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    I've told a few people and I'm open about it if my parents wouldn't be able to find out but that's the problem, how do I come out as bi to my parents? Or at least my mum?

    My mum's friend recently came out as bi (she said she had a relationship with a woman and would again) and my mum thought it was really wrong that her friend said this because she's known her for 3 years and not said anything. All the while, I was sitting there, listening to her.

    I guess I've known for a long time but I've only admitted it to myself for the past 2 years however I've only started telling people (or admitting if they found out) so this really worries me that my mum will think the same! She didn't say there was anything wrong with being bi or lesbian or whatever, she just said it was wrong to come out as bi after 3 years of her friend saying nothing.

    I don't even know where I would begin on telling my mum I was bi. My dad isn't much of an issue, I doubt he'd need to know because he doesn't live with us
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    *bump* anyone?
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    I've no idea what i'd do but you might find better advice from those in the LGBT thread/society as some of them will have been/are in your shoes themselves. I'll try and find it for you..

    here: http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show...php?p=30313905
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    I think it's only relevant if you're about to get into a relationship with someone of the same sex. If that is the case then the best way to do it would be to introduce your partner to them as your boyfriend/girlfriend/whatever. If not then once you do enter a relationship with someone of the same sex you can always say to your mum that she shouldn't just have assumed you were straight. If you sit her down and explain properly if she causes a fuss then I'm sure she'd be understanding of your situation.
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    threesome?
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    Just say it as though it isn't a big deal. The sooner you say it, the faster they'll have their heads around it and you'll be able relax about it :-)
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    Just tell her. Then explain to your mum how you didn't say sooner because you weren't entirely comfortable/ready to accept it yet. If you explain your feelings to her she'll understand it better. She doesn't sound judgemental, just slightly oblivious. My mum was similar with me. Good luck
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    Thanks Sam! I really should get it over with but I'm so nervous it's unreal! Also, thanks for the link for the LGBT thread cause I couldn't find it anywhere! I'd rather my mum asked me and I just gave her the answer (anything to make it easier!) but that's never going to happen because she's only known me to date guys -_- thanks for the suggestions though, I'll just have to get over it at some point!
 
 
 
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