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    One group of friends (well, more people I occasionally hang around with, we've grown apart - actually because I got bored of going to the bloody pub every night) always, always ALWAYS go to the pub or stay in someone's room drinking, and are forever playing drinking games or doing drinking challenges, I have no idea how they afford it or how their livers can take it, these guys can have their monthly allowance of alcohol in one night and do it several times a week

    I'm not someone who goes out all the time, being an appreciator of quiet nights in but I still really would like to go clubbing every now and then, not asking to do it every night, like some people, but maybe once/twice a week/fortnight... and then I get responses like "can't afford it" when they go to tescos a couple of times a week and buy tons of junk food and energy drinks so they can do all nighters to get work done (and then not actually do any work...:rolleyes:) or even "I don't want to go out if I can't drink, and I don't have enough money for it"

    I really don't understand why alcohol is the be-all and end-all at uni, one of my friends was even told she was pathetic by a guy because she tried to stop him from pouring alcohol over something he'd set fire to!!! (he was drunk - she wasn't. He's actually always a massive douche to her about the fact she doesn't like drinking, no idea why she's still friend with him)

    I'm not like militant anti-alcohol, I know that it can make parties fun as it gets shy people to come out of their shells etc but I just don't understand why it's simply so important. YOU DO NOT NEED ALCOHOL TO HAVE FUN. IF YOU DO, YOU'RE BORING.
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    (Original post by Mm_Minty)
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    One group of friends (well, more people I occasionally hang around with, we've grown apart - actually because I got bored of going to the bloody pub every night) always, always ALWAYS go to the pub or stay in someone's room drinking, and are forever playing drinking games or doing drinking challenges, I have no idea how they afford it or how their livers can take it, these guys can have their monthly allowance of alcohol in one night and do it several times a week

    I'm not someone who goes out all the time, being an appreciator of quiet nights in but I still really would like to go clubbing every now and then, not asking to do it every night, like some people, but maybe once/twice a week/fortnight... and then I get responses like "can't afford it" when they go to tescos a couple of times a week and buy tons of junk food and energy drinks so they can do all nighters to get work done (and then not actually do any work...:rolleyes:) or even "I don't want to go out if I can't drink, and I don't have enough money for it"

    I really don't understand why alcohol is the be-all and end-all at uni, one of my friends was even told she was pathetic by a guy because she tried to stop him from pouring alcohol over something he'd set fire to!!! (he was drunk - she wasn't. He's actually always a massive douche to her about the fact she doesn't like drinking, no idea why she's still friend with him)

    I'm not like militant anti-alcohol, I know that it can make parties fun as it gets shy people to come out of their shells etc but I just don't understand why it's simply so important. YOU DO NOT NEED ALCOHOL TO HAVE FUN. IF YOU DO, YOU'RE BORING.
    Agreed :yep: it's easier said than done finding people in the minority with the same interests as you though!
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    (Original post by CookieDoughLove)
    Agreed :yep: it's easier said than done finding people in the minority with the same interests as you though!
    Yes, it does present an obstacle. Although having th same interests doesn't always means you will get on or will be able to see each other much...
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    (Original post by Mm_Minty)
    I'm not like militant anti-alcohol, I know that it can make parties fun as it gets shy people to come out of their shells etc but I just don't understand why it's simply so important. YOU DO NOT NEED ALCOHOL TO HAVE FUN. IF YOU DO, YOU'RE BORING.
    it's less about needing alcohol to have fun, more that, simple things done with alcohol become more fun.

    also i think things happen more spontaneously when you drink, like if you choose to go bowling or something then it may be fun but that's just it, it's bowling and then what. Whereas if you go to the pub you might start talking to new people, and the night can go anywhere.
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    I have that problem with my friends now, and I'm in high school. They drink, I don't. Therefore I rarely go out with them at night...
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    Don't worry, lots of people stay in and get high.
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    One of my friends which I have met this year doesn't stop moaning about her money situation and that she can't afford to do her washing for the week, however she went out 3 times last week and is going out 3 times this week as well. The money she is spending on nights out she could use a tenner or something of in order to do her washing or something!
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    Do you just not like going out to clubs? I noticed you said that you have a few drinks IN with them and get a bit drunk..

    I mean they can't JUST want to drink all the time. At my uni we were pretty full on with the drinking, there was generally alcohol involved most nights. Its not getting wasted half the time though, heading to the pub for a pint/glass of wine and chats; bottle of wine in with a film, obviously the crazy one every now and again!

