A few months ago I drunkenly kissed my housemate. The next day I told him that I only saw him as a friend (although he wanted to pursue it futher). Our friendship went back to being relatively normal until a few weeks ago when I met someone else on a night out.
Now every time I get home he is quizzing me about where I've been and with who and what I did. At first I thought it was because he was concerned for me but now its just getting annoying!
More recently when he's really drunk he will keep on asking me whether he stands a chance with me again and whether he 'can be next in the queue' and acts all sleazy around me and makes me feel really cheap, dirty and guilty for going out and having a good time. And its starting to get me down.
I have made it quite clear on many occassions I see him as no more than a friend but this behaviour is making our day to day relationship (and the general feeling in the house) strained and awkward.
I would like to know how to tell him to back off, but in a nice way so as not to create even more of an atmosphere in the house and so I dont hurt his feelings!
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- 17-03-2011 22:12
- 18-03-2011 00:33
- 18-03-2011 01:05
He is disrespecting you. You don't need to be polite.
- 18-03-2011 01:06
xxLast edited by Bakerzoid; 10-03-2012 at 04:17.
- 18-03-2011 16:51
It's difficult to confront him without creating any more tension in the house, I would really like to know why he is doing this though. Im glad people don't think I'm over reacting to the situation, which was my initial thought! Sometimes I think that I am too nice.
- 18-03-2011 18:24
He sounds like a major tool tbh. Talk to him about it when he's sober and tell him this behaviour is not acceptable x
- 18-03-2011 18:26
Just tell him to grow up he hasn't got a chance
- 18-03-2011 19:11
Tell him that kissing him was a drunken mistake, never happening again, and tell him to back right off. He's making living with you awkward as hell, you do not need to be polite here.
- 19-03-2011 01:55
Thanks guys if it happens again I will have to speak up! It's weird because when he's sober (and not constantly questioning me) he is a nice guy!