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Would you *ever* give up your ideal dreams/future/career for your perfect partner? watch

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    (Original post by im so academic)
    I'd like to see a man who wouldn't a mind a girl that is:

    *very career-driven
    *doesn't want to get married
    *doesn't want kids
    *wants to travel a lot
    who said anything about not wanting to get married/have kids lol i thought we were talking about careers/relationships? :P
    i'd think that if you enjoy your job then your partner shouldn't expect you to give it up - if they really were perfect then they'd want you to be happy also with careers like medicine where people will have spent a good 6 years or so qualifying for the job, does it not seem a bit pointless to just throw it away like that? that's 6 years of your life down the drain - not to mention all the hard work they will have put into it would be totally wasted.
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    (Original post by im so academic)
    :facepalm2:
    You do realise what this is from, right?

    House is....arguably one of the best in his profession, fictionally of course. But he still gets love and hot girls.

    Best of both worlds. no facepalm necessary.."im so academic"
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    (Original post by im so academic)
    But life does.
    What do you mean life does? We are pretty much engaged, he is my future husband, so my life would never give up on him, and his would never give up on me.
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    (Original post by BenjyK)
    I probably would, not many find their absolute perfect partner in their lifetime, and the chance to have that is priceless
    This. Love lasts beyond death, but you won't be able to take your money with you when you die.
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    (Original post by totallydelirious)
    If you have to give up your dream for them they're obviously NOT the perfect partner. Surely for someone to be the *Perfect* partner they should help you reliase your dream?

    But in all honesty my dream is wishy washy crap; to have kids. i could not be with someone who wouldn't have kids. so, again, they would not be the perfect parter if they didn't want a family.
    Why? You have the potential to do something great to this world and you choose the "typical dream". Why?
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    (Original post by grth)
    You do realise what this is from, right?

    House is....arguably one of the best in his profession, fictionally of course. But he still gets love and hot girls.

    Best of both worlds. no facepalm necessary.."im so academic"
    I do not watch House.
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    (Original post by MostCompetitive)
    This. Love lasts beyond death, but you won't be able to take your money with you when you die.
    But surely if you die, it's irrelevant whether "love lasts beyond death" as you're freakin' dead?!
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    make your way to the top and buy happiness
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    Does this perfect partner stay perfect forever? What if I change and the partner who was once perfect no longer seems perfect... Hmm. Perfect future and career.
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    My career definitely!! because I know I might find someone better...
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    (Original post by disenchant3d)
    Does this perfect partner stay perfect forever? What if I change and the partner who was once perfect no longer seems perfect... Hmm. Perfect future and career.
    Good point, it may feel "lovey-dovey" at first, but gain a sense of perspective! People change. Whereas you have total control of your career.
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    (Original post by im so academic)
    Good point, it may feel "lovey-dovey" at first, but gain a sense of perspective! People change. Whereas you have total control of your career.
    What prompted you to ask this question?
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    (Original post by im so academic)
    To state the parameters of this question (as it could be interpreted in different ways):

    *Pretend you have not experienced your dream/future/career, i.e. to be an investment banker or to travel around the world. So it is NOT a case of "yeah, when I'll give up my career half-way through". No, it's one or the other.

    *Your dream or whatever cannot be finding "true love" or "happiness" or any of that wishy-washy crap. Just definite and specific goals. No emotions included, it has to be an actual goal.

    *To reiterate once again, it is a ONE or the OTHER choice. No best of both worlds in this case.

    I edited this bit as people are going down the "compromise" route, i.e. they'll take the perfect partner with a not so perfect career. So the situation is changed. NO compromise. It's:

    *Perfect partner + ****/no career
    *Perfect career + ****/no partner


    Also, no exploiting any loopholes.

    Thanks. Interested in your opinions.
    Its shocking how much this applies to my life atm. its my reality ive known my perfect partner since i was 16 but we have never got together because we've never been single at the same time or lived within 100 miles of each other for 5 years so never bothered.. (feelings mutual none of this friendzone ****)

    But honestly? Perfect "career", my perfect career is my perfect dream..
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    (Original post by disenchant3d)
    What prompted you to ask this question?
    Just a question that interested me. Because I know what I would do, so wanted to listen to other people's opinions.
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    (Original post by im so academic)
    Just a question that interested me. Because I know what I would do, so wanted to listen to other people's opinions.
    You didn't answewr my previous question :naughty:

    What would your dream future / career be? Or if it's too personal, a vague idea at least?
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    I'm going into my dream career but i don't think I would give it up. Plus I think i'd have a pretty difficult time keeping a stable relationship while i'm at work unless i'm with someone a bit special :dontknow:
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    I'm a romantic. I'll give up my dream career in exchange for the perfect partner, yes. I'd prefer to work a job I hate and come back to an unconditionally loving family, than to work a job I love, only to go home to a place I feel lonely and empty.

    Unless you add a caveat which says I'm allowed no job at all, in which case it's a slightly more difficult decision. But even then I'd probably choose romance. Lack of money would be stressful, but ultimately you don't need tons of it to be happy, or to give your kids a good start in life.
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    I'd be screwed either way. Whichever I picked I'd regret it.
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    (Original post by you7me)
    lol my friends thinks im an idiot because i do realise it! :lol:
    i shouldn't be laughin should i(?) ahhh well! i love money!
    Who doesn't. It can get you just about anything.
 
 
 
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