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Would you *ever* give up your ideal dreams/future/career for your perfect partner? watch

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    It's easier to say 'no, I wouldn't compromise my dreams' than it is to actually go through with that I think, but I'd like to think that I wouldn't have to because there's so much I want to do!
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    Nope, youre' life, not theirs. :P
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    (Original post by im so academic)
    I'm younger than you, and I know my aspirations. Don't blame your age, hun.

    "Work is never fun"? In your opinion. If you want a job that's boring, of course it will "never [be] fun".

    Yeah, we only get one life. If I want to spend that life working, who are you to tell me it's fleeting or not?

    I'd consider a life playing games with the boyfriend (euphemism?) very "fleeting".
    Some people know exactly what they want to do from a young age - frankly I'm envious and it would give me some direction. I'm weighing up four or more options for what to do after my degree - I'd rather have some idea of the best one!

    It isn't fun. I've had three jobs by now. None of them have been fun. The work experience I did, which comprised of about 4 diff jobs, wasn't fun.

    You can spend your life working if you're happy with it - that's your choice. I'm not bashing you for it, love! You made a thread asking my opinion and I stated it.
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    (Original post by Muffinz)
    Some people know exactly what they want to do from a young age - frankly I'm envious and it would give me some direction. I'm weighing up four or more options for what to do after my degree - I'd rather have some idea of the best one!
    Depends what you mean by a young age.

    Don't you think it would do you some justice actually taking some reflective time out about what you want to do in life?

    It isn't fun. I've had three jobs by now. None of them have been fun. The work experience I did, which comprised of about 4 diff jobs, wasn't fun.
    I haven't had any job or work experience yet. Does this give me a negative attitude to my future job? No.

    You can spend your life working if you're happy with it - that's your choice. I'm not bashing you for it, love! You made a thread asking my opinion and I stated it.
    Fair enough, and that I respect. :yep:
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    (Original post by Kiirk)
    However I would argue that what's the point in a dream career if you have no one to share it with?
    If a person's future dream was about "helping the world" (keeping it vague), then they would share it with those people, wouldn't they?

    Which one would you enjoy?

    A career is often between the age of 18-65+, whereas a partner is for life.
    They're for "life" if they don't die before you. Sorry, but who's to say I'll retire at 65? I'm working till the day I die.

    Same again as a job is often 9-5, a partner is 24/7, again you will spend more time in contact with the perfect partner.
    My job is not 9-5.

    Sorry, but a partner is 24/7? I'd feel suffocated.

    Out of interest is your dream job involve lots of paperwork?
    No.
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    (Original post by im so academic)
    Rather you subtly admitting that you're too incompetent to be able to stay in your dream job.
    Oh you're so nice. I'm guessing you have no idea of a perfect partner so this isn't too much of an issue eeeeh
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    I kind of think that if I had the perfect partner, they would understand you'd want a perfect career...

    But if I had to choose, I think I'd choose the perfect career.
    I want to make something of myself, and achieve things.
    And if it was a perfect career, I wouldn't find it tedious and boring because I'd enjoy it so much.
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    (Original post by im so academic)
    Don't you think it would do you some justice actually taking some reflective time out about what you want to do in life?
    This would probably be very beneficial, but it's hard to fit in work experience when you're trying to keep a job. I would've honestly done so this year if I could have fit it in. I'm gonna use my time at uni, with internships, volunteering opportunities and the like, to figure out what I want. In the meantime, I don't think getting a degree in English from Leeds will hurt me, whatever path I choose to take
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    (Original post by Muffinz)
    This would probably be very beneficial, but it's hard to fit in work experience when you're trying to keep a job. I would've honestly done so this year if I could have fit it in. I'm gonna use my time at uni, with internships, volunteering opportunities and the like, to figure out what I want. In the meantime, I don't think getting a degree in English from Leeds will hurt me, whatever path I choose to take
    I'm not talking about work experience. I'm talking about taking an hour or so, no distractions, pen and paper and actually thinking what you could do with your life.
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    (Original post by im so academic)
    I'm not talking about work experience. I'm talking about taking an hour or so, no distractions, pen and paper and actually thinking what you could do with your life.
    I could do that. Thanks.
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    (Original post by Muffinz)
    I could do that. Thanks.
    Great news!
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    Im not a relationship material, I want to travel, see the World...

    If I had to choose FUTURE/PERFECT PARTNER, I would choose FUTURE because I am just not willing to sacrifice my future for someone who might be the ideal partner one day, and leave me day after..
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    (Original post by AlexejKir)
    Im not a relationship material, I want to travel, see the World...

    If I had to choose FUTURE/PERFECT PARTNER, I would choose FUTURE because I am just not willing to sacrifice my future for someone who might be the ideal partner one day, and leave me day after..
    Yeah, I agree.

    I wouldn't want to be stuck in the house all day. No, I'm travelling all over.
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    (Original post by Kiirk)
    Okay you may share it with the world, but on a shallow level, whereas a partner will be able to be shared much deeply.
    What bull****. What if they don't give a damn about my job?

    I guess the retirement will probably raise to 75 by the time you get to retire.
    Still be working until I die.

    Why would you work till you die? The general consensus is that people look forward to retiring. You are an anomalie, your saying this to be awkward, let's see you say this 50 years down the line.
    Because I have a passion for what I want to do.

    Job not 9-5? Yet you tried arguing that you would feel suffocated by a partner 24/7?Are you arguing against your self now?
    No.

    A perfect partner would not suffocate you, hence the name "perfect" or did you overlook that?
    A perfect partner would not be around me 24/7.

    You may be set your career is your life, and indeed it's a huge part. But you are foolish in thinking it is your whole life. Your socialisation has led you to believe that is the point in living.
    Well what other "point" is there?

    A partner is someone you want to share your life with, if you feel a career can replace a partner you are so wrong.
    Why? Who said you are right?

    You can continue to think up ridiculous examples of what a career is, but you are starting to charter into areas which are not part of a career.
    ???
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    (Original post by im so academic)
    Yeah, I agree.

    I wouldn't want to be stuck in the house all day. No, I'm travelling all over.
    Exactly, Im used to travel, thats just the way it is, and I love it!
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    we all smell of curry and we cannot change that !!! i want to own a curry shop and corner shop but my arranged marriage wife wont let me : (
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    Of course. I would never leave job. money most important thing. However in a way sex can be morally pleasing and exciting so i would leave it for the pleasure. Not in a bad way. But in a pleasing and allegorising way.
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    (Original post by Kiirk)
    Well obviously they wouldn't be a perfect partner then!

    Please enlighten me into what a career has that a partner does not.
    *Help the world
    *Satisfy my intellect
    *Fulfil my ambitions
    *Meet new people
    *Explore the world
    *Have independence

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