Would you *ever* give up your ideal dreams/future/career for your perfect partner?

People aren't as career heavy as they like to think.

People aren't as career heavy as they like to think.

I probably still would, I don't think someone "perfect" comes along very often. But then I've never really been massive on finding a really good career and working my way to the top, I'm more a work to live kind of person!

I think most people are unsure about what they really want to do with their lives, and thus go on the default option.

Yeah. I believe I made an analogy in my reclaim motivation posts about people taking the bus and telling the driver to take them anywhere, that anywhere will do and they don't mind..

Goals must be as definite as possible.

"The earth is a very small stage in a vast cosmic arena. Think of the rivers of blood spilled by all those generals and emperors so that in glory and in triumph they could become the momentary masters of a fraction of a dot. Think of the endless cruelties visited by the inhabitants of one corner of the dot on scarcely distinguishable inhabitants of some other corner of the dot. How frequent their misunderstandings, how eager they are to kill one another, how fervent their hatreds. Our posturings, our imagined self-importance, the delusion that we have some privileged position in the universe, are challenged by this point of pale light. Our planet is a lonely speck in the great enveloping cosmic dark. In our obscurity -- in all this vastness -- there is no hint that help will come from elsewhere to save us from ourselves. It is up to us. It's been said that astronomy is a humbling, and I might add, a character-building experience. To my mind, there is perhaps no better demonstration of the folly of human conceits than this distant image of our tiny world. To me, it underscores our responsibility to deal more kindly and compassionately with one another and to preserve and cherish that pale blue dot, the only home we've ever known."
— Carl Sagan

Ok, I've read it, but what is he really saying? That we should care for eachother? If that's the case, he agrees with my life goal.

You'd be willling the forgo the closest person to you to achieve this though? Can you not see the irony?

"The earth is a very small stage in a vast cosmic arena. Think of the rivers of blood spilled by all those generals and emperors so that in glory and in triumph they could become the momentary masters of a fraction of a dot. Think of the endless cruelties visited by the inhabitants of one corner of the dot on scarcely distinguishable inhabitants of some other corner of the dot. How frequent their misunderstandings, how eager they are to kill one another, how fervent their hatreds. Our posturings, our imagined self-importance, the delusion that we have some privileged position in the universe, are challenged by this point of pale light. Our planet is a lonely speck in the great enveloping cosmic dark. In our obscurity -- in all this vastness -- there is no hint that help will come from elsewhere to save us from ourselves. It is up to us. It's been said that astronomy is a humbling, and I might add, a character-building experience. To my mind, there is perhaps no better demonstration of the folly of human conceits than this distant image of our tiny world. To me, it underscores our responsibility to deal more kindly and compassionately with one another and to preserve and cherish that pale blue dot, the only home we've ever known."
— Carl Sagan

If it means achieving what I ought to achieve (which is not money) then yes to both questions. I can see irony but still, sometimes tough decisions are to be made.

However if there is evil on the path of my goal and the closest person to me is letting me know, then i'd leave my goal.

I don't want to sound anti-ambition, because I'm really not. I'm probably one of the most ambitious amongst my friends and I think its a very laudable aim what you are trying to achieve. I truly hope you succeed in what you set out to do.

I just think, from experience, it is our relationships to those who we choose to have closest to us is what truly defines us. I just worry what happens with some people that those who aim for very big goals above else, but don't achieve them. Some people in this situation have felt like they have nothing left to live for, completely ignoring the people who are looking out for their best interests.

I would never give up my boyfriend.

I don't want to sound anti-ambition, because I'm really not. I'm probably one of the most ambitious amongst my friends and I think its a very laudable aim what you are trying to achieve. I truly hope you succeed in what you set out to do.

I just think, from experience, it is our relationships to those who we choose to have closest to us is what truly defines us. I just worry what happens with some people that those who aim for very big goals above else, but don't achieve them. Some people in this situation have felt like they have nothing left to live for, completely ignoring the people who are looking out for their best interests.

A certain amount of 'Ideal Future' would be needed to sustain the 'Perfect Partner'...