be able to use the washing machine without someone who doesnt live here getting to it before me and putting it on longest (like 2hrs), least energy efficient setting, whilst at the same time paying ridiculously high bills as a result of all this.
    Plus i dont like having to clean up other peoples piss.
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    (Original post by lolly1234)
    errm coz my room is next door and its only like a very thin stud wall. Plus i like to be able to use the shower without someone who doesnt live here getting in before me as we only have one and making me late for uni, i wanna be able to use the wahing machine without someone who doesnt live here getting to it before me and putting it on longest (like 2hrs), least energy efficient setting, whilst at the same time paying ridiculously high bills as a result of all this.
    Plus i dont like having to clean up other peoples piss.
    It's uni accomodation, the thin walls thing is just life I'm afraid. It's annoying but that's how it is, just live with it. Again if you don't have en-suites, then it's just a fact of life. You can't tell your friends boyfriend he can't shower when he's staying at hers, that's ridiculous. Just do your washing when he's not using it? Seriously, I think all your problems can be sorted out by learning to share stuff!

    As for the piss on the floor, then yeah that's annoying. Just tell him to improve his damn aim. Apart from that, it's not really an issue, I think you're getting a bit too worked up over it. Just try and share everything and it'll be fine lol.
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    (Original post by alharrison4)
    You gave, in a nutshell, the same answer I was going to give and I actually read the post :P
    Impressive.
    I think you could write "just talk to them about it" in answer to every thread in H&R, and it would be the best answer in about 3/4s of them.
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    (Original post by py0alb)
    I think you could write "just talk to them about it" in answer to every thread in H&R, and it would be the best answer in about 3/4s of them.
    Good point :')
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    shame just talking to them doesnt work, had another talk with them last night and they still refuse to see it as a problem
 
 
 
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