    But you should just try to get a bit more involved with what they're doing,then they'll probably get more involved with what you're doing!
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    (Original post by CookieDoughLove)
    Getting people at uni to do anything besides drink?

    Seriously, it's starting to piss me off now. I've been here at uni for 6 months now, and i've been to the cinema a tonne of times.....all on my own.

    I'd love to have a night out with my mates, have a meal, go see a movie, go bowling, or whatever else anyone decided to throw in. But nobody seems interested unless it's a night out in the clubs or pubs. FFS! I can't be the only one having this problem?

    Pointless rant really......but I miss my Newcastle friends ......my mates who were capable of going for a cuppa, of going for a meal or to the cinema or shopping. Why is the majority of people at uni only interested in going out getting wasted?! .....don't get me wrong, I love a good booze up and getting pissed. But once every 3 weeks/a month. It's boring doing it all the time, but it's all anyone wants to do.

    Sorry for whinging folks but i'm a grump and feeling rather lonely tonight!
    try making friends with the MU crowd. i study there i find that quite a lot of people actually DO want to do better stuff with their life, only have no company (exactly what you're looking for)

    another smart way to find a proper cult of peopel is joining to right societies. the new writing soc, classics soc, photosoc, film soc, are fun and you'l meet alot of people like you

    i had the same problems i felt like i had to dumb myself down a lot when im with my flatmates and friends, but i found a way out!
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    God, it was like that at Portsmouth and one of the major reasons I left - I just didn't fit in because I didn't want to spend my life totally drunk or hungover, and I didn't have the money compared to their allowances from mummy and daddy!

    It really is all about branching out and finding other people to hang out with. Societies are usually the best way but it's just a case of getting yourself out there. Don't get too down about it, you will find people! My housemates this year are the same as me, and we'll usually go out on the piss one night every three weeks or so, but we'll also go for meals and the cinema and stuff :yep:
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    Hmmm, you sound quite unlucky. I was at Swansea and sure, my housemates and I did like the odd night out to the bars and then a club, but we also did lots of other things - cooking together, bowling, cinema occasionally, playing board games, watching DVDs on laptops together, playing squash (and pitch 'n' putt golf in the summer), shopping, trips out to various beaches for barbecues or swimming or just revision, quizzes at our local pub, meals out in town, or just hanging out in each other's bedrooms talking etc. What about joining the Film Soc if your uni has one, or other cultural societies? Their socials are bound to be more than just the bog standard bars and clubs...
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    I know what you mean, though I have been able to find people who don't like alcohol at all, so it is no longer an issue.

    Which Uni are you at?
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    It annoys the hell out of me that people at uni always want/wanted to go out and get hammered every night. It took me so long to find people who enjoyed going out for a coffee in the day, or spending the night doing things like playing board games, or just chatting and things like that.

    So many people seemed to think this was a really dull way to spend an evening, but its just fun and relaxing. Definitely nice to go out drinking from time to time, but not every dammed night.

    Grr :-p
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    (Original post by FormerlyHistoryStudent)
    Hmmm, you sound quite unlucky. I was at Swansea and sure, my housemates and I did like the odd night out to the bars and then a club, but we also did lots of other things - cooking together, bowling, cinema occasionally, playing board games, watching DVDs on laptops together, playing squash (and pitch 'n' putt golf in the summer), shopping, trips out to various beaches for barbecues or swimming or just revision, quizzes at our local pub, meals out in town, or just hanging out in each other's bedrooms talking etc. What about joining the Film Soc if your uni has one, or other cultural societies? Their socials are bound to be more than just the bog standard bars and clubs...
    Sounds like you're having a lovely time!

    I'm hoping my flatmates next year will be a bit better! If not I do plan on joining some societies next year!!
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    (Original post by CookieDoughLove)
    I go to MMU. I guess you're going to say well what do you expect? It's an ex poly, of course people are going to be ****ing around pissed all the time. I wouldn't blame you if you did........but i'm proof that us ex poly kids aren't all the same :yep:

    One of my friends goes to MMU and he barely drinks so you're not alone .

    I feel the same as you. Sometimes it feels like nobody really has any idea how to socialise without being drunk and a night out without an amazingly stupid drunken story is a night wasted. Most people want others to know that they are having loads of fun and going out all the time (hence people posting 100 pictures of the same night out on facebook). Going to the cinema and having a meal are both fun but whipping a camera out at the cinema to collect the 'evidence' is not really practical. I sound quite bitter, but I'm sick of people saying that they had a great night when they can't even remember what happened; whatever happened to just having a laugh with your friends over pizza and a good film :grin:? Surely nights out get boring if that's all you ever do?
 
 
 
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