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    Definitely the relationship.
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    (Original post by OceanSoul)
    A 'perfect' future for me can not happen without a 'perfect' partner.
    In other words, you have no ambitions for yourself other than finding the perfect partner?
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    Perfect partner.

    Hell, I give up vital things because I love him and he's far from perfect.
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    I've given up my life-long plans to have a military career for this girl... But she's worth it.

    If things don't work out with her for any reason, I can always get back on track with my dream job.
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    (Original post by DiZZeeKiD)
    Why can't an ideal future include a partner......?
    I presume all of us have our own independent ambitions, right?
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    (Original post by DiZZeeKiD)
    Why can't an ideal future include a partner......?
    because 'im so academic' is trying to prove some inane point about how a career is the absolute most important thing ever and that she's so much more wise and enlightened than everyone else by being above such petty things as human relationships
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    (Original post by Bubbles*de*Milo)
    Definitely the relationship.
    Why?
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    (Original post by countryfile)
    Perfect partner.

    Hell, I give up vital things because I love him and he's far from perfect.
    Vital things? What about everything that you've ever dreamed of? Would you be a housewife in order to be with him?
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    probably perfect partner, cos money cant buy you love.and whats the point of working every day until you die, and not experiencing love? money isnt as important as people make it out to be.
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    (Original post by C_B_C)
    I've given up my life-long plans to have a military career for this girl... But she's worth it.

    If things don't work out with her for any reason, I can always get back on track with my dream job.
    Hypothetically, what if you couldn't?
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    (Original post by im so academic)
    In other words, you have no ambitions for yourself other than finding the perfect partner?
    I don't think you understood my first comment. I said my ideal future includes a partner who will share my dreams with me. Meaning that, I do in fact have ambitions. But without sharing it with a person who makes me feel complete, there is no 'perfect' future. I'm a very social person, I talk to a lot of people, have a few close friends but they don't replace a good partner. I'm not dependent on others, at all. But still want to share my life. Also, considering 'kids' in the future, I wouldn't want to have kids from a partner who I'm not happy with. (Some users wrote that they care about their children more than their partner so they would go for an ideal future rather than an ideal partner).
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    (Original post by im so academic)
    I presume all of us have our own independent ambitions, right?
    Yes.

    But this doesn't mean you are unable to achieve these with a partner. You don't have to sacrifice one or the other. People have successful careers and happy relationships, no?
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    (Original post by mermania)
    because 'im so academic' is trying to prove some inane point about how a career is the absolute most important thing ever and that she's so much more wise and enlightened than everyone else by being above such petty things as human relationships
    :yes: I understand. Madness. The irony is, this will probably prevent her from ever having a successful or meaningful relationship. Shame.:rolleyes:
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    Neither is important to me.
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    Perfect partner because it wouldn't be my ideal future without that special person to spend it with. I don't mind as long as I'm living a decent live with that special person.
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    (Original post by im so academic)
    And realising that every day, I could've done something, I could've worked for my goals, I could've made my dreams happen...



    And? I couldn't give a **** if no one came to my funeral; or even if I were thrown onto a skip. I'm dead, I really wouldn't care.



    For me it isn't.



    Bring in the age card. :rolleyes:



    Then I got sense and realised "**** that, I have one shot in life, I'll do what I want".



    Does it happen for everyone?

    This question is worded to see what you would pick if you HAD to choose one or the other.
    do you mind me asking, how old ar you? its unusual to see a girl who is so independant!! you go girl! problem is when girls like you hit 23 and everyone is giving up everything to let their life revolve abut a dude, it is hard NOT to do that
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    (Original post by inksplodge)
    probably perfect partner, cos money cant buy you love.and whats the point of working every day until you die, and not experiencing love? money isnt as important as people make it out to be.
    What if love is irrelevant for you? What if you have other things in life you want to do?

    Remember not everyone's ideal future contains love OR money.
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    (Original post by OceanSoul)
    I don't think you understood my first comment. I said my ideal future includes a partner who will share my dreams with me. Meaning that, I do in fact have ambitions. But without sharing it with a person who makes me feel complete, there is no 'perfect' future. I'm a very social person, I talk to a lot of people, have a few close friends but they don't replace a good partner. I'm not dependent on others, at all. But still want to share my life. Also, considering 'kids' in the future, I wouldn't want to have kids from a partner who I'm not happy with. (Some users wrote that they care about their children more than their partner so they would go for an ideal future rather than an ideal partner).
    What I meant was that, in order to fulfil your ambitions, you had to give up your partner. And if you were with your partner, you had to let go of your ambitions. IRRELEVANT whether your perfect partner would allow you to do achieve your dreams.

    Especially since my ideal future is WITHOUT children - what guy doesn't want children?
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    (Original post by DiZZeeKiD)
    Yes.

    But this doesn't mean you are unable to achieve these with a partner. You don't have to sacrifice one or the other. People have successful careers and happy relationships, no?
    Of course, but when it boils down to it - which is more important to you?

    Also, what guy doesn't want children? I don't want children, you think a guy would be interested in me if I told him straight "I don't want kids and I don't want marriage"?
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    (Original post by DiZZeeKiD)
    :yes: I understand. Madness. The irony is, this will probably prevent her from ever having a successful or meaningful relationship. Shame.:rolleyes:
    So? I have other things in my life I want to do.

    "Successful/meaningful" relationships aren't the be all or the end all of life.
 
 
 
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