My best friend went out with my brother.

I want to know eveyones opinion on this, because last year my best friend came to me and asked me whether it was ok if she went out with my brother, i said yes reluctantly. They went out for a year and a half and have now split but not in a good way. This is has now made my relationship with my best friend rather ropey, but i'm getting along really well with my brother.

Should I have said no to them going out? and what should I do now????? :confused:

Reply 1

Little Girl Red

1

It was their own decision, and I say well done for letting them do what they felt was best!!!
What you should do now is just support your best friend, she will need your help, tell her that you're not taking sides and reassure her abuot what a brilliant person she is. If it was her fault that they split (cheating etc), maybe talk to her about it in general.
And just get on with your brother as usual, it is not your problem that they broke up is it? You're not really that invovled so dont worry about it. Again, if he was a pig to her, then talk to him about it in relation to women in general.

Reply 2

r0manticide17

3

not your problem. you couldnt say anything that would stop them. even if you said no, she mightve done it behind your back and it ended really badly. just talk to her about it. girls are always easier to talk to about these things, trust me on that one

Reply 3

SexyKe

1

It was good to say yes so you get rep for that! I think you should just explain to your friend thats it shouldnt affect your friendship. I hope it works out for you.

Reply 4

CherryGarcia

1

I think you cant say to them not to go out, beacuse u really cant decide for other people, waht they should do in thier lifes..try to accept it...and try to be friends with both of them, if they split up, they are not friends with each other but not with you...

Reply 5

leona

12

^ I agree, you wouldnt really have had the right to say no, so you did the right thing by saying yes. Unless your best friend did something really terrible to your brother, in which case you may want to think twice about having her as a friend, I see no reason why things won't work themselves out over time.

Reply 6

Sheen

11

everything will prob be fine in the end.
tho it was nice of you to let your best friend date your brother

Reply 7

leona

12

Sheen

everything will prob be fine in the end.
tho it was nice of you to let your best friend date your brother

''let''?

I don't think she really had a right to say no. Why would she want to?

Reply 8

Lettuce

OP

11

I did kind of feel obliged to say yes, they were happy i didn' t want to be the 'nasty' one by saying no you can't, but then again they were happy with each other and it showed, they seemed to have a good relationship when they were goin out. I've said to my friend i'll be there for her but.......... i'm not sure whether she is ignoring me, finds it awkward or what :questionm because she has said nothing about the two of them, bar today when she gave me back some of my brothers clothes to give back to him.

Reply 9

MNBStyle

9

Lettuce

I want to know eveyones opinion on this, because last year my best friend came to me and asked me whether it was ok if she went out with my brother, i said yes reluctantly. They went out for a year and a half and have now split but not in a good way. This is has now made my relationship with my best friend rather ropey, but i'm getting along really well with my brother.

Should I have said no to them going out? and what should I do now????? :confused:

No reason for you to say no unless you knew your brother was abit of a player or something or vice versa,
and why should your friendship with her now be dodgy? none of this was your fault after all

Reply 10

danni_bella

17

MNBStyle

No reason for you to say no unless you knew your brother was abit of a player or something or vice versa,
and why should your friendship with her now be dodgy? none of this was your fault after all