Would you *ever* give up your ideal dreams/future/career for your perfect partner?

I'm sure all those who walk down the aisle would assume they would be with them forever and ever and ever.

Just look at the divorce rates.



Thank you. You have now answered my question.

People in love do not get divorced. Also I am passionate about my choice of career, or else I wouldn't have any offers at uni would I? There'd nothing wrong with wanting a family and love, that would make me happy

NO!... It wont happen. You have to look after number one.
I don't believe there is ONE perfect partner in the world for you. And those that believe that are pretty stupid.

The world is a big place... and there is no one on this earth that has met everyone, so how they can say "He/She is my soul mate" is pretty shocking.

(My opinion btw)

You are serious?
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It's a lot easier to say that when you've never been in love -which I'm guessing from your posts and your age, you haven't? I believe that plenty of people would give up their ideal partner for their career but I find it really difficult to believe that anyone would find it EASY.

Well I've always wanted a family, longer than a career (although I am dedicated to my career choice) I'd be more upset not having a family, and if I did that'd be like a job anyway raising kids and stuff. Everyone has to make a living for their future family/themselves anyway, but if my perfect partner could support everyone then fair enough I guess? Although I'd hate to have someone "perfect" around me

I would never give up anything in my personal life for any job. No career is worth it, jobs are nothing but a means to an end - money.

There must be an awful LOT of people who aren't in love then. Check up the divorce rates.

Remember: most people believe walking down the aisle that they are marrying their perfect partner, that they will stay with them forever.

Who's to say your perfect partner will stay with you forever?

Getting offers at university =/= passionate I could talk about that, but that's a different thing.

You call that passion?

Agreed with your last point, but there's this belief that if you don't want a family or romantic love, there is something wrong with you.

yes

It doesn't matter what you choose, you can't be happy with one without the other.

There must be an awful LOT of people who aren't in love then. Check up the divorce rates.

Remember: most people believe walking down the aisle that they are marrying their perfect partner, that they will stay with them forever.

Who's to say your perfect partner will stay with you forever?

Getting offers at university =/= passionate I could talk about that, but that's a different thing.

You call that passion?

Agreed with your last point, but there's this belief that if you don't want a family or romantic love, there is something wrong with you.

I agree with this wholeheartedly, very good post - wish it would let me rep.

This is something that I was writing about 2 days ago in my reclaim self-confidence post about the fact that we should see the world through our own eyes and not the eyes of other people.

Brilliant.

Who says a goal can't be unconditional also?

*facepalm*

have you ever been in love? dont say that until you have- its not an easy decision

but having said that i have put myself through hell to get where i am and would hate to waste it- the only thing pushing me through these exams is the thought of my dream at the end.

equally walking away from my perfect partner would be so hard

in either situation it is impossible to be totally happy. that said my perfect partner would never take my dreams away from me- so I guess dreams come first

I disagree. You don't need a partner to be happy

Interesting, so your limit is death. (Which is fair enough).

But to see your perfect girl with another man - I can tell if you were in that position, you would be pretty emotional.

So let's step that up a gear:

*You are one decision away from FULLY achieving your dream. I.e. if you walk out now, you will get want you desire. The situation is this - the priest (or whatever) asks you to take your perfect girl's hand in marriage. (She hasn't said I do yet).

However, at the back, is the man who she will marry if you leave. But also at the back is the opportunity to achieve your dream to be the best biker on earth (I believe?).

So, walk out now - you will become the best biker.
Say "I do" and you'll be with her - but every hope of being the best biker (or whatever) is gone forever.

If your relationship fails and she leaves you etc, you can NEVER get your dream back. But if you walk, you'll be the best biker and that - but of course, "perfect girl" marries the guy at the back. (So no chance of getting her back).

Your perfect girl is waiting. You're getting frustrated at what to do. She says, "decide now".

What do you do?

(So this is breaking point. Instead of being a thinking question, now you will use your empathetic skills. Could you desert your emotions for this girl and become the best biker? Could you leave your dream for this girl? (No guarantee of her staying with you - who ever said she will stay with you forever?)).

Do you have a better explanation